The Mindset That Makes You Socially Attractive

This mindset helped me make new friends pretty effortlessly.

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[ColeHastings]

What other tips you guys got for meeting people?

[NickNotas]

Make your only goal to connect, rather than get an outcome. Basically, be curious about others and excited to share yourself to see if you two COULD get along. If you're focused on getting a number or getting them to like you, you will act in desperate ways and people will pick up on that. -Nick

[azazefer]

Knowing that social skills are my absolute weakness, I really appreciate videos like this sooo much. Thank you cole!

[ClayGoldman]

Had a great time chopping it up bro!


Any of you guys reading this, dont ever be afraid to go out by yourself and see who/what you can run into!

[ashwinaditya]

I used to be an introvert but now I am great at conversations and making friends. Infact so good at conversations that sometimes I have to be make excuses/be rude to leave conversations midway cause otherwise people will keep engaging me into chitchat (not exaggerating or bragging, and yes I used to have social anxiety when I was a student). My advice in addition to Cole's advice would be to enjoy the conversation and reduce your internal filter. Present your true self and thoughts out and leave it to people whether they like you or not. Most people are not aware about the amount of fun in conversations if they look for funny things/situations in other people. Also you can learn a lot about human nature when u engage in talking with random people. You'll realize almost all of us are same, driven by same kind of emotions.

[vinylmaster]

after becoming a young 18 yr old bartender I can say it really has opened up my eyes to a lot of different realities, it's so cool meeting a bunch of people all the time and just finding out how odd the universe really can be, and the main way how i get into convos is just observerving and listening then i usually comment or question on the topic then it all just becomes natural from there, just let it flow and see where it ends up, just gotta be open if that makes sense

[davidkonevky]

Oddly enough, I have the exact opposite problem. I tend to have better social skills and confidence with total strangers than with the same classmates I have been with since kindergarten. Having a fresh canvas where the perception of others is easily maleable is WAY easier than dealing with people who have pre-conceived notions of who you are. For these reasons, I've daydreamt so many times about going back in time or moving to a new country totally alone. In some ways. I feel like the people who know me the best are the ones who have seen the least of me, ironically enough.

[avinashprasadfilms]

How to improve social skills
Step 1: become a youtuber
Step 2: get recognised by fans
Step 3: Social Skills

[spooky]

Being a military brat, moving to different places every 2-3 years. I never learnt how to make deeper connections or maintain friendships. The only 2 good friends are military brats themselves and they moved out as well. Now when I finally settled for a while for college and then covid hitting I realized I am alone. Felt sad initially untill I discovered that maybe that is a superpower? Not being attached to people and having nothing to lose. Gotta try interacting with people in this sense.

[thebalanceofgoddesssgods.]

I love going up to people and having random conversations. My thing to work on is maintaining the conversation and not making it about me.

[saadzainnn]

was a bit skeptical at first, but this is a real mindset shift, thankyou once again cole for inspiring :)

[Skyler]

I just feel alienated watching this. A good-looking, popular Youtuber goes to a bar where he's recognized by another popular youtuber and has a great conversation. I'm a nobody, and to be honest this whole "realty seeker mindset" sounds like BS to me. The conversation was good because he can help you and you can help him. You guys are both successful. for average folks who dont have a lot going on, nobody talks to us, and it's hard to find a reason to talk to people when it just goes nowhere every time.

[xano]

A french writer, Charles Pépin, wrote that truely meeting someone means entering in a totally new and different world that affects you.

[phynyxsound]

"Framing" is everything. You can frame something as positive or negative. That's your choice, your mindset, your framing power.

[TheMambaAtlas]

An Esports lounge sounds like heaven...wish Houston had one!

[_Pestarzt_]

Once you've had the guts to start the conversation with someone I have two tips from my time as a salesman (also works for dating). Ask open questions, so questions that cannot be answered with yes and no. Cole gave some good examples like "How did growing up in that city mold you?". And secondly once you've asked, shut up and listen. Its very tempting to take over as soon as you've found something you can answer, but hold back. People will perceive you as a good listener and tell you lots of things that you would have missed out on if you interrupted them immediately. Then you will be able to hook on those things with a new question or giving your opinion.

[ed-mhzl]

As someone who does this naturally I can say that it's still hard to find people that are interested in my life. Often times it turns into a monologue rather than a conversation.

[Carlosocc]

Yesterday I had a date with a girl that is friend of my friend... I did all those questions that let me discover her mind and you know that you do the right questions when someone gets exited and has a genuine smile before answering.

[alexiryo]

I’m a cashier and I often hate dealing with customers but when I choose instead to not instinctually get annoyed by their existence and instead see them as an individual and a reality like you said, I gain so many unique connections and experiences just from talking and connecting in the few minutes we interact. A lot of change really does have to do with just choice

[SamuelGfeller]

I feel such a strong difference now between "true, genuine" moments, conversations where you are fully here in the present moment and "fabricated" ones where people don't follow their heart in the actual moment but rather an image of a goal they previously created in their head and try to follow.

Yesterday talking about it with a friend we formulated it like this: when your thoughts and words make one, meaning you directly say what you think and its what the innser self wants to exteriorise without second thinking it, thats a true conversation / moment with someone.