How to deal with a malignant narcissist.

[realhealing]

No contact was my only option. They are dangerous and very vindictive.

[shannoni]

I went no contact with mine and he ended up getting a gun and broke into my home .... They are very dangerous people

[Prometheuspredator]

Thanks, Jim. Everything you said is very true. Best thing to do is separate yourself and go no contact. Literally drop them like a pancake. Drop them and say nothing to them that you are terminating the relationship. I discarded and dropped my malignant narcissist "Golden Child" brother this way. The malignant narcissist is the worst type of narcissist on the Narcissistic Personality Disorder Spectrum. To put it into perspective, a malignant narcissist can "eat up" and spit out other types of narcs. They have no problem taking on covert, overt, vulnerable and other type of narcs. They look forward to someone/anyone challenging them as they see themselves as a Beast and undefeatable. They are on the highest level or "ultra" on the NPD spectrum. The malignant narcissist is truly evil incarnet. They are a great danger to others, community and society.

[michaellendzian]

Listen to this one a dozen times until it is memorized. These people are lit sticks of dynamite.

[nellythenarcissist]

The malignant I knew would just say “and what do I care what anyone thinks?! I will do whatever I want.”

[hbgriss]

This can backfire as well for the wrong reasons.

[florence]

Reverse Psychology and the Grey Rock Method works for me and they HATE me for it! Now I see they are very careful when trying to approach me.

[pattip]

Don't say anything like this. Very dangerous people will interpret this as a threat.

[Infrared]

They will hurt you in ways you never thought they were clever enough to pull off. If you want to take a swing at them, make sure their retaliation is worth going after them.

[abryanna]

Mine would say “tell them then! Stop protecting me.” 😅

[americanpatriot]

My mother will scream through the neighborhood and make herself look like a moron. She is mean as a rattlesnake and she doesn't care about anybody but herself! I'm having to move away from her because she got mad about me not wanting to throw MY stuff away. It's that bad!😢 They are horrible people!!!😢😢😢

[effiemaccheyne]

My person is also an evangelical.🙄I started saying, " Is this how a Christian should behave?"
I'm adding this approach now " What would God think if he/she saw you now?"

[askew]

I set my boundary a few days ago after 3 horrible years…he has requested now multiple times, that I do the worlds favor and “off” myself.

[annesweeney]

No our Narcissis doesn’t give a flying flip who hears him curse . He does t care

[Injamamul-jswp]

beware, they'll even say that I'm your parent pls tell me what you are upto and what bothers you... Then they'll use this informations against you. They have no moral conscience.

[ohheyykristina]

This can be dangerous but it only works on the super covert narc.
I’ve used this same line in the past and my ex asked if I was threatening him. He then threatened to tell them that I had said something negative about them or about a time I was dishonest. He will tell them half truths but there’s just enough truth that they will believe it all.
For example: once my brother showed up unannounced. I was fighting with my ex and had been crying. So I texted my ex and said I wasn’t answering the door bc I wasn’t in the mood to deal with him right now.
He uses very innocent times like that to threaten me. He says he’ll tell them times I’ve done something like that to show I’m fake or I don’t want them around.
I’ve learned to never trust him with anything you’d normally be able to confide in a partner. I can’t tell him someone got on my nerves or someone was being too loud or the neighbors cutting their grass at 6a is the bane of my existence because he loved to tell them and make it appear that I’m fake and dislike them. It’s not that at all. I can love someone or even like them personally and dislike things they say or do and let it go. The only person I would’ve ever said anything to would’ve been my partner bc sometimes it feels nice to have that one person you can trust with things you can’t say to anyone else but he’s taught me if I don’t like every quirk or habit someone does or want to see/speak to others regardless of what’s going on in my life or how I feel then I must be fake and not be a true friend/family.
I suppose that’s part of the invalidation? They try to invalidate everything you feel so that you learn to put your own wants, needs and desires aside so you don’t dare ever believe that you matter.

[banderaitaly]

No contact is how you deal with a malignant narcissist mother. Good luck.

[pilarq]

I reminded my ex roommate that three misdeamnors = one felony and that he'd already committed two misdeamnors against me, he shut the eff up... for awhile. He works massage for Massage Elements. Pay attention if someone seems real intense, overly helpful - they're overcompensating for their shame and their internal dialogue PRESSURE. They're fighting to prevent exploding

[MikaComments]

What do you do if your own child
(in late teenage years) is a
malignant narcissists ?

[slu]

They may not be antisocial as in APA definition, but they had gang experiences when younger ! That make them potentially dangerous, pairing with the Narcissist trait. //And in both cases I know, Narc or not, their Moms are very truly loving, not blaming. But that ! make the person retain his/her bad tendency.