7 Things You Shouldn't Feel Guilty For

Guilt is defined as a “feeling of deserving blame, anger, or shame, often evoked when we consciously hurt others with our words, choices, or actions”. Have you ever felt guilty or ashamed about something but didn’t understand why? While it’s certainly important for us to acknowledge when we’ve done something wrong and apologize for it, we sometimes find ourselves feeling guilty about things that we shouldn’t. Excessively feeling guilty and blaming ourselves for everything is an unhealthy attitude to have, and it often leads to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, and perfectionism. And if you’re not careful, it can worsen into behaviors of overcompensating and overthinking, as well as high levels of stress and chronic emotional distress. So we've made this video to help you identify the things you shouldn't feel guilty for.

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Vanessa Val
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[jiya]

1- NOT BEING PERFECT
2- ASKING FOR HELP
3- BEING SUCCESSFUL
4- SAYING NO WHEN YOU NEED TO
5- REMOVING YOURSELF FROM TOXIC PEOPLE AND SITUATION
6- ENDING TOXIC SITUATION
7- WANTING TO BE HAPPY

[sleepyote]

I feel guilty for *not* being happy because I feel like others have it worse and I'm just being "too sensitive".

[vxqliie]

This is my therapist I can literally make myself feel better listening to someone explaining me what I shouldn’t feel guilty for when I feel guilty whenever and wherever I want

Thank you, Psych2Go :)

[MrsHobbitFeet]

I feel guilty about mistreating my little brother when we were younger. I’m not the same person as before and try to move forward but I still hold the guilt and regret that I’ve ruined his childhood...

[fidgetspinner]

And I am feeling guilty for feeling guilty for these things now

[afc]

No guilt is forgotten so long as the conscience still knows of it. I wish everyone to live in all good conscience 🍀

[blendibisha]

I only feel guilty when I say "no" to others. I've gotten so used to just helping others every time that when i say no it just feels kind of wrong.
As for the other ones I don't the feel at all. I used to but ever since I changed the way I view the world and life this whole thing changed. Like how can you feel guilty for wanting to be happy. That is a necessary thing for everyone. Just be happy and let go of everything that is dragging you down. You owe that to yourself.

[ludwinc]

No one should feel guilty over what they like doing or their interests, it could seriously affect your lifestyle.

[dailydoseofmedicinee]

Regardless of where the guilt comes from, the stress of the guilt itself can have a serious effect on some people. While mostly psychological, some physical effects can include insomnia, a loss of appetite, and an overall dreary feeling.👍

[missrelaxed]

Mental health should be our first priority! Paying attention to Toxicity is definitely the last option!

[rosalindmichie]

I always feel bad for:
1. being caught up in others drama
2. not being perfect
3. asking for help
4. being successful
5. saying no
this video just made me feel so much better like I wasn't the only one and that it's ok to feel this way

[lenoresdiaries]

It's been ingrained so hard into my brain that art isn't a job, that everytime I sit down to write and draw to develop skills, I feel so guilty and like I'm wasting time.

[DiscipleOfHeavyMeta]

I feel ashamed for:
1. Choosing to do things that feel good instead of doing things that are productive.
2. Having a sex drive.
3. Having difficulty paying attention and perform to the level of a typical adult.
4. Thinking about myself and my own thoughts, feelings, wants and needs.
5. Not being someone better.

6. Existing.

[apoorva]

I'm not gonna lie, if psych2go wasn't there i would be lost....completely lost.
They help us understand us better
They love us
They care for us
They genuinely want to help people
Thank you so much psych2go
You mean a lot to us. Thank you for your love and support 💜

[thick__B_a_slim_chick]

In my opinion on a 34 years I've been on this Earth I realized in the past 15 years after living through a 7-year toxic relationship is to always number one keep self Mental Health First, 2 always maintain your boundaries, and three love unconditionally meaning love yourself unconditionally. No matter what happens in the end you'll always have yourself. It's OK to fall in love but NEVER forget to love yourself, because if you can't live yourself how can anyone else 💖 you the way you're meant to be loved.

[alyssalarasati]

Whenever i started to feel sad, anxious, or even panic. This channel is always the right place to go to so that i can release all these negative feelings away. Words can never describe how thankful i am to whoever makes this channel. You helped me so much! And i want to tell you that please keep going because i know that not also me but there are also lots of people that’s been saved by the videos you make. SO KEEP GOING!! I SUPPORT YOU!!

[PracticalInspiration]

Number 2 (asking for help) is something I and many need to work on. We struggle alone, when we could get support when needed

[Snow_Sailor]

I feel guilty for enjoying a certain fandom.. this video didn't help with that exactly but it still helped.

[kyleangelo]

Can’t agree more with number 5 💁🏻‍♂️ I just hate it when I’ve tried helping many times already and when the time comes that I’m genuinely not available or exhausted to help they will guilt trip you like you just mistreated them so bad 💀

[vampiredaddy]

Why does this sound like it’s talking to me?