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[kishoresoma]

"Healing begins with self-compassion and forgiveness. Recognize that you did your best in toxic circumstances, and that's enough. You were confused, distracted, and running on empty, but you survived. Reframe your regrets, acknowledge your strengths, and practice radical acceptance. You are not alone, and you are not to blame. Healing is possible, and it starts with being gentle with yourself."

[Lee-cfvp]

Whenever these people are around, it's like a black cloud. As soon as I get away from them my breathing gets better, my insides relax and happiness returns.

[vyn]

“Please try to remember that what they believe, as well as what they do and cause you to endure does not testify to your inferiority but to their inhumanity.” -JAMES BALDWIN

[CL-rote]

Thank you Dr. Ramani. Forgiving yourself is the hardest part❤

[LPoppy]

“Why was I so ick” thank you Dr. Ramani for addressing this

[michelleclarke]

Dr Ramani I love you, you have helped me so much. As a 50 year old adult I realised I was a narcissist abuse scapegoat by my Mother. That was 4 years ago & it’s better today but it was so cruel from I was a child. Today I’m slowly learning to love me & forgive me. God Bless you xx❤️☘️

[Blackcatsrlucky]

Thank you for this video Dr. Ramani❤ I'm struggling to forgive myself for hurting my kids and family, the ones who truly loved and cared about me, while I was in my narcissistic marriage. I never wanted to hurt my kids and family.. all I ever wanted was to have a loving marriage. So many regrets in these relationships but the regret of losing time with loved ones and not being able to show up for them is the biggest and most painful one.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

I totally needed to hear this right now as I feel so much grief seeing the truth through all the fog of abuse. I did do my best under toxic circumstances. Giving myself lots of grace compassion boundaries self care and kindness. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[pennyrico]

Oh my goodness, Dr Ramani - this is so exactly what happened in my life with my children. I grieve for what was lost and pain they have suffered. Narcissistic father who was also a 30-year career military man. Took me decades to learn what was going on.

[tongou]

I am exactly who Dr Ramani is describing 😭

[sevit.]

after listening to you for over 3 years, Dr. Ramani, you still amaze me with your content. it is proven over and over that i can never stop learning from you.

[Summer_Harvest]

Yes, have done this and really it comes down to putting them and their reasons for bad behavior first. Kicking yourself for what you could of done better if you would have only understood why they did what they did.

[JayHochstedt]

Not only does being in a narcissistic relationship lead to disorganization & confusion, but being in confusion also sets you up FOR narcissistic targeting. The narcissist always looks like they REALLY have it together. They appear to be very solid & super-competent, and since we’re confused, we want the clarity, not realizing how destructive that “clarity” is to anyway who falls into its grasp.

[SayaWithMother]

You described my life with a narcissist to a T and how I felt. I was so irritable, angry all the time, sad, anxious, and I wasn't the best mother to my daughter. Said and did some things I completely regret, and some I don't even remember saying or doing my my ex narc (her dad) saved texts I sent him and even recorded me. A friend finally pointed out that he was a narcissist (or she said he sounded like one) and I started doing research. I thought at the time that a narcissist was just someone that was really into themselves, mostly their physical appearance and my ex husband was the complete opposite of that. Very insecure about his looks, very socially withdrawn. After watching a lot of your videos, videos by others, reading articles, he fits the description of a covert/vulnerable narcissist to a T. And it is a nightmare trying to coparent with him!!! 😞 We've been divorced for 4 years now, he's already remarried (I'm single and loving it! So peaceful!) and I think she may be a narcissist as well. She doesn't have a very pleasant personality and my 10 year old daughter doesn't like her at all. Anyways, thank you for this video. I have beat myself up and wondered how I could have said some of the things I said, did some of the things I did, and sometimes not even remember it. I hate that others go through this as well but it's also comforting to know I'm not alone and I'm not a bad mother. I love my daughter more than anything in the world and I'm definitely not the same as I was 4-5 years ago. I've done a lot of work on myself and I'll always have more work to do but I'm progressing with the help of God. 🙏🏻 Thank you!

[suzyhomeacre]

So much lost time…
It’s hard to reconcile how much of myself that I gave away.
I’m very sad about it, but really trying to make the best of the rest of my time.

Peace & healthy love to us all. ☮️🫶🏻

[Mkgold]

Thank you for the reminder that I did the best with what I knew and my circumstances. My mind was consumed by this ex relationship and trying to be perfect. I’ve felt the guilt and working through this. 🙏🏻

[sparkygump]

The mistakes I made were based on thinking logically and my ignorance of narcissism. I know better now thanks to the awesome Dr. Ramani.

[shinysideup]

Beautiful message. Thank you for reminding us to forgive our own less than ideal actions, words, and thoughts. Self compassion is a hurdle for many of us. ❤

[floridanurse]

New video, awesome. Thank you for all that you have done for us suffering from narcissist abuse, my husband is a narc and so is his dad.

[tinazapata]

Thank you! I have been beating myself up for not being better for virtually everything in my life. ❤