Do Women Really Want To Date Sensitive Men?

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[glocksundgeworfenheit_]

When women say they want a sensitive man, they mean: to them. Sensitive to their needs. But totally immune to what the rest of the world throws at them. Its amazing so many women dont know this sbout themselves. I'm so lucky to be married to my best friend.

[hamstercow]

Almost every guy I know has had a girl tell him to express and talk about his emotions before, and it usually either turns the girl off or she uses it against him when they break up. It’s pretty tough because a true, loving partner will want and accept your emotions but if they’re not “the one” you will be punished for it, which is why a lot of guys develop a shell.

[jamesdewane]

You gotta have both and be both, have it under your control, and let your woman see and understand your range and control.

[calebminerd]

Women always say they want you to be open with your emotions until you cry in front of them and they mock you for it

[gayathraperera]

I remember that during a challenging period in my life and career, I opened up to my partner and showed my vulnerability. The day we decided to part ways, she said, 'You're too sensitive.' How ironic!

[Kayledon]

I've dated over a dozen women, never had one mock me for being vulnerable or use ut against me.

[docd]

It’s about having absolute control of one’s actions and behavior despite the emotions. I lost a woman for having a panic attack, but I’ve strengthened relationships by crying. It’s about how you handle it and maintain control. It’s an impossible standard to meet, but I know the standard.

[ivanbukac]

This whole interview was her just showing how women don't understand themselves and want men to listen to them. Hilarious.

[AmineOuldKaci]

Let me tell you something, been married for a while now, and only truth can make a marriage flourish. Don't give a fuck about what women want or what men want. Be true to yourself. Be all in show all your insecurities... and if you're with someone willing to tell the truth, they'll do the same. Anything else is social conditioning. Be this, be that... it's all non-sense. Try to always be better, but never be someone else because "women or men" don't like it. It's a short life and everything goes to dust.

[Atius]

Don't listen to what women say they want, give them what they respond to. They will think they want one thing, but they might not know what they actually want until it's in front of them. They go back on their words all the time.

[QuartzTech]

no they dont, cry a few times infront of your girl and see what happens

[chickcrack]

Don't listen to what they say, but watch closely what they do. That is how you will know what they actually want.

[nlysts]

When women say they want a sensitive man she means she wants a man that is sensitive to her needs. Not a crybaby

[dudejoe]

You guys in the comments got it all wrong. They are not saying "open up to me about your feelings" they are saying "open up to me about your feelings (that keeps me attracted to you)". You're not supposed to only cry to her in that moment... you're supposed to tell her how something or someone made you upset and how you overcame it. She wants to hear your CONQUESTS over your insecurities.

When you cry about it and later she uses that against you, to her its proof that you're wrong/weak and she is trying to justify why she is a little less respectful in that heated moment.

A mature and caring women who is truly in tune with what she is communicating is direct in what she wants. She truly is telling you "open up to me about your feelings" without any pseudo meaning behind it.

[MasterMalrubius]

Being sensitive and aware doesn't mean crying. It means not being an asshat first of all and admitting that there are issues you may need help with in life. I doubt many women want someone who is going to be mopey and sad. Many do want a man who is polite, in share and can protect her if someone is a threat.

[fatcatontario]

I think some folks are conflating sensitivity with weakness and immaturity. I don't seek out sensitive men, but I do seek out men who are mature and can communicate well aka understand themselves and master their emotions. If a man crying helps him process some things I would be there for him in a supporting role. People - regardless of gender - have different tools on how they best deal with things. I would rather my partner cry things out and let it out of his system than to internalize it and have a heart attack later on while growing resentment towards me.

[WoFDarkNewton]

The right answer is actually very simple. Women want a man who can be sensitive at the right times, and can be tough at the right times. This requires the development of character to expand beyond your default tendencies. So women are looking for a man with significant character growth. Makes perfect sense. It’s exactly what they should be looking for. Now, work on yourself and become that man.

[rclaws]

Nope, every single woman I've dated and even the one I'm married to has become off-put to the point of ignoring me if I dare open up about even the smallest emotional issue.

"I have myself to worry about, I can't worry about you too." "I shouldn't have to help you feel better about yourself, that should come from within."

The sex dries up instantly, and IF she decides to remain with you, it'll be months and months and months before you earn your way back into her good graces by being unemotional and self-regulating.

Women don't care. All of the women above said, explicitly, they wanted a "sensitive man". But face to face with a guy who opens up, even slightly, there is an immediate disgust and resentment response.

So I don't believe women who say they want sensitivity, or who say they'll even TOLERATE sensitivity. You want the virtue points from saying it, but you'd rather watch us die on our white horses than see us fall off.

[Nah-ah]

Lol I don’t even cry in front of my family or my husband. If I’m having a moment, I say I feel like sh*t! My husband, my father, my brothers have cried at one point or another in my life. We’re all still family and still together. Are people just being cry babies or what’s the deal with being open and actually being honest about how one feels? Bc if you’re dripping in tears and dumping your emotions constantly on your partner/wife/gf on a regular basis, that’s not healthy! I’ve never done that, not even as a teenager!

[brianjones]

When women say they want a sensitive man, they don't mean emotionally unstable, and that's where the problem lies. Don't run to her for comforting, find a way to deal with it and let her decide to come comfort you.

Men are more likely to find matches for long term relationships online if the women know they're going to therapy. It makes the woman secure knowing that the guy isn't gonna dump all his bullshit on her and expect her to help him with it. You can be sensitive and cry a bit during movies and be as expressive as you want, you just can't make it her problem to deal with. Women don't want to feel like they have to baby your feelings, they prefer having the choice to comfort you instead of it being a necessity to your ability to function. If you can function as an adult, deal with your emotions with accountability, and you take time to heal past traumas and baggage and all that shit, your woman will feel secure with you whether or not you're a sensitive man. They just don't want to have to be the one to get you out of the slump, because that screws with the power dynamic and suddenly she's in control of your emotional state in a way that women find unattractive. If you have ways of coping or healing your negative emotions that don't involve her, she might even find that attractive about you and feel more inclined to comfort you in hard times, because she knows you'll get through it anyways with or without her help, and that makes her feel secure in offering her support.

Long story short, be as sensitive as you want, just don't be a baby about it, and that means finding healthy ways to deal with your emotions that don't depend on your woman.