Toxic people will always do THIS | Nelia Torkian

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[ALTEGugle]

Hi. Im a dv "survivor", not surviving very well. 😢 Ive been unable to find a safe place since I left 15 years ago. 😢 I was also abused as a kid by sibling, mostlynon physical which is even worse, cause, you just doubt yourself. Im in my 50s. My current landlord, female, is The most abusive, toxic, boundary violator I've ever met. 😢 Been trying to find safety for 15 years. Moved 20x. I look every day, exhaust myself asking people. Its very sad. Shes set me back to my childhood & even much worse. 😢 Meaning my self esteem taken a huge hit. 😢
It seems truly that, others start avoiding, shunning & rejecting you too, when you're under this kind of abuse. Making you more isolated & hard to get help. Its really sad. Rents are too high for me get a place of my own.

[Pia_creator]

If you don't feel like you don't have peace in that situation, leave. That simple. No matter how hard or how painful it is. Peace of mind is very important.

[howlionsmaneknife]

Yes I dealt with a toxic family member and takes a strong minded person to deal with them and even then you need to remember their wording in detail in certain circumstances. Also you can’t give even a inch as far as boundaries even though regardless of what you do they will not only ignore your boundaries but stomp all over them. I was fortunate in college to have taken advanced psychological courses as well as advanced counseling courses which help me to deal with them somewhat from what a psychologist would do.

[jackiekidwell]

Ironically, it's toxic people that always talk about you crossing their "boundaries" !! When you finally get sick of their assorted lies and all the empty promises and blow your stack, the toxic person says you violated THEIR boundaries !! Even if it's family, you should avoid these constantly upsetting people like the plague !!

[xxglowenxx]

I have a strong memory, as in can word for word repeat a conversation from last week or 10 years ago. My eldest sister just complained about me never opening up to her and that she wishes we were closer, but i told her she lost my trust over a decade ago.

When i was 15, she laughed at me for crying about my best friend's cancer diagnosis and then didn't visit for the funeral 3 years later. She denied laughing and said she didnt know she was supposed to go to the funeral. My middle sister went to the same college as my eldest sister and my middle sister was there through everything, so i dont think theres ANY excuse for her actions. Esp when it comes her her laughing at my emotions.

She also likes to give excuses for toxic behaviors of our other family members/her friends/her boyfriend and always makes me out to be the bad guy. Like, me having boundaries does not make me the bad guy. I DO have my own issues im working on, but still. I shouldnt be reprimanded for telling someone to stop touching paintings at an art gallery (which her bf was doing)

[shinchlee]

I have a very manipulative brother (the oldest among us) and he's manipulating the whole fam using his money. He's controlling our mom and other relatives to hate me in exchange for some change but he isn't really helping our fam. He would only help if it would benefit him. When he feels threatened by my closeness with our mom, other sibs, nieces/nephews or other relatives, he would try to blackmail them to pay their debts to him or he wouldn't give my mom her allowance (my mom's receiving allowance from us because we don't want her to work anymore 'cause she's a senior citizen now, and she's receiving more from him because he's the only one among us with a high paying job) or he wouldn't help them at all even though he's capable. Like he's trying to tell them to come to me instead of him, even though he knows I'm struggling myself financially.

When I feel pissed by his behavior, I just think that all my hardwork will pay off someday and we'll be free from him financially, and we wouldn't need to keep adjusting for him.

[sundayjonathan]

This is incredible, as a disciplinary person I set boundaries, cos, most people's behavior irritates and they always defend their toxicity not minding who they may offend.

[tylerbrooks]

Realizing this will change everything. Significant others, brothers, parents. This age is infested with these people.

[ChandraniRedmic]

This is what immediate need to the society.
Thanks
❤

[floribertosousa]

Thank you Nelia for your important advice.
I have been living with a VERY TOXIC person for years, "wife", ..and it has NOT been easy at all for me dealing with a person like that, ..when that person, ..like you have stated, .. she always acts like she's doing or she's saying "nothing wrong" 😮😢😮
I just came across your channel and I just subscribed to it.
Thanks and keep up the good work.

[lisabishop]

This is exactly what I've been trying to tell my Daughter. Her Boyfriend is TOXIC!! SHE takes his rapid outburst in front of my grandkids! They are young teens and frightened by him. He is an Alcoholic. He pushes her buttons. Then turns it around as it's her fault this fight or out burst has or has occurred. I've seen the beating after math. I Pray she sees He is not a good person for her, kids don't like him. My husband and I had them for two years. Now Dad has them. My daughter is in a Rehab hospital for accident he caused. Many broken bones. I honestly could ....well you know what I mean.

[kayrastetter]

I'm married to a narcissist have been with him for 31 years. Right or wrong the way I handle it I tell him to go kick rocks. I inform him he is not twisting shit back on to me. That no matter what it's never his fault. I point out to him the conversation has ended don't want to hear any more of his excuses for reasoning why it's me and not him. Take a strong stance with these people and it is worth it for your own peace of mind

[PulusilFiliagajr]

Thanks I needed to hear that.. I'm not going back ever again ‼️ Some people are Jerks ‼️

[christinepemberton]

I had to leave a husband because he had an adult son who kept threatening me. When I tried to approach my husband with the threats, it was always my fault. If I just wouldn't say anything about it, his son wouldn't do that. He kept making excuses for his bad behavior, meanwhile I was supposed to act above and beyond. Counselors told us his son was anti social sociopath. He was also on drugs. I started going to counseling and my counselor advised me, with his problems, it was just a matter of time before he acted on what he was saying. He actually tried and I'm crippled now because of it and my husband was still denying it. I thought he would eventually kill me and my husband would make excuses for him, so I just left. I'm by myself now and happy.

[RobertaFierro-mcub]

Saying the word NO, will often show you their other side It works with Friends and Family When.you are no linger beneficial to them, that's when you get the truth.

[mcleo]

Thank you great video Explains it well, plain and simple 🎉👍

[oakstrong]

This is the best, no-nonsense advice I have heard on YouTube, without any dressing to lengthen the video unnecessarily!
Have you thought about making this video into a short? I bet the message would reach more people!

[auditaziz]

this poped up as an ad for me didnt skip first time i didnt skip an ad thanks bro i need to hear allat

[freestargaming]

Trust me when I say that I never liked toxic people. I really do love this video. I do wish people can learn to be nicer to one another.

[mitchellsmith]

People want to control others because there lives are out of control..gives them a sense of control of there own out of control lives😢😢😢