Rules For Fighting While Dating

[gustavakerman]

Rule 6. Take a moment to figure out if what you're fighting about is worth fighting about before you start the fight

[rustylynch]

saw another youtube comment somewhere that had something along the lines, "it's not you versus your partner, it's the both of you versus the problem" wish more people realized that.

[Orion]

*Rule #6* Make sure both participants know the rules.

There's nothing worse than trying to stay cool headed when the other person is actively trying to fight.

[johnhein]

My grandpa who was married until he and grandma died we two old people gave some old world advice that some people won't have the minds to do, or just will assume it won't work, and maybe it won't for all. To hold the hand of your spouse during a fight. It's just harder to stay or become angry when you're holding or getting your hand held. Old world, sweet, and I bet it works for a lot of folks.

[Apolloshot]

“You have to say sorry to each other sometimes.”

Don’t worry ma’am, I’m Canadian, that won’t be an issue.

[RonB]

After having a terrible first marriage, I made it a point to find a good woman to go along with my good self. Amazingly found her shortly after I got divorced. We fit like hand in glove and have only had maybe 5 arguments in 20 years. This doesn't mean we are with everything, but we both can talk out our differences and equally compromise. This was the biggest blessing I could have ever been given. From a woman that argued all the time to now hardly ever is such a huge relief. I have totally met my soulmate.

[Dloin]

Dont forget to not insult each other. Personally thats more important then yelling. Getting loud while heated is okay, calling me an absolute idiot not .

[yiggdrasill]

This is excellent advice for any relationship, not just romantic ones. Friends, family, anyone important. When you decide to work together it's about pulling together and fixing the issues.

[nickhosford]

Rule 6: remember that the relationship is more important than the argument

[exileera]

Rule 4, amendment 1: Don't go running to close family and friends. You leave them out of it until you've come together on an agreement on whether to include those people and what is allowed to be spoken about. Sometimes wisedom from other can help, but if the other partner doesnt know it can lead to distrust.

[MattMorency]

Sometimes they won't let you walk away because they know they have the advantage if you lose your temper.

Which is why I reserve the right to storm out if my request for time isn't reapected.

[dylanjones]

A great addendum to rule 5 is to repeat back what the other person says so that they know you're listening and understand. Or to correct misunderstandings.

[zoeb]

The "we need to cool off, let's take a moment to ourselves and discuss this later" is so important and yet so hard with people who gets so caught up in the fight they refuse to stop for a moment because they need their yelling done now. I really value the maturity of people who are willing to go "you know what, yeah, let's take a a breather and come back to this" because unless it's life or death, dangerous, atrocious or something imminent you probably only have to gain from taking a few minutes to remember you care about each other and that whatever is going on is probably not as bad as you might feel in the moment, and to consider your own faults (which can be hard in the heat of the moment).

[davidegaruti]

Rule 0 : figure out what need of yourse isn't being meet, explainit to your partner and try to understand what need of theirs isn't being meet

[cargelock]

In my past relationship, I would rarely start an argument.

The thing that gets me, is when the person starts the argument, it escalates and escalates and escalates until I am pushed to the point where my frustration (maybe strategically done) gets to a point where I actually show emotion. It most likely escalates some more, then SHE has the nerve to call a "BREAK to let things cool down. Talk about icing on the cake. Jeebus.

[PoolKid]

Rule 4: Also known as hitting the pause button, like Lily and Marshall from How I Met Your Mother.

[SerasXHarkonnen]

Even outside of a relationship people need to learn how to say sorry, far too many people aren't willing to admit when they were in the wrong.

[derwolfgaming]

My ex broke every single one of these rules and still acts like she’s the victim. She’s driven away around 12 people since I met her. No I’m no contact with her and last I heard she’s 6 grand in debt and has driven away 5 more people while I’ve improved my life.

[brianmerkel]

I would have hoped that absolutely no hitting would have been ruled out number 1. Women may not be stronger but they can be the first to strike. Rule number one should always be absolutely no hitting in any way whatsoever!

[neandrthalnone]

Never ever go to bed mad at each other, that gives the anger time to fester