Codependent Mother - Role-Play - 3 Versions

Codependent Mother - Role-Play - 3 Versions

In this video we cover: enmeshment, boundaries, recovery, therapy session, consistency, roleplay, fyp, tools, hacks, triggers, childhood trauma, inner child, inner child work, c-ptsd, ptsd, toxic parents, narcissistic abuse, assertion, healing, abusive parents, emotional abuse, childhood ptsd, repressed memories, hypervigilance, narcissistic parents, emotionally abusive parents, child abuse, narcissistic father, childhood emotional neglect, abuse, narcissistic mother, codependency, healthy parenting, parenting

Hi guys! As requested, here is my role play with a codependent mother. The things to watch out for is just how committed a mother like this is to upholding their pleasant reality by not being real.

As stated in the recap, I don't believe this is cluster b symptoms but more trauma symptoms. A mother who displays this much compartmentalization learned it from somewhere or used it to repress their own family system dynamics. It's tricky to figure out but even more tricky to call it for what it is when we have a parent like this.

At the end of the day, it's just a different form of gaslighting but in this case it's more - " being nice is the right thing to do" instead of "that didn't happen and you're crazy."

I hope it is helpful to you!

Chapters:
0:00 Intro
0:56 Connect With Me
1:24 Scenario Explanation
2:35 Codependent Mother Role-Play
6:31 Healthy Mother Role-Play
9:43 Empowered Daughter Role-Play
13:30 Recap of Role-Plays
19:11 Final Thoughts
19:40 Outro

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[temporarythoughts]

"Deep down he loves us" = can't control himself = emotionally or physically abusive person. If someone loves you they don't abuse you, there is no deep down.

[neelyfortune]

Could you do a role play on: when you try to talk to your mother about your struggles or mental health and she turns it around saying she has the same struggle but worse than you and the child ends up consoling them instead of the child's struggle being acknowledged?

[fembot]

“Ok maybe it’s me”. The anthem of all abused children. Internalizing the idea that YOU are the problem when you are not is crazy making! I love your videos, especially highlighting the healthy mother. I cannot imagine what my life would be like with a family that was healthy and supportive.

[wittynamegohere]

The healthy mother...that blows my mind. That scenario is utterly foreign to me.

[PARADOXsquared]

Ahh the "You know how he is" and "you don't understand marriage" and "he's done so much for us" and "i understand him" and "no one perfect" and "he loves you deep down" all stabbed me in heart

[beespirit]

"You know how your Dad is" really resonated with me. Heard that too many times...:-(

[kiahvarner]

“This is my responsibility now, I don’t want you to have to take care of me that my job.” Felt good to hear it if it wasn’t even from my own mother.

[mendingmandy]

It feels silly but i get tearful when you enact the healthy mom.

[sunshinem.]

Every time he does a parent apology in these skits, I get teary-eyed. Not once has my mom apologized to me for any of the awful behavior that led to my mental health issues, even when I brought it up directly.

[saracullen]

I’m 57 and have never heard what healthy sounded like until Patrick started these role plays. It’s helped me be a better mom to my adult children - I was an abuse enabler of their dad for 30 years, as was my mother before me. I also never heard what empowered actually sounded like. And looked like (thanks to Patrick’s facial expressions). I went NC with family of origin, but have learnt so much seeing what an empowered response is. Forever grateful!

[megnelli]

“You’re taking it the wrong way” “you’re too sensitive” “why are you always having to analyze? Stop it” “stop criticizing me”

[somedaynow]

Jesus these scenarios are so triggering and validating at the same time.

[jessicamusicslife]

Omg this mother’s manipulation and rationalization is so real and it gives me chills....

[malindarayallen]

This is a good representation of how a person who is the victim of narcissistic abuse (the mother) can contribute to someone else's abuse. I'm curious what other people think about this.

[sea]

Wow, I can't imagine having a healthy mother, it feels so unreal to watch this. This is my exact scenario, co-dependent mom and father with anger issues, but just in private. Also my mom has a really bad relationship with herself, which often projects to our mom-daughter relationship.Thanks for the video Patrick, it really helps

[wplants]

“It’s cute when he gets cranky it’s like a little boy needing a nap” 🤮

[BBFCCO]

This is my mother. She feels like she is the nicest person in the world like mother Theresa (her words). I can't win with her, she's always right. She never protected me against my dad, she acts like she's so normal, and I have wondered if she was a covert narc. Your so spot on. Thank you for making me realize that getting upset and speaking out is not wrong but called being empowered. I'm seen as the problem daughter because I could never get along with my controlling abusive father. It's very depressing and agonizing growing up without a mother-because she was too busy taking care of my narcissistic father. She dumped me when I stopped listening to her complain after 20 years, and when I called her out on feeling invisible. It's very upsetting.

[speakevermore]

Ok 1. This hit really close to home
2. I would cry tears of joy and pinch myself to make sure i'm not dreaming if i had the second role play scenario with my mom
3. Your acting is fucking phenomenal. Unbelievable

[steviecrow]

Always felt mom’s concessions had everything to do with financial dependency. As related to narcissists, you’ve got have your own funds, or you’re hugely vulnerable.

[jessicaduncan]

This describes my family so well. This made me feel better about being the “difficult” person.