What Women Really Look for in a Partner | Sarah Hill

JBP and Sarah Hill discuss the connection between success, competition, and attraction to Women.

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[bartholetbay]

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

[cdplaya]

I went to a bar/club once with a beautiful girl on a first date and so many women were checking me out. But those random situations won’t occur if you’re embittered towards all women. You just need to be chill and open to the opportunities that come your way. I didn’t end up going home with her, but I wasn’t looking for that anyways. We had a good night. Boosted my self esteem, which I sorely needed. It was good.

[cmg]

Women want security…physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual security…for themselves and any future offspring. The male who can offer safety in those areas is a high value man.

[spindoctor]

I exploited this tactic a lot when I was 17-20. I had a mate who would walk into a club, spend ten seconds on the dance floor and be surrounded by girls for the rest of the night. He couldn't take them all home, that's when I would step in.

[Razear]

Jordan's hypothesis about men rallying around a leader sounds like a quasi-cheerleader effect. There's a reason that so many people gravitate towards clout chasing. Associating oneself with a socially lucrative inner circle can confer a lot of personal benefit. This is exemplified by the adage of, "It's not what you know, but who you know."

[JohnstonJack]

I feel men elevate those who are successful at something because they hope that they themselves will receive the same admiration when they’re able to achieve something. Like a contract of sorts, “I’ll celebrate your greatness now, but you’ve got to celebrate mine later.”

[Duke-cjff]

To be aware of your own mediocrity is not bad. To think this clearly at 18 is half the battle. Find out what you love and become good at it. That should give you the confidence and ability to act cool. Great combo, stronger than catnip.

[ggus]

It's not simply competence, every nerd with the highest grades in his class knows this. It's competence ON SOMETHING WOMEN VALUE, plus physical attractiveness.

You can be the most competent guy in the world, means nothing if it doesn't translate into some benefit for her.

[suggesttwo]

There's safety in numbers. There's wisdom in many councellors. Many hands make lite work.

[I_SuperHiro_I]

It’s actually much simpler than this. Men value competency, but we value loyalty above all else. Competency and generosity attract loyalty, which breeds a collective success.

[anonbattler]

Dr. Peterson, you should look at Simon Sinek's talk "Why Leaders Eat Last". He's a business speaker who studied anthropology and in that talk he goes into the question you raised on why men are willing to elevate other men to alpha status and let them have first choice of mate. Basically, it is because they expect the strongest / most capable / most competent man to be the first one to step forward and protect the group from danger when it arises.

[TheOhioCountryboy]

If you are on a team, and you hoist the star player (or hunter who killed the game) onto your shoulders...yes, they may sleep with the cheerleader that night. But all the men benefit by cooperating as a team. And the next game you may be the star, and get the cheerleader. By aligning with most competent players/hunters, you increase your chances of your competence being recognized.

[mguNn]

Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!

[oller]

"That´s insanely comical"..love that!

[Lbiszz]

You are my favourite preacher. Because you the wisest of them all.

[junevandermark]

“Did you ever stop to think that even if I am a monster, I might be your soulmate anyway?” ~ Julie Johnson, Erasing Faith

[BriggsGuy]

So interesting. Peterson is so on point. I like what he was saying towards the middle of the video... He isn't out of touch like a lot of academics. I have attended a number of fishing events where at the end all the guys do a "fish fry". Thats where everyone contributes all of their fish so that everyone can eat. Sometimes there are 70 people, or maybe 10 or 15 people. What is so interesting about it is that sometimes i dont catch anything and someone else may catch 5 fish or vise versa. The other person with the fish contributes all of his fish so that I can eat. In the end, everyone eats the same amount and no one is eyeing anyone down, all of the providers are always happy to have provided and all of the provided for are thankful to eat just as well as the providers. Its really a wholesome thing to see. Leftists think more politically conservative people are not compassionate but the leftists just arnt there to see examples of when they are very compassionate.

Its technically not fair to the individuals who caught all the fish to feed the underproviders but in the end everyone eats equally and they are actually happy to provide for the pack. I think its because people can see further into the future than that fish fry. They realise the importance of everyone eating and they see the value every individual.

[peekachu]

Finally a brilliant video after a very long time from Peterson.
I see the same spark that he had at his peak.

[Mereologist]

If you have not read it, I highly recommend James Carse's book 'Finite and Infinite Games'. He observes that the entire point of a finite game - ANY finite game - is to produce winners and losers, such that the winners gain and the losers are silenced. Even the losers gain by continuing to remember and support the outcomes of past games because if no finite game's outcome was remembered and supported, there would be no point to the game at all. So long as the game continues to exist, even losers may have a chance to win it at a future time, at which time they will want those results to be remembered and supported. The other way is to play wholly different kinds of games - infinite games - with not only no winners or losers but no beginning or ending. But in this context, finding a mate is necessarily a finite game because there can only be one winner for a particular mate and everyone else loses, and that mate's fertility is very bounded in time.

[Raymond-rriv]

I took many years for me to realize that in spite of everything life is really beautiful. Since then, everything is better.