7 Things You Don't Need to Justify To Anyone

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There are things you are likely justifying to others that you don't need to. There are many reasons we tend to justify things - but the most common one is because we are looking for the approval of others to build our self esteem and help us feel more confident in our decisions and, at a deeper level, in who we are, but what we don't realize is that this way of trying to build our confidence does not work. What does work is working on trusting ourselves more and approving of our own decisions more.

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[ixiec]

This video is a miracle. 33 years of my life revolved around justification. Now I'm making a change. Love this!

[dianep]

Being on disability I always felt I needed to justify it around people who stigmatize it (thinking I'm "riding on backs of taxpayers", a "vacation every day", not "willing to work", etc.). I used to stammer when they'd ask why I'm on disability, but now after learning about boundaries I just answer, "I won't bore you with my medical details". And if they press further, I say, "I don't discuss my medical with anyone but my doctor".

[thenextcobrakai]

I loved the “you don’t owe the world your beauty” quote it was so mind blowing.

[calmingbabysleep]

Thank you Julia!

1. The things that are important to you ( food, hobbies)
2. Your career
3. Your food choices.
4. Their appearance
5. Your goals and dreams
6. Why you are putting yourself first

[juliemarkham]

1. What's important to you, 2. Being yourself, 3. Career path, 4. Health choices, 5. Appearance, 6. Goals and dreams, 7. Why you put yourself first.

[taraelmegreen]

When I was leaving my abusive spouse after 28 years, your vids, knowledge and even the kindness in your voice helped me more than you will ever know. I still throughly enjoy your style, choices of vids and the way you share them. May God bless you for your effort to help others in this crazy ride of am sure I am not the only one who has found solace and peace in being a part of "your little community in this corner of the
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[thenicholashernandez]

Proving is like putting yourself in a way that whatever you are experiencing are still lies. I think the core message of this video is, never allow other people to make you feel guilty until proven innocent. You do not need to prove anything at the first place.

[Roxy]

Constantly trying to justify yourself to others is absolutely exhausting and soul- sucking. Why is it people expect me to justify standing up for myself? Yes, and how I look at the gym is no one's business because it's not affecting anyone else's workout!

[gloriaalmroth]

We don’t need to justify why we don’t want to drink

[jammyjay]

I found alot of people are very judgemental, they judge what we do and don't do so that's probably why we feel we have to justify ourselves.... I prefer to distance myself if these people keep on questioning me, it's none of their business....

[kashesan]

"Outsourcing our sense of self" Wow. That's great.

[mardellethomas]

This is a very important piece of the puzzle of establishing our identity. I have done some work in the last years to know who I am. Now I am training myself to not over explain my choices or not explain at all. Thank you for helping me to just be me.

[marybernstein]

Woman, I've seen many therapists in my life but you are one of the best. Thank you

[estherclark]

Yes, the other way around for me. They don't get to be snarky if I want cake & icecream while they're all getting seeds & spinach salad. So blessed for friends like that!

[FunnyBirdVideos]

Having been exposed to a person with narcissistic traits, I felt almost always having to justify my actions which of course is tied up with their insecurities. I sent flowers to a mutual friend who lost her mother and this other person (the narc) said I did it to show off/go over the top. I did it because I too have lost my mother and appreciated when others showed some loving words and actions. But I found myself having to justify myself, then felt awful if others did see me as a show off/insincere. I know now my actions were genuine and now hate the fact I stood there floundering and apologising. We should all learn these valuable lessons at a young age so we’re not having to justify to others and stand firm in our own decisions.

[keepitmovinginternational]

Its almost ridiculous that we have to be told these things yet your advice is invaluable ❤ People are bullies and im over it!

[venust.]

Great video! I would add one more thing: Don't justify or apologize for being educated. I see this ALL the time people feel judged if they use a fancy term or speak a foreign language. They always add something like "oh look at me, I'm smart pants..haha..." Even college teachers say something similar to that to students....That just sad. Be humble within reason, but also be proud of the learning work that you've done.

[stephanieolsen]

“Your allowed to show up in EXISTENCE…..” LOVE THIS. I love the things you say. These are great to hear!!

[rhondasaraullo]

Great discussion. I’m dealing with stepdaughters. After 22 years they have been so mean and critical and you have helped me lots tonight. From Australia xx

[pollytheparrot]

Amen to that..Im 35 yrs old, living with narc parents..and I'm done..God bless you Mam😍🤗❤❤🙏