Petulant Borderline Mother - Role-Play - 3 Versions - BPD

Petulant Borderline Mother - Role-Play - 3 Versions - BPD

Here is my take on the petulant borderline (volatile) mother. BPD.
In this role play I create a scenario where a son is letting his mother know that he will need to introduce his new girlfriend to his father first due to circumstance.

The mother has a huge reaction and in that reaction we see borderline traits play themselves out : real or imagine abandonment, criticism, volatility, rage, character assassination, impulsivity, manipulation around self harm, provocation, false accusations, emotional blackmail, leverage, dependency, fragility, chaos manufacture

Also relevant are : enmeshment, boundaries, recovery, therapy session, consistency, role-play, fyp, tools, hacks, triggers, childhood trauma, inner child, inner child work, c-ptsd, ptsd, toxic parents, narcissistic abuse, assertion, healing, abusive parents, emotional abuse, childhood ptsd, repressed memories, hypervigilance, narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive parents, child abuse, narcissistic father, childhood emotional neglect, abuse, narcissistic mother, codependency, healthy parenting, parenting

I hope it is helpful and there will be a clinical analysis video follow up.

As you can see, while falling under Cluster B Symptoms, the Borderline disorder is very different from overt and or covert narcissism. In my mind, the disorder orbits around real or imagined abandonment (the narcissist doesn't need you in the end so much) and problems of conscientiousness (getting control of their own perception/reactions/emotions). However, a commonality is it does involve a lot of the drama switches, like with the narcissist.

Narcissistic Mother Video Mentioned :

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
0:20 Scenario Explained
0:48 Connect With Me
3:00 Petulant Borderline Mother
7:06 Healthy Mother
9:27 Empowered Son
14:08 Role-Play Recap
18:40 Final Thoughts
19:00 Outro

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[lilic]

Can I have a 300 hour video of just the healthy parent saying nice things? xD

[chrisbcakes]

Patrick, you have missed your calling as an actor.

[zhenya]

I love the healthy parent parts in your videos. It’s really nice to get to know what that would feel like.

[jojotheoj]

These videos make me so happy that I went No Contact years ago. Giving birth is not sufficient reason to emotionally torture someone forever.

[salsaboy]

I still get defensive with all types of criticism. Growing up with a parent like this trains you to expect basic critiques or disagreements to explode into full blown fights and character assassinations. It make healing and growing outside of that relationship that much harder.

[AugustAdvice]

God its so sad how my mom sounds like this. Every time something good in my life happened, she would act so pitiful and I never understood why. The healthy mother sounds so foreign to me it makes me sad that I never had that.

[kristenheatherei-star]

Get off the cross Mom. We need the wood.

[markmalinowski]

The question "How did this conversation go off the rails?" is one of the best methods in deflecting aggression... thank you.

[elizabethgoehring]

I teared up when the Healthy Mom begins to talk - love how she supports and celebrates her son's adulthood instead of criticizing.

[deborahmontgomery]

I’m a borderline mama! High functioning BPD! I have had therapy all my life and have worked a lot on my outward reactions to what people say, and how I feel and how others feel. It’s a very dark place to imagine that everyone ignores and avoids and secretly hates me. But I have learned to stifle those imaginary thoughts (most of the time) and I hope my son never considers me a toxic parent.

[jonathansmith]

“I’m not engaging with you if you start accusing me of whatever you imagine is going on.”

Brilliant response. Could’ve used it many times had I known of it sooner.

[poppyseed]

“i don’t need any charity, and i might not even be around” ITS LIKE YOU RECORDED MY MOTHER AND QUOTED HER WORD FOR WORD??

[SphereMusicCafe]

It’s amazing how BPD makes ppl so sensitive to abandonment but then they lash out & succeed in pushing people away. If my parent was like this I wouldnt bother calling. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy :(

[gayatridutt]

This is my mother! The analysis at the end where you say that these mothers aren't aware of the punch they've thrown and cannot fathom why you(the child) are having a reaction to it is absolutely spot on. My mother does all of this - the irrational emotional reactions, getting angry at the slightest thought of me having a relationship with my dad, the manipulation.... all of it. She made me think I was selfish and bad for being affected by her actions but now I know that the problem was always her and not me which is liberating.

[neferzoe]

My mom has always threatened suicide when confronted with her bad behavior even when I was very young.

[costelloandlizzievolk]

This is 💯 my mom. Can’t have any real conversation about difficult issues with her without her getting angry, throwing a tantrum, trying to manipulate me and playing the victim. She rarely takes responsibility for the hurtful things she does. Super frustrating. Learning to disengage, grey rock, keep boundaries and be empowered. Thank you. 💖

[madesno]

I remember watching my mother interact with my dad one day, and realizing that my mom genuinely did not understand why her high strung emotions and angry, cutting remarks made my father need to go out and take a walk. She has no awareness of what her communication looks like from the outside. It's kind of sad, but that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.

[i.greene]

Watching the BPD mother = like an elephant is sitting on my chest.
Watching the healthy mother scenario = heals my heart.
Watching the empowered son = was powerful, but being logical and calm with my family never worked for me, so I cut them off. :(
Thank you for all the work that you do, Patrick! I just signed up for your community.

[MS-xkne]

Wow. This was like a phonecall with my mum. It's the instant hostility, suspicion and bitterness. My mum isn't as forward as this example woman, she's more subtle and discreet which is more infuriating because you cannot call her out because she'll deny it / throw it in my face / project what she's doing ("well if that's what you're getting from what I'm saying, that'll just be your guilt kicking in because you know that's not okay").

[sunshinemolly]

I loved this role play so much and I'd love to see more content about BPD. I'm quite far into BPD recovery, I've done a lot of therapy and most of the time I manage triggers and "abandonment" in a really healthy way. However I still have occasional episodes of acting out like this (it used to be daily, now its around monthly and I'll usually calm down and repair within an hour) I find your channel amazingly helpful and easy to understand so I'd really love to see more BPD related content. My mother has undiagnosed BPD and has never wanted help, while always criticising me as weak and pathetic for seeking help for myself. I already have a small son from a teenage pregnancy and I want to break this toxic cycle!