How to Help Someone Who Self-harms

Do you love someone who self-harms? In this video Jacob Sparks, a therapist at Sunrise Residential Treatment Center, shares how you can help someone who self-harms.

[franekrojek]

I spent like 3hrs watching these kind of videos. My best friend told me she has self harm issues. Damn I love her. She is really the best possible friend I could ever imagine. I could never imagine her being so sad, she is always happy, joyful and full of energy. With shed in my eyes right now, I really don’t want her to be so sad, and self harm, I want her to be happy and live her life. If you’re reading this I’m always there to talk. ❤️

[ianbarnard]

What do I do when my friend who self harms doesn't want me to help and just wants to be alone saying she can fix it herself?

[zohargazit]

To anyone who cuts please listen in my country someone organized a project called the butterfly project it had two goals to awareness about self harm into stop people from Self harming anybody can participate from anywhere basically what you do is you ask someone To draw butterfly where you self harm that butterfly is now the person who drew you the butterfly if you cut where are the butterfly is or in the area of the butterfly the butterfly dies You could also consider it as the love that the person has for you and if the butterfly dies with the butterfly represents dies I know it sounds kind of stupid but my friend used to self harm and it helped her a lot the butterfly didn’t always stay alive But the more I Kept drawing a butterfly on her hand The more she slowly started to doing it less and less The person who organized the product also used to Self harm and that’s why it was important that she organized this project i’m so happy that my friend is finally clear of self harm I just found out one of my friends started self harming to guess I got a lot of butterflies to draw and a lot of listening to do I hope this helps you and even if it doesn’t I hope it was at least an interesting story if you cut or if you feel suicidal Just know I’m here for you I love you and care about you and appreciate you you’re amazing

[ollieverse]

I just noticed scratches on one of my friends arms, and I asked other friends about it and they're just like "yeah, I saw it, I think she's self harming" but none of them is doing anything to help her.

[Anasnovotny]

We were getting our vaccinations today at school and my long time friend, was freaking out because she self harms where the needle needs to be. I didn’t know she was self harming until today and I told one of my friends and she was putting a lot of pressure on me to go to an adult straight away but I just don’t feel comfortable doing that yet and I just want my friend to know that there are so many people that love her and care for her. Tomorrow I’m going to talk to her about going to a trusted adult but the thing is at home things aren’t so good for her with her parents and I think she just feels alone and it’s really hard to just go to an adult a be like “ I cut myself”. It can be super embarrassing for the person.

[ana-stzj]

i have an internet friend who self harms and i'm so worried about her. i don't know how to help her, i can only help her when she tells me that she's not feeling well, but she doesn't always. i'm so scared that she might cut too deep and i could never stop blaming myself if that happens.

[finney]

Watching this for myself right now because nobody really cares about me that much to even watch a video to inform themselves about what I’m going through. Sometimes you just need to suck it up, thanks for the video

[monikaf.]

It's really nice that here are so many people who wants to help their friends whille they are struggling. I hope everything will get better soon for them♡
I started self harm a lot in past few weeks because thing are getting harder. But I was doing it for almost two years before. I told my friend almost year ago that I'm doing it and she said nothing and guickly starts to talk about something completely different. Two of my other friends know it too but nobody try to help me. I know its hard to help someone, but it makes me really sad, because i thought that they would at least try to do something, but they never spoke about it or ask me how I felt since i told them. And I stay guiet too because I don't want to bother anyone. I just feel alone and really sad, that my friends don't care about me.

[gumi]

a lot of my friends cut themselves and I just don't know how to tell them that i'm here, and they can tell me anything, and its no bother because I know that its a common issue to think everyone is bothered by you talking about ur problems and you can "deal with it yourself" and the dealing with it is cutting. I just want to be there for them, I wish I could just give them all a big hug and help them and take away the pain. I wish I could just say that its going to be okay and they all of a sudden somehow they stop. Im worried about them, and im scared every day before I go to school that one of them isnt going to be there anymore, so when I see them all it's a huge releif. It's causing me to worry a lot on weekends and breaks so I find myself messaging them every single day to check up on them. I just... wish I could fix it all.

[move-im-gay]

My girlfriend started self harm but we are too far away to comfort.. she admits it and I can’t help but cry.

[justarandomperson]

I self harmed and I told my best friend about it...it was a huge mistake, she did it a month later as well, maybe she thought If I can do it she can too? I don't know what to do. I made a deal with her that if I stop she must too hopefully it works.


Edit: I stopped self harming and my friend did too hopefully one of us dont start again

Edit 2: she did start again btw she didnt rlly care if it means shes breaking the promise and that i will self harm too. She got super toxic and only started caring abt herself and when i tried helping her she was super mean saying stuff like she doesnt need me and shes fine and stuff, she never asked if i was ok tho yet i still tried helping her. I'm starting to think she just wanted attention because she just told everyone like she was bragging abt is but if u try and help her shes all mean its like: "omg! Im so depressed I cut myself look!!" Me:"omgg are u okay whats wrong? I can get you help? Ill even pay for u to see a therapist!" (Her family and her wasnt finacially stable) and she would be like "im fine!! Leave me alone!!! Im used to it" and no matter what i did she refused any help and just acted toxic, she made my own depression even worse when i was putting her before me and she didnt even care how i was doing. We stopped being friends after she became a very cruel person (she talked abt hating children, wanting to kill blah blah) and after she was gone i become very very very mentally healthy, im doing really really well and im as happy as can be cuz i found true caring friends! And the best lover ever! Who always makes sure im okay !

[TeenageTurtle]

I hope I can stop my friend from harming herself. Little does she know that people love her. And how much it hurts people around her. I’m sorry if this is happening to anyone else. It is hard.

[eli-chan]

A few days ago, my best friend told me she had been harming herself for 4 months now (not completely regularly, sometimes having 1 to 2 weeks breaks from doing it and then returning to doing it). She confessed to me that I was one of the few who knew, since she had just gathered all of the courage she had to tell me and a few close friends and family. I tried comforting her and suggesting some activities as distractions as well as offering my support if she ever needed it. I'm honestly scared... I love her and she's an amazing bestie but I'm worried for her... I don't want to see her being hurt. It pains me even more that I didn't notice anything or any signs in the past 4 months... I want to help her so much but I'm scared of not coming off as paranoid or clingy and I can't share this with anyone I know because I don't want to overstep her bounderies... I don't know what to do...

[Sillypoopoo]

My Friend Just Started It Again. She Knows That I Can Take Her Away From Her Neglecting Parents. I’m Helping Her The Best I Can.

[roaaroaa]

first cut was two years ago....the scar is still obvious on my skin...had a lot on my thighs that no one would see ....it wasnt to seek attention...but how i needed a hug that time... my strict mum and dad who left me alone when i rlly was longing to see him ....i miss him so bad...

[IrradiatedMushroom]

I am a man(male) in my late 20's and I still cut myself up all over.
I have aged scars and new still-red ones.
It's very addictive, as I've found. I don't like people seeing my scars and yet I still "Self-Harm" (hate that term too). I just don't want my Dad to feel guilty, I just don't feel right, I don't see myself as Trans and i'm not playing that card... Idk I just can't help that feeling of blood dripping down my arm it's an adrenaline rush and I don't know how to stop...

[sunhopii]

I just got a message about my friend confessing to me that she self harms. I’ve never had dealt with mental health issues and self harmed in my life and I really want her to get help but I have a feeling her mom wouldn’t understand. How do I get her to vent out everything without putting stress on both of us?

[bigchungus]

Worst thing is she told me she self harmed and as much as I want to help I can't.Why? It's because of distance and I didn't even know how to help myself at those moments

[Fishyy]

I have an online friend with strict parents, they don’t really treat her well from what I hear. They yell a lot and make her feel horrible when she gets bad grades(when it’s not even that bad).She recently confessed to self harm since things have been really rough, I wanna help but I don’t know how, I would offer for her to vent but I feel as if she wouldn’t be comfortable and I don’t think I could handle it either. I wanna know if there’s some hotline she could use that wouldn’t track where she is(don’t know if that can even happen) and where she could use text only.

[lea-ouqx]

so many ppl are there for there friends im just here for myself