5 Ways Narcissist Self-Destruct

In this video, '5 Ways Narcissists Self-Destruct,' we take a deep dive into how narcissists self-sabotage and unravel. Whether you're dealing with a narcissist friend or a covert narcissist, understanding their behaviors can be enlightening. We explore the delicate balance of their ego and the things that hurt a narcissist, potentially leading to their self-destruction. Plus, we uncover the web of lies and smear campaigns that often accompany narcissism.

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*In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist

[percystreet]

My first clue was deflection tactics in arguments - I could never get my wife to resolve even the smallest issue because she’d deflect and after 3 hours of argument we’d be talking about something completely different

[stuartr]

It was the realisation that it wasn’t personal that helped me get over it. I cried for the loss of the relationship, and accepting that the relationship had never even been real anyway was kind of a double blow. But I’ve accepted it and moved on. I’m ok now, and just have to deal with ‘normal’ life dramas and issues - it’s such a relief.

[mzneal]

There will NEVER be closure w/a narcissist. My final closure was when he passed away. He went mentally insane at the end when he knew he no longer had control over me. He still tried to destroy me but he failed. For my sanity and to move forward the best decision I made was/is therapy (going on 4 yrs now). Oh the gaslighting, lovebombing, trauma bonding, sexual exploitation but no physical sex (withheld as punishment) lied every time he opened his mouth and he was cheating on me for our entire marriage (10 yrs). You can not fight or argue with a narcissist, they will use anything/anyone against you (anything you ever trusted them with). No contact is really the best way to go and remove all mutual friends from social media, do not tell anyone where you live unless you want the narcissist and their family/friends to stalk you and report back. Take care of yourself, mentally and physically. It's not a 1 and done, moving forward is going to be difficult but you are stronger than you think. Be blessed and I'm so proud of you. You got this, 1 day, hour, minute, second at a time. You 1st everything else 2nd. Stay safe, strong and blessed

[dervish]

My ex has burned a lot of bridges. Numerous ex partners, business associates and the religious organization where we originally met. She’s moved multiple times.

When she started devaluing me, I told my best friend what she was doing to me and he told me “she sounds like a sociopath” (he’s been in a couple of toxic relationships himself). Thats what ultimately led me to the rabbit hole of researching narcissism, and unfortunately she fits the description of narcissism perfectly.

[nicolajirving]

When I told him he is a narcissist, his response was "you dont even know what it means" wow! He is on self destruct and blowing up everything in his path. He looks a mess, dependent on alcohol, taking new supply along a dark path (I predicted as much) but I did warn her. I am healing every day, my health is better, my life is better. Be kind to yourselves ❤

[saipoorsina]

Roughly 15 years ago on my lunch break I started googling my husband’s behavior. I was at a loss and felt like I was losing my mind. The term narcissist popped up and eureka! It described his tendencies, my in-laws behaviors, and the effects of the gaslighting I’d been subjected to for years. It’s been a long road but I’m finally content and free of the control and self doubt that had been heaped upon me by my spouse. Protect your soul and listen to your gut. You’re stronger than you realize and when the chips are down the fight in you will keep you grounded in the truth and reality of your circumstances, it will move you forward to a healthier tomorrow. You have to know that you have been the stronger one all along.

[DeeEll]

OMG you described my father exactly @3:41 😳He was always a charmer until he got older and no longer had his looks. You can only be so charming pushing around a walker with an oxygen tank 🫤

[debbiecarter]

I was recently diagnosed with Kidney cancer. When I came home and told my husband, he said, "I've already accepted your death. Death is a part of life". I didn't know what to do. I needed a shoulder and some empathy, instead, he told me that I was "going to just use my diagnosis of cancer, for sympathy." He told me I was weak.

[heretolearn-mv]

I stumbled across Rebecca Zung's videos on narcissism. The light came on, and I felt like I wasn't crazy after all when I heard another human being describe the behavior I had been dealing with. It was a beautiful realization! 😃❤🙏✌

[juliocastillo]

How I stumbled upon narcissism? Same way than you -and perhaps everyone: Noticing that something was fishy in my relationship and tried to figure out. After long hours of research from different sources, VOILA! everything fell into place...

[Andronicus]

My experience with Narcissists is that they are good at first impressions, however most people usually catch on to them sooner or later. I agree that Narcissists often self destruct, they have trouble learning or improving, as they think they're perfect already. It ain't pretty what can happen to these people, and also old age and death are a insult to their grandiose self image!

[LetMeBeLighter]

I don't see my ex-narc self-destructing. In fact, he's managed to make all my "friends" (they obviously weren't. It still hurt, though, a lot) leave me and become his friends. They gave him a raise so I had to step down because I didn't want to be in the same field as his. And all this after all this friends knew we ended things and I said he didn't treat me right, nothing else, only that statement. To me, I've lost it all and he's at the top of the world. I'm alone and he's surrounded by "my friends". So, yeah, at this point I think he wins at life. Not that I would ever want to be like him, I rather die, but the unfairness of it all makes me so sad I just want to crawl under my sheets and never leave again.

[cathie]

I stumbled upon narcissism when Chris Watts killed his family. They said he was a narcissist and his personality was just like my husband!!! I went to a therapist. She validated my suspicion. I’m not living with him but he still tricks me into contact. We have a house to sell together and as far as he’s concerned it’s my problem. he’s the most manipulative person on the planet. 30 years of hell.

[jainorr]

I googled “husband always criticizes me”

[dfybatz]

I discovered the narcissistic connection with my ex when I looked into "silent stalking". After the breakup, she kept creeping my social media, so I actually put out an olive branch saying if she wanted to talk I would hear her out. No reply. Yet, the stalking continued. That was odd, so in researching that I learned about covert narcissism and so many things -- past and present -- suddenly made sense.

[CindyLivingstone-sqzq]

My narc brother once said to me “I’m a sociopath, I don’t have feelings.” When he said this, I looked it up and that was how I came across narcissism. He knows something is wrong with him but he doesn’t care to fix it. It’s crazy watching him because he hurts those around him, then when he gets called on his poor behaviour, he rages (clearly he has that “feeling”), then acts like it was our fault he can’t self regulate. If you knew you were a “sociopath” why would you tell someone? I was already on guard around him, after that comment it increased 100 fold. I found the entire thing deeply disturbing. He would also tell me that he would be patient waiting to get revenge on people so when they least expected it he would retaliate, even if it “hurt him” in the process. These were his exact words. Why an earth would I want to be around someone like that??? I knew “sister status” wouldn’t mean one darn thing if I did something he considered a threat toward himself.

[alicec.]

Your channel was the first answer I got for covert narcissism. You have no idea how much you helped me to get away from that situation! Thanks

[anthonyleveille]

It started with me searching being stalked and harassed. Then I stumbled across targeted individuals, which then led me to finding narcissism and now I'm exposing and healing.

[NSEasternShoreChemist]

For me? It was Kati Morton's video, where I learned that for people who've suffered emotional abuse, the concept of someone being kind and loving may be foreign and scary. That was what sold me: ALL my relationships that failed were with people who treated me kindly, and the only reason for that was that I'd experienced emotional abuse. A bit more searching via the Narcissist Family Files and I found that I have a covert narcissistic father.

[jneubauer]

It's important to realize they often become narcissists from trauma. They build their false self out of defense as children. Yes there are some who are that way from being placed on a pedestal but most often it's from trauma. That doesn't mean they can see themselves and change. It just may help people realize they are the way they are for a reason.