What Qualities Do Women Actually Look for in a Man? What Women REALLY Want Dating Over 50!

What qualities do women actually look for in a man dating over 50? That’s the question Dating Coach Sandy Weiner asked her Facebook group of nearly 4,000 women. Spoiler alert: It’s not what many men think! So, what do women really want in a man? Whether you’re a man or a woman, you’ll find Sandy’s survey helpful!

Sandy Weiner, Dating Coach and Chief Love Officer of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women (and men) achieve healthy, off-the-charts love in the 2nd half of life. She's an internationally known dating coach, blogger, radio host, communications expert, and TEDx speaker.

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[magsteel]

As the immortal words of the great philosopher ZZ Top said:

Clean shirt, new shoes
And I don't know where I am goin' to
Silk suit, black tie (black tie)
I don't need a reason why

They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man

Gold watch, diamond ring
I ain't missin' not a single thing
Cufflinks, stick pin
When I step out I'm gonna do you in

They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man

Top coat, top hat
And I don't worry 'cause my wallet's fat
Black shades, white gloves
Lookin' sharp, lookin' for love

They come runnin' just as fast as they can
'Cause every girl crazy 'bout a sharp-dressed man

[mypov]

Great advice that works for both women and men! I do respect anyone that walks the talk and exemplifies by their own actions what they want in another person...ie...be the person you want to attract! Music to my ears is when I hear something like this..."I take responsibility for my past issues and here is what I am doing about it" and that quote certainly applies to me as well!

[juanitahardy]

I want honesty, loyalty, sincerity, clean living person, who eats sensibly and takes care of his health. I am 74 and want a man who can keep pace with me. No couch potatoes or players need apply.

[jogibson]

Great discussion. I’ve been in a relationship for four years. We are both 65. I’ve been a widow for 12 years. At the start we said we both wanted honesty. We each agreed to answer any question we asked with honesty. There is attraction and good communication. He ticks all the boxes so much so I worry he is too good to be true and why did anyone let him go. He has been married twice.. He takes ownership for his part in what went wrong and says I’m getting the best version now. We are SLAC now which is Seniors Living Apart Committed. I love this arrangement but I think the time will come when he will want marriage. This leaves me fearful. I’m afraid things will change if we live together.

[tcpspbk]

Sandy is so soft spokken...she is great!!!!..Plus a lot of important information!!!

[joerockhead]

'chemistry and compatibility is the secret sauce'. Got it. they've been mutually exclusive so far. thanks for sharing Silke, & Sandy. I enjoyed this episode.

[stevewuertz]

Excellent. Thank you. I'd like to suggest a further deeper exploration of the "Love Languages" topic. We (both M&F) often mistakenly assume that when we are actively trying to engage, support etc we come away baffled when we miss the mark when we consciously approach a topic and then completely hit on the wrong approach

[DD-icbd]

Excellent conversation ladies! Always love Sandy's insights!! The chemistry and compatibility is sooo important... compatibility on important views and values is key to a long lasting successful relationship.. and you have to feel sexual attraction... if either are missing... chances are it won't work for the long term... that's what I've leaned! Thank you Silke! Xoxo

[woodliceworm]

I once saw a writing describing all the things that would be great in a man, the tale ended with if you find all that give me some of what your smoking. I think that sums it up because no man will ever be perfect, and the decay of age does lead us to the more grumpy more often. What I think is most valuable, is finding someone who does not have an emotional pathology, the main ones narcs cluster B etc stand out after a few engagements but there are some that simply damage or makeup has made them unable to form any type of deep bond no touching kissing and off flirting with everyone in public, coupled with unequal expectations ie laziness in common tasks - this applies to men and women.
So I get what Sandy says about men not moving like the caveman with a club as I am like that, partial facial blindness doesn't help the inability to determine someone's level of interest is not uncommon but it is clear that this can be frustrating.
As for talking, I do talk a lot about reconfiguring the power networks to allow more renewable generation to be integrated and the complexities thereof, don't have many dates although the woman at the bookshop seemed quite interested,

[indianahoosier]

See... now I'm not one to talk about myself much unless asked. I have always asked questions and tried to really concentrate on the answers given. I'm more interested in them because I feel like my life has been kind of boring. Don't get me wrong though... I could tell a tale or two about myself. To me it is more about learning about them though...

[aaronfogelsanger]

Men don't care what selfish women want anymore
You want equal rights, you got it
Chivalry is Dead

[squaretriangle]

I think all this therapy only ked to people being more and more neurotic and what I expect from a dating expert that at least he/she him/herself dated successfully, because actions speak louder than words😊

[briar]

Responsibility ? Ha ! I have heard of a woman saying she was sorry once. But I really think it was a myth

[gmcacadia]

I enjoy your videos but feel there is more to come. I think you need to address other issues. I am just about to turn 75 and recently widowed. I have met a few women but I feel most just want a friend rather than an intimate relationship. Some cannot picture themselves having sex with someone rather than their late husband. Possibly looking for a man who resembles the former husband. I had coffee with a nice woman two weeks ago After 4 years of widowhood, still wearing wedding rings. She is either not looking or the rings provide some deterence. I've pretty much stuck with Silver Singles since I think the other dating sites SUCK big time. My wife was disable and with a declining relationship, have been sexless for around 15 years. I need to get laid. Almost ready to look for a F**k Buddy site.

[joedonlewis]

I've learned that anytime there's a bilateral agreement with a woman, she has to go first.

[haziel]

Unfortunately I think digital devices will take an increasingly larger part in our lives.

[andrewblue]

This is “Unicorn Dating Advice”

You are talking about a very small percentage of men.

I enjoy this channel. But I am telling you these dating coaches and experts are not dealing with what I have seen in this culture.

You have your other guy on and he is nice. But he holds back. You might want to have someone come on to really tell you what it is like out there.

There are so many older women who can and should be great companions.

They just need to get out of their own way.

[ronmance]

I think one of the biggest obstacles these days in a relationship is politics 😎

[lutzfilor]

What the heck why don’t women don’t live up to their own standards. Consistency, kindness, friendliness, politeness all things I teach my daughter but she seems this is not applying to her. And sorry as prettier the women the more she lives with double standards.

[eddy]

Come on ladies, women want a "Tall, Dark and Handsome guy" oh ya, and the keys to his Ferrari in the garage and his unlimited Gold card!! Us guys all know ;)