16 Gaslighting Examples That Narcissists Use To Manipulate You

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If you've experienced narcissistic abuse, you may feel like you're dealing with lasting damage to your mental health. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling powerless, confused, and deeply hurt. But there is hope for healing and recovery. In this video, we'll explore the brain damage caused by narcissistic abuse and show you how to reverse its effects.

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[CarolineStrawsonHealing]

I hope you enjoyed the video 🤓
I think you'll love it! ❤

[dawnl]

Sadly, I have heard all of these phrases from my husband. The most annoying are the “I didn’t do that” when I literally watched him do something! I am like, don’t tell me what I didn’t see with my own eyes?! I can’t wait to get off this rollercoaster. Thank you for this video.

[lisabishop]

My husband doesn’t say I’m imagining things, he says don’t be ridiculous I’m just a nice guy and you are trying to start a fight

[klwatts]

All 16 for 27 years. Landed me in a mental facility this past March. I finally kicked him out July 5 2022. Now he is attacking from every angel. If I survive this I need to become a life coach. Need all the help I can get!

[agohansen]

I had a lot of " I never said that", no one likes me and they wonder why he married me. The twist and turns. I thought I had the problem and still feel guilty after 2 years divorced.

[lcblue]

I heard so many of these and over the course of our marriage I became so confused. I constantly questioned myself and tried so hard to please him. Silly me! I realise now what was going on but it took me 30 years to work it out! 🤦‍♀️

[minniek]

"I'm sorry you're not feeling well"
and "What's happened to you" are 2 of my husbands favorites.

[dianaoneil]

I wish I had a $ for every time I was told, “I never said that.” Control and manipulation for 30 years so now I’m finally walking away n getting a divorce.

[victoriyafoster]

“Something is really wrong with you!” And this one: So and so know what you are like and they are not on your side!” And many more.

[KnowledgeisPower]

- I was just joking..
- I didn't do that (when you saw them doing it)
- you're imagining things (when you saw them doing something kind of wrong)
- you were there with us (others were there when your accused of something)
- don't be so sensitive (you have a right to your feelings)
- you have issues ( you have right to your feelings)
- you're upset over nothing
- you twisted it (when you are speaking your truth and they don't like hearing that)
- you need help (when your speaking about your feelings/needs)
- is it that time already (here we go again, dismissing your feelings and needs)
- always something with you (when your are talking w your feelings/needs)
- I never said that
- no one likes you (isolating you)
- there's always drama with you

[monstercore]

Last December I started dating a guy who I thought was a close friend of mine and he was a complete jerk to me by disregarding my feelings and everytime I voiced my irritation he would shrug it off as me overreacting and calling me emotionally unstable.

[haneczka]

My husband ruined our wedding day, because after ceremony I was spending too much time with my best friend who came from other country to be with me that day. ‘Your place should be next to your husband’… of course it’s mine and even my friends fault. Nobody understood why he made such a drama. And even if he felt a bit lonely he could have told me normally. He gave me ‘silent punishment’, so of course I begged for some information, and later in front of everyone he told how I neglected him. His mother literally took his 38years old son on the lap, gave him kisses and stroke his head. Today after another fight yesterday, gaslighting, and verbal abuse I’m watching these videos and trying to find the strength. Its only 4 months after wedding, and I finally understood how many times he gaslighted me. I couldn’t even post a photo of myself without him on the picture, in wedding dress, or any other photo from different occasions without him saying, who were you with: alone or with me?!’ ‘All what matters to you is how you look like and what people say’. Unfortunately we have to wait until we’re married for one year before we can get divorced, but I’ll try to find another place to live and even find another job, cause we work in the same place. And yes, he dropped ‘I love you’ on the first date, ‚I want to give you everything’ ‚I want to make little copies of you with you’ on the next dates.
Thank you for this channel ❤

[kimberlydunn]

Heard all of them. Was always told it was me, my period was always used against me - it's that time again you always get sensitive/emotional now. I got lucky in that through work I was building my confidence, so I stood up to him a few too many times so he did actually leave. I'm finding it hard to work through how I feel and accept just how much mental damage he has left me with and how it affected my work and friendships. 20 years seems like a lifetime to work through

[elainelewis]

I have heard these in previous and present - thank you Caroline for giving me strength to know that I can heal and that I am not going mad and it is not me x

[lauradanielson]

Wow. I can relate to all! I heard constantly that, "I'm crazy. I'm insane or when I was younger it was, you must be on your period". He'd take credit for the things I made happen.

[CYSYS]

Classic gaslighting scenario:

Gaslighter: *Throws bullshit at gaslightee*
Gaslightee: *Gets pissed off over bullshit*
Gaslighter: "WhY aRe YoU bEiNg DeFeNsIvE"

[meercat]

A big one Narcs say is “You’re Crazy”-how they all say this in abuse... Great to see you on YouTube as I’ve been listening to your Podcast. Thankyou Caroline for everything! 💕🌸🌸🌸💕

[lindapodgorski]

Literally had all 16. Wow! Thank you for sharing.

[gardenfaerie]

I have heard all of these! It's so cruel and demeaning. It's like they have the same handbook on how to abuse that they use. Sick!

[angieburnett]

Thank you for this list, Miss Caroline. I reacted to nearly everything on this list. I remember just like yesterday, the self-doubt, confusion, and internal chaos. (He even tried to take credit for things I was a fan of BEFORE I met him, in which I know I'm not alone on that--all I could think during those times was, "What an idjit!!" lol) One of the things that made me realize what was going on--my bookshelves were FILLED with self-help, self-improvement, etc. HIS bookshelf had dust bunnies. Well, when you know everything you don't need to read, right? I'm also going to order your book, I can't wait to read--it's always so good to know you're not alone & someone else has had a similar path. You're strong, beautiful & wonderful & I very much appreciate your channel. Love, hugs & God Bless you 💕💕