'I'm 28 and I have 0 Dating Experience, how do I start?'

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[thePANDEMlC]

30 years old, never been on a date. Got my first one scheduled for Thursday, wish me luck boys!

[TheXiguazhi]

this is like starting a job. I need experience to get a job and I need a job to get experience.

[reyjusuf]

At the same time we need to stop bullying and making fun of people who are late on the dating scene

[diegowushu]

If you don't like yourself, just don't fall in the "if I manage to trick someone into liking me, I'll stop hating myself" mentality. It doesn't work.

[DingoTheDemon]

"Why would someone [logic their way out of being attracted to someone]?" Some people don't want to feel vulnerable and as soon as it seems like someone might get to know them better, they will push them away.

[zzzMrgamerzzz]

I'm 22 and never dated anyone. I've been working on myself and doing pretty well so I might actually put myself out there. Wish me luck

[chromatika]

woah i got called out AND got my questions answered god bless

[robertwinslade]

I feel this. I've always had pretty severe social anxiety which has always held me back from actually trying to date, the longer it goes on the more that lack of experience weighs on me. I'm 25 now and I've never been on a date

[Synkotic]

I don't think you're ever truly ready. You're just ready enough to try and make it work.

Sometimes you get it right, sometimes you get it wrong. But having someone who understands that goes a long way when you make slipups. You want a compatible and willing partner that you believe in.

The willingness to grow and learn is far more important than prior knowledge or experience. For me, I took some time to reflect and to look at why my relationships failed in the past and the type of relationship I wanted. I then started working towards that and I was very clear about this with my girlfriend when we first met.

She's my teammate, and we grow together. It's the most beautiful relationship I've ever had.

[dmanzawsome]

Don't worry about experience. First time I made out with a girl I did 10 minutes of research on dating forums and she thought I was the most experienced guy she had ever been with. If you just lookup basic advice your gonna be better than most men.

[jackyinhere]

0 dating experience, turning 29, used to be depressed and self conscious about my inability of attracting people. But I think something just clicked along the way and now I don't care about it at all. I think I'll be fine even if I don't find someone as I grow older. Maybe I've accepted that it's just not the kind of experience everyone gets to have.

[heretic]

Dr. K: "Think less, experience more."
Wife: "In your pants."
I lost it there. That was hilarious!

[amcerngaming]

As someone who has experience, dating should feel a lot more comfortable if you both share similar interests and chemistry rather than trying to impress someone just to have them attracted to you more.

[SirPhysics]

"Intellectual and romantic attraction don't matter if there isn't sexual attraction." As an asexual guy it really hurts to hear things like that. I know that's something most people are looking for out of a relationship and that it's much harder to find a relationship if you don't experience sexual attraction, but to be told straight up that you shouldn't even bother really sucks.

[pete]

33 and in same situation. It sucks. But I totally agree with jumping in AND working on yourself because no one is ever 'ready'

[tomaszkietyka]

When a therapist and his wife discuss something:
"I think there's a very simple answer to this."

"Me too."

"What's yours"?

"What's yours?"

"I asked first, what's yours?

"So answer first"

[Chelwave]

I’d like to bring up that what messes up dating for some people is like interpreting peoples relationships and teasing them. My friends have grown up in a high school community where if you are friends with the opposite sex, they automatically assume or jump the question on if they are dating or like each other. And a lot of people end up together and breaking up. There have been a lot of dramatic breakups and couples that I’ve heard about. There are some strong ones out there not to only focus on the negatives.

But what I’m saying is that relationships should be by your choice and come and go at your own pace and not be controlled by others around you. Liking someone is something you can only recognize with a lot of effort communication with your friends and the one you think you like. As long as you both communicate and voice your feelings and concerns you’ll find someone to share your love with

[harper]

I love when his wife is answering things and he's just sitting near her and smiling proudly so cute

[DEATHCHICKEN]

I'm 25 and I want to date like a Highschooler, I missed that opportunity in life.

[livingdeadfitness]

I'm 31 and never was kissed. I was a shy insecure kid growing up who was bullied by a bunch of degenerates. And had some health issues related to anxiety and stomach.