Dating Advice For Inexperienced Guys & “Late Bloomers”

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[Turismoracer]

One thing I like to add for my late bloomers.

I have noticed that often times experienced people or people that haven't struggled with relationships tend to take the person next to them for granted, while inexperienced people cherish the relationship they've had trouble finding until that point.

So in a sense, rather than perceiving inexperience as some sort of handicap, be confident that you can be the dream boyfriend/girlfriend instead.

[lgmmrm]

The problem is when you're 28, haven't had so much as a real date and have absolutely totally failed on dating apps no matter what hoops you jump through and BS you've tried, it's a little difficult to have any confidence when you're apparently so ugly, socially offputting, or whatever t hat women just don't have anything to do with you.

[mEstbn]

32 years old here. I had my first date and first kiss yesterday. My day have been filled of emotions. Your vids has been full of positive energy for me even though I discover your channel very recently. Ty

[draapulus]

Summary:
0:29 Stop With Anticipatory Rejection
2:47 Inexperience Is Not Your Identity
3:49 Behaviors To Avoid
5:28 How To Talk About It
7:23 Be Open To Learning And To Feedback

[starryskies]

I'm definitely a late bloomer. I've been learning to just own it. Not let my inexperience control my life. This year I'm ready to become a better version of myself. You're a big inspiration for me. These videos help me so much. Please keep making these kinds of videos. I'm sure I'm not the only one struggling

[ajtaylor]

Being confidence enough to flat out own inexperience makes you come across as much more of a badass than trying to act like you're experienced. There are women out there who are into guys with no experience.

[jamesq]

I suspect one thing that plays a factor here is so many of us guys went through a phase of applying for entry level jobs that demanded 5+ years of experience. Everyone is inexperienced until they get experienced and it has to come from somewhere.

That and it would be a bit hard to try to only find people that match your own experience level, so there should be patience.

[wojtekzurawski]

When I was 17 I got rejected in a rude and mean way by the girl that I've known since we were little kids. Was stuck in this oneitis trap for 14 years. Last year I finally put myself out there and went for 3 dates with one girl and got ghosted right after. But thanks to your channel I found out that I completely suck at dating and have too many insecurities, but also doing good on my own, so I'm not putting myself out there anymore.

[MiB-ebms]

I really appreciate whenever you add the chapters and would appreciate seeing them more.
Thanks for creating the kinds of videos that you do.

[obmij]

Thank you Courtney. These are the pieces of advice I try to live my life by each day.

In the past I used to think that no woman wanted me and that I would be rejected in an instant, but I stopped thinking like that a long, long time ago.

[xsyvkjb]

THANKYOU. I’m a late bloomer who still hasn’t bloomed yet despite trying everything to self improve. This is one of the most effective videos you’ve done and very eye opening for most people. Thx again

[Harikejn]

Important things: 0:29 First Thing ÷ Stop With Anticipatory Rejection; 2:47 Second Thing ÷ Inexperience Is Not Your Identity; 3:49 Third Thing ÷ Behaviors To Avoid; 5:28 Fourth Thing ÷ How To Talk About It; 7:23 Fifth Thing ÷ Be Open To Learning And To Feedback; and 9:47 to summarize all the told here.
Additional advices: 6:00 Appropriate answer ÷ I've been prioritizing other things in my life, and I feel that I'm at good place in my life now to start dating; and 6:50 Present it in positive way what have you been prioritizing.
What you have told there Courtney, that is so true.
The additional things could of been these: Sixth Thing ÷ Do Not Worry Too Much (cause that will also destroy you, let's say it that way); Seventh Thing ÷ Be Relaxed (but have balance when being relaxed, and when being serious); Eight Thing ÷ Don't Take Everything For Granted When Some Things Are Told (cause sometimes they can be changed as well); Ninth Thing ÷ Go With The Flow; and Tenth Thing ÷ Be A Gentleman.
As for making the elephant like you told Courtney, in Balkan peninsula we say one thing. It goes like this:, ,Praviti od komarca, magarca." Translation means: "Making from mosquito a donkey." Reading between lines means this: Don't make a big deal out of nothing (but in that case don't make a big deal, or big problem ÷ call it whatever you want, when you haven't got experience in dating).
And if we are going to summarize the things that are told here, we can summarize them to these things:
1. Be Relaxed And Know When To Be Relaxed, And When To Be Serious;
2. Don't Make A Big Deal If You Don't Have Experience (cause most people don't even care about that. They want someone who is good in heart, and in head, cause that's very crucial information);
3. Be Open To Learn And Also Hear The Feedback; and
4. Be a Gentleman.
Thank you so much Courtney, that means a lot ❤💙🤍.

[boristagesson]

My goal is to start blooming when I’m 80.

[ReadingDave]

It has been a few decades since I shared a kiss. This video has some solid advice I imagine. I have heard that the more you interact with people, the better you get at relationship which includes romantic and intimate relationships. So, meet and get to know people even if you don't date. Getting comfortable around the people you are nervous around helps. I think understanding how you recover from rejection is good self knoweldge. At my age I probably either need to get out of my isolated area/lifestyle or learn how to start a realationship with someone who had gave up hope on finding someone.

[ponokunishima]

Great video, and one to watch again for someone who is getting out of a 5 year relationship and about to enter the dating world again. Even though you were in a long term relationship, it’s good to know these things, especially since the relationship was your first.

[Kadsistency]

Yeah, the anticipatory rejection is my biggest vice. Manifestation of my social anxiety. It's something I'm working on to simply allow them to do the rejection if it's going to happen at all.

[fdhmkro]

Amazing thank you Courtney. I am 33 never dated and am aware I am maybe a bit different from some guys out there with much more experience. Thing is I feel I have so much to offer yet feel so insecure. Thank you for speaking to guys like me with this advice. I really sincerely appreciate what you do!

[Sygmus]

37 and never dated. Definitely a confidence problem, but I also feel very boring and undateable. I don’t like going out to things, driving has always made me anxious and all my interests are things I do at home. And I can’t hold a conversation to save my life, I tend to go silent and let other people talk, even around family. And, I’m just a t-shirt, jeans, and one pair of shoes kind of guy with zero interest in dressing to impress. I feel lonely but in the process of accepting that dating just isn’t for me.

[RonaldGibson]

Hi Courtney! "Stop With The Anticipatory Rejection". Oh, yes. I am very familiar with that! I would want to talk to a girl, but I would wind up saying to myself, "I'm sure that a girl like that already must have a boyfriend". So, I wouldn't talk to her. It is a pretty hard habit to break!

I hope that you & your husband have a great week!

[smartypants]

I found the video very helpful. Thank you.

I felt like it was just me that had no experience.

I'm very hard on myself about it.

But, you say don't bring it up and if it does cone up to put a positive spin on it or say sonething like I'm focused on other things.

I'm also reminded by a female friend that I may think my male friends get all the women but that they don't treat women very great and to not look at them as rolemodles for getting a girlfriend.

Also, you taught me in this video that each woman is different so don't bring anything from the last Woman to the new woman cause they might not feel the same way.

I am a high anxiety person. But you suggested to not let my worries own me. I found that helpful.