What to do if your Spouse Doesn't want to you to be Catholic

How should you handle it when you want to be a catholic, but your spouse isn't on the same page? This is a very tough situation that many people face as they feel called into the Church. Is there a good answer? Is there anything you can do? My prayer is that this video can shed some light on the sensitive and important topic. God bless, Keith

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[catholictransformation]

Leaving Protestantism wasn’t easy. We have no Catholics on either side of our families that have we know of. For me, I came to the conclusion that I had to become Catholic with or without my wife. Fortunately, she decided to become Catholic within 30 days of my decision. So we both became Catholic on 3.31.2018.

[dmarie]

I so needed this today! I spend too much time worrying about my Catholic husband not being holy enough. To hear Paul's words, "that because the unbelieving husband is made holy by the wife"... Praise God! So again, this talk works for the cradle Catholic family too, not just the converts. Thanks Keith! God bless you and your family 🙏❤️✝️

[ericmarcus]

This is so perfect. As a soon to be catholic, the date is set to a week before easter, and after over 10 years in ”RCIA”, attending mass daily and reading all a can find about catholic faith - I finally asked my wife againg, and she has said no before. So I have waited and waited. But for about a month ago I asked her again and she said OK.

And Now I’m all in. I know she wants my best, and I hers, that’s why I have waited and that’s why she said ok.

Thanks for this video and all your others. The last videos you have done has really gone straight to the deepest of my heart.

[bigdog]

This took my sister 10 years of prayer and faster for her husband to become Catholic. Think of Saint Monica...her son converted after 20 years...

[PaulBouchillon]

I had this conversation tonight. It was incredibly tough. I feel an increased, presence of Christ in this journey. I covet your prayers

[philomenamattison]

î was a lapsed catholic and when I returned, 36 years ago, my husband was furious. I tried everything to get him to join me. He is still an aethiest and I am still faithful. Ît can be very lonely at times and you have to be more than patient. But that verse has helped me so much, I place all my trust in God.

[karenearly]

I love the way you address situations! You are an excellent speaker and we as Catholics are blessed to have you as part of our church family. ❤️

[marysalmond]

Keith is doing 40 days of lent by answering 40 of the most difficult issues to address AND with all humility! Keep at it, you're batting a 1000! 👍

[ninaburroughs]

I accidentally found your blog while looking for a friend who's husband is agnostic, and the wife is interested in becoming Catholic. He told her it would separate them and damage their marriage. She doesn't know what to do or where to turn. I am so grateful to find your great information and advice so I can pass it on. Thank you for taking the time to help so many troubled people find a path to take to become closer to Our Lord.
God bless you and your family.

[dalge]

Lucky I didn't have that problem. My wife already knew I wouldn't be going back to our old church because the denomination supports abortion. We quit all together for a month. She wasn't aware but I was learning about Catholicism. I read the Bible and read books from authentic sources. After a month I was convinced that Catholicism was true and the only church founded by Jesus Christ. So I told her. I wasn't sure what her reaction would be. I said I'm thinking of being a Catholic and she said "Oh, really?". We go to mass and she absolutely loved it. She even saw a sign, which was from God, that said He was there. We both started RCIA a month later but she reluctantly had to quit to take care of my sister who has cancer. She misses going to mass and RCIA class.

[ambu]

Thanks Keith, I've been dealing with this for years. I became Catholic several years ago and was head over heals in love with Jesus and his Church, but my wife didn't share my enthusiasm for the Catholic Church. She didn't try to stop me, but she wasn't supportive either. I attended Mass by myself for a few years, but slowly let my longing to be with my wife and family cause me to start going to church with my wife and our daughter in a protestant church. I don't mean to knock this church, but it's just not the same! The Catholic Church carries us so deep into the things of God. We have the Eucharist, the Communion of Saints, Reconciliation, the fact that The Catholic Church reaches all the way back to the Saints and the Early Church. I have to find a way back home to the Catholic Church without alienating my wife and family! I ask for your prayers! Thanks and blessings!

[lnelsoncpa]

Keith, what you said at minute 21 was exactly what happened in our marriage 20 years ago. My husband said he wasn’t ready to convert and didn’t know if he ever would be so he gave me his blessing to do convert without him and to raise our children Catholic. Our oldest served 4 years as a FOCUS missionary and is now working as a college campus minister. Our youngest has taught multiple FOCUS bible studies while in college and is ready to graduate. My husband has not converted but has always been supportive of raising the kids in the faith. He’s a wonderful man; I am disabled and he lays down his life for me every day in the way he works full time and takes care of me. We’ve been married almost 35 years.

[laurabrown]

Thank you!! There is no one, anywhere, discussing these things in such a down-to-earth, real way.

[Scoli]

I just don’t have the words to explain how much I needed this today. God bless you m’man!

[treeannie]

Thanks for another great talk, Mr. Keith! It really hit home for me, as I am a cradle catholic and my spouse is Baptist. After 30 years of marriage, I still hold on to hope that some day he will be open to change. Love all your videos, keep ‘em coming!

[abelgarcia]

My wife and I are cradle Catholics and we will celebrate 59 years of marriage come June 4, 2020. All those things that you mentioned are very helpful. It isn’t easy but we respect each other and stay together because we made vows at the sacrament of marriage. We do everything for love of Christ and His Church. Amen! Keep up the good work. Yes!

[victoriar]

So glad I found your video 5 years later. I’m about to start RCIA and my husband supports but is not willing to convert. We have 2 children 1&2 years old. The path ahead is probably going to be difficult but I pray every day that the lord guides us both ❤

[justinjustinjustin]

Keith have you by any chance done a video on your wife coming back to the church after you once convinced her to leave? I'd love to hear her story even if she doesn't herself speak it on your channel. I like hearing about reverts to the faith as well as I know someone who is interested in coming back to the faith, and stories of other reverts make one feel like they can relate to someone because it is challenging (I imagine) to once be told something about why you should leave the church and then be told something different to come back lol.

[monicabermea]

Keith, I know this hasn't anything to do with your wonderful talk but this morning during my morning prayer I read something about Saint Paul. I remember you with him. I said a prayer for you and feel compelled to pray for you and others that come forward to tell their stories. God bless you for helping so many that are either on the fence or in the battlefield. Peace everyone, in the end God wins.

[jacquelineyork]

I a non practicing uncaring about God born and raised Episcopal until 8th grade married a non practicing uncaring about God born and raised Roman Catholic. Religion wasn't even on the radar for either of us. His mom was always trying to convert me to Catholicism. I was not nice to her at times and it is not something I'm proud of. Well as it goes I held my first born and was suddenly over whelmed with fear for his soul so I asked God to prove himself. Boy did he! I wanted to start going to church as a family but I wanted to go to a protestant religion. My husband who was Catholic refused. He said I may not like God but I believe in Him and His church and I'm not leaving the Catholic church. Knowing how stubborn he was I decided to set out to prove Catholicism wrong and basically converted myself into Catholicism. Lol.
Unfortunately my husband was upset because I was becoming religious and stopped doing things we probably shouldn't have been doing in the first place. His mom was literally my only supporter. Then on top of it his family accused me of basically going along to get along, as if my conversion experience wasn't real. Can I eye roll here? Lol Converting was utter hell! I was a die hard liberal and my husband a die hard conservative. My whole life changed, it was the most painful, scary, miserable and yet most breathtaking experience of my life and I basically did it alone with no support except for my mother in law. I couldn't even talk about God and how I was feeling with my husband because he would get really upset and we would start arguing. I just stayed quiet and did my thing. It's been 16 years since my acceptance into the one Holy catholic church on my first son's birthday just 4 years later and I'm still happily Catholic and though I'm no longer alone on the journey towards salvation my husband still struggles with his dislike of God and all the 'rules'.
The converting process started when I was 21 and 'ended' though it really hasn't lol, when I was 25. In the beginning the thought of becoming Catholic made me truly physically ill and I cried alot and would have panic attacks at the thought. All Catholics go to hell...don't you know that! Lol! In the end I even threw away my first prescription for birth control after having two kids in just under one year...I still remember that day just like it was yesterday. Lol.
I love being in the church that Jesus started. I found an unwatered down Jesus here and I grow closer and love Jesus more everyday. I fell in love with the scriptures because of the Catholic church. I teach C.C.E., I'm a sacristian and I'm on the Welcoming Committee at St. Kats in Hempstead, TX. We're blessed with an amazing and loving priest Father Xavier and an amazing deacon, Deacon John who is an amazing teacher! He's really awesome and so smart! They're both awesome and will stop and answer any question you might have.
Was my conversion hard and difficult. Absolutely! Would I do it again? In a heartbeat.