How to Cope with Loss - Mended Light

How to Cope with Loss - Mended Light//

Ever wondered how to cope with loss, what is the meaning of grief, or what does it mean to recognize your grief triggers? Grief triggers are very positive after losing someone and you will need those positive support mechanisms after a loss!

Whether it's a loved one, friend, acquaintance; it's hard to deal with the loss of someone. Many people experience this so you aren't alone! Click the video now to learn how to cope with loss and begin to move forward!

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[karinavargas]

Also, if you had the chance to know the person who passed away, it's really healing to know that we are not the only ones who remember them. A small comment like "those were their favorites, right?" it's really powerfull.

[moozaaldoseri]

it feels so validating to hear "that loss stays with them forever"

[Jessikared]

Sometimes I could tell that my friends didnt know what to say. Some of them acted normal as long as I did and I needed that. Some just asked me what I needed and they would either go about our day like normal or let me cry on them for a bit. Some would let me make very bad jokes that might make others uncomfortable and would laugh with me.

The best one was my friend Ben who, as we approached each other from opposite ends of the hallway, saw the look on my face and just opened his arms. I went to him and sobbed for a good 20 minutes in the hall and (I know this sounds like a bad rom com but I swear it really happened) when I finally drug my face from his chest to wipe my eyes, about 10 of my theatre friends were gathered around us with their arms around me/hands patting and rubbing my back. No one said any words. They were just there. And I will never forget the love I felt from them in that silent moment.

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[thecakeisalie]

Thank you for this video. I really needed it right now. Today I contacted a friend with depression and he obviously needed help because he was grieving and was very depressed. he said something that scared me, that he sees no way out of his pain. I drove to him in the evening till night and we talked, also about stupid and silly things. There were moments when he seemed to be ok. I encouraged him to speak to his therapist tomorrow about what he said to me earlier and decide with her what to do next because I cannot do that. I do not have the knowledge to do that. But I ensured him that I am there for him and can lend him a shoulder, listen to him or give him a hug. I felt he was at least okay for now when I had to leave.

Now I am sitting here, cannot sleep and overthinking what I said and did. Was it enough? And I hope he will really contact his therapist tomorrow and do not something stupid. I feel pretty helpless because I cannot understand his depression. I fear I failed to help him.
Now I hope I did at least something right.

So thank you for making this video. It helped me today.

[Allpaka]

Very good friend and former girlfriend of mine has passed away two days ago. This is about the only channel I can bear watching to break the silence, thank you.
I'm meeting her best friend next week, who's been there for her during those last few days. Looking forward to exchange some memories.

[elizabethconley]

Having lost a pet recently, I needed this and understand completely. My lovely bf is such a great help but knowing I'm not the only one greiving& knowing I have so many people who care& understand is so amazing. It hasn't been that long and Valentines day was so hard, but day by day I'm able to move forward.

[wigglybacon]

My best friend just got a terminal diagnosis, from what I’ve read about his condition he probably only has like 2 years left. It’s a kind of grief I haven’t experienced, mourning someone who’s still here, the effects of what’s going to kill him already visible. I find myself doing what you were talking about… I’m so awkward, I know nothing I say can make things better. I don’t want to just talk about the latest episodes of our favorite shows because that seems so shallow. I don’t want to put my grief on him because he’s dealing with so much more than me. Thank you for this… it reminded me that I just need to be there for him, I don’t want him to feel isolated on top of everything.

[kierlak]

Brene Brown's video on empathy can also be a great guidance.

When people suffer they just want someone to sit with them in their pain. Not giving advice, not trying to fix things, etc. Just be there ❤ As simple as that...

[activpanda]

I lost my dad 3 days ago and i feel like this video helped me alot in figuring out what i can do to help my mom and sister as well as myself

[natk]

A friend of ours died during lockdown in a horrible accident on his farm and until that moment I've never understood the purpose of funerals in helping everyone try to cope.

I felt helpless knowing his partner was in our town but we couldn't see her. I got a huge box of groceries and left it at her home with a card but it felt so so inadequate.

His fellow ambulance volunteers and friends (like hubby) couldn't even catch up to celebrate him. Nor could they talk in person and comfort his friends on duty who had to try save him.

I learnt that when you lose someone you care about it really helps to be around people who also care. Just to talk, to remember, celebrate, laugh even. Not being able to do those things has made coping with the loss of our friend much harder.

[CareyHAuthor]

The hardest thing about dealing with my dad's death is that he's not here to watch my daughter and her cousins grow. He adored his grandbabies. They were his "3 favorite people." But, I keep a photo of him holding my daughter for the first time on my computer and, as crazy as this may sound, I talk to it sometimes. Or, I'll address a letter to him in my journal. I'm also working on leaving my job. I work at the nursing home where he was at for hospice care and my chest tightens every time I walk through those doors.

[banirahman]

I lost my dad last August and then my mom this January. I noticed that I love to talk about them. Nothing interests me more than talking about them.

[MamaWearsManyHats]

I’ve been going through a lot of
Your videos on grief lately. We lost our sweet baby girl last September after a 393 Day NICU stay. I thought the NICU was isolating, but losing a child and then having the majority of people you know pull back to “give you space” was just insult to injury. For me, the most supportive and sweetest things have been being able to talk about my girl. I still meet regularly with her primary nurses and we share memories and laugh and it is the closest to feeling like normal or home.

I think the worst thing you can do is shame a grieving person for their emotions or how long it is taking them to grieve. Everyone else is able to get back to normal
Life while those immediately effected never get that. We have three other kiddos and are expecting another, but every family picture will always be a reminder that there should be another little girl in them. So allowing people the time they need and understanding some days are harder than other can make a world of difference.

But people talking about her is the best balm for this mama heart.❤

[supcal]

I am here from the Cinema Therapy Big Hero 6 video. I never leave comments, but I hope this video gets seen by many more people.

I lost 6 family members in 4 years, all before turning 22. Almost as hard as the loss was the isolation I felt. Not once did a friend reach out, besides within the first week with a “they are in a better place” line. I grew to hate sentiments like that, but through extensive therapy I came to understand that not many people at my age could relate. Anyways, not only did I lose my dad, my uncle (who was basically my 2nd dad), and all my grandparents, I also lost my friends and eventually myself. It was so lonely and still is sometimes. All I wanted was for someone to make an effort. It felt so unfair that if I wanted to maintain any friendship, I had to reach out while simultaneously navigating grief. I am 24 now and only have 1 friend that I had before all the deaths. Honestly, it sucks.

My advice for anyone helping a friend that is grieving is to just be there. If you dont know how to do that emotionally, be physically present for them. I wanted someone to just come over without me asking. I did not need any advice or soothing words, but to just not feel alone. I needed someone to be ‘annoying’ and show up even when Id say I was fine. To bring over food (because god knows I would go days w/o eating because I could not leave my bed). To just sit next to me in silence. To be a constant when I felt so much abandonment.

I hope this can help at least one person. It means more than you know to the person that is grieving that they are not alone.

[imintrouble]

I had a best friend I met a year after her dad passed away. From the stories I've heard about the dad, he was really a saint and his loss is impossible to bear for my friend. I always liked when she told little things and meaningful stories about him. I feel sad not knowing him while he was alive.

I really love my friend, and she is so deep in grief and depression, it pains me not being able to ease it at all.
She has a strong personality and always is the life of the party, but I think it's just a coping mechanism for her. She numbs her pain with partying and alcohol. At first I liked that she introduced me to a whole new social experience, but after a while I couldn't keep up with her. I thought she dragged me down with her to a place I didn't want to be. I focused less on the things I thought were important in my life. I didn't enjoy partying at all after a while, it was too much. This annoyed the hell out of her.

We'd get into fights more often over meaningless things. After one of these fights she just shut me out of her life, and didn't want to have any contact with me. I tried fix things with her, she blocked me on all social sites. And now we haven't talked in 2 months.

As wrong as it may sound, I feel a bit lighter now that she isn't part of my life. But I am worried that she won't seek help from anyone, and will spend her life in self-destructiom. She thinks she is alone in her grief, even though she has a big family.

I feel like me being there for her and listening to her just wasn't enough. I should've done more, and it's too late for that now.

[denicewelch]

I really like this video, my mom passed away 4 1/2 years ago sometimes it feels like a long time ago sometimes it feels like it was just recent. Something that has helped me is to see her legacy and the great memories we had together. It doesn't get easier especially when big events or even small things like wanting to talk to her about my day. But i know she is always in my heart. It has been hard but a learning experience for me personally. It has helped me to mourn with those that are in mourning and to better understand them.

[eval]

I wished my family had been more openly caring when my dad passed away this year. But I guess they were trying to hold their own feelings of grief together. We all just kind of carried on with life as best as we could but there are moments when I do think of my dad and the memories I shared with him.

[inspectorbutters]

I came here because a loss may be striking my family soon, and I kind of wanted to prepare for the worst. Here's hoping I won't need the knowledge I gained here all too soon.

[amelia-fleur]

My grief happened when I was very young as I lost my little brother when he was born which feels like a different kind of grief; the loss of a potential rather than what was. Also, how a grieving kid looks may be quite different to an adult as didn't understand yet what grief or depression was. So that came out as a lot of anger. Then I moved primary that turned into being extremely quiet and growing up more quickly for my age, mature was a comment I got a lot later on. There was not a support system at all, a lot of it was normal every day to day life and not comprehending fully what was going on. My family didn't tell the next school I moved to what was going on as the last school had handled it really poorly. When it did come out in a recount peice of writing I managed to shock my teacher and throw the class into a bit of chaos with this death experience, they handled it better and gave me a normal space/ new environment which I needed but it still didn't ever get addressed with me, it felt like something that shocked everyone. Also, because of my lack of social skills from my grief I ended up going quiet for many years to observe how others socialized normally.

I've got a friend who's just lost a grandparent at the moment thank you for this video it really helps knowing how to support. 💛🐉