Self Sabotage: How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

Let's talk about self sabotage. You may or may not realize you're doing it. Today we explore all the ways we hold ourselves back, why we do it, and how to stop doing it. Comment below with examples of your own self sabotaging - once you're aware of it, you can begin to change it!

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Aileen Xu
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I’m Aileen, a lifestyle blogger sharing knowledge and inspiration on creating your dream life.

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[helenachongyx]

Recently I just realized I'm sabotaging myself through :
-procrastination
- unhealthy binge eating
- sleep at odd hours
- and occasionally skipping my skincare routine.

BTW, thanks for the informational video.

[ThinkCitric]

It took me a year to cure myself from these mind blocks, to stop thinking about "what if" and just go after my dream. I was overthinking things, I was constantly stressed out. But I found something that worked for me: I've listed all my fears in a notepad, and once I've read them out loud they sounded so ridiculous that I was not afraid anymore. :))
I didn't accomplish what I desire yet, but during the last year I've learned to enjoy the journey. :)

[nahark]

I have been always that girl who is scared, afraid of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Couple of months ago I came out from a one sided relationship with my husband after almost 13 years. Moved with my mother and sibling. Got a job and trying to finish my degree.

[ay]

1. recognise when and how you self sabotage
2. believe that you deserve whatever you're working towards
3. Learn to manage your fears and do it in spite of them
4.know that you're stronger than you think

[SamIsWatchingU]

The irony of me watching a video about self sabotage while self sabotaging 😂👏

[courtneynicole]

I feel like my biggest self sabotage is taking on way too many things at once. Then I get overwhelmed and start procrastinating, and can’t give my best to all of the things I’ve taken on. I just get excited about too many projects at the same time🙈

[telaguy]

Ways self-sabotaging myself
- negative belief systems
- being victim
- procrastination
- fear of failure and growing out of my comfort zone
- doubting myself
- being too nice
Thank you for your video 😊 it helped me alot on my journey to transformation.

You have the power to change how you lived in the past by what you do today and practice it 💯 I'm currently learning. Good to know I'm not the only one growing out of this.

[christinamariemoney]

This is so important! I think we hold ourselves back a lot in life because we don’t believe we are able to achieve what we truly desire and would rather not know than see ourselves fail. I’m always trying to push myself out of my comfort zone because of this, and remind myself that I can do anything I set my mind to! ❤️❤️

[ErikaK]

Be aware of your thoughts, words and actions. Have a positive self-talk, create a positive and strong relationship with yourself and never give up on your goals and yourself. You can do anything, you just need to believe yourself worthy of success and love and believe yourself capable of reaching your fullest potential.

[baddiariari]

I sabotage myself by eating more when I want to lose weight, developing a unhealthy mindset with food and body image. I feel like the more I want to reach my goal, the more I let myself lose control. I found out, with your help, that by breaking my goal into small tasks and focusing on one at a time I can make small but firm steps. I also procastinate a lot with certain homework/exams so I :
- make a list of the things that I have to do (the more detailed the better)
- make sure that I have enough time to finish each task ( I only let myself take breaks, but: no leaving things undone).
-treat myself with something I like/ is good for me when I finish something.
Treating ourselves is very important.We need an incetive to push ourselves to work harder. Sometimes we don´t see results inmediatly and we get fustrated.We(or I) need to learn that great things take time, and that time is never wasted.


I also found out that when I procastinate because of boredome, I tend to do other productive things and forget about that task.
The only thing that helps me is making priorities and trying to be more persistent with it.


Hope it wasn´t boring :) I love your videos and I hope this helps someone else.


Love from Spain <3

[lynnicecarter]

I almost self sabotaged myself out of a great job opportunity. I had a friend at my job that told me about this new position opening in her department. I was 3 yrs in my current position in another department. I really got the hang of my work flow and could do it with my eyes closed. Yes! I was comfortable. It was a dream position. It offered better hours better pay better benefits than what I was receiving. So what was my problem. FEAR and PROCRASTINATION! Those are my main sabotaging traits. My friend asked me a whole WEEK late if I submitted my resume and I told her NO. She was like WHAT ARE U WAITING FOR😩😡😂 I simply said IDK 🤷🏽‍♀️ so that day I asked myself that question again and I took a leap of faith and submitted my resume. I didn’t hear anything back for weeks AND THEN! right before I was getting to leave work a couple of weeks ago I get a phone call to set up a phone interview 🤗 and was offered the job the next day. I have learned a valuable lesson about self sabotaging and that is DONT DO IT!!! You will miss out on great things. Thank Aileen for this video🥰💗 First day on new job October 7, 2019🤗

[SamIsWatchingU]

Yess early again! I feel attacked 😂 this came right at the moment when I stated procrastinating my studying. Much needed 👏

[fukittyx]

sometimes Lavi’s videos are like a punch in the face, like i’m “waking up for reality”... it’s hard to admit i’m doing all this with myself, but i’m so grateful for being aware of my mistakes, that’s when you grow! love u Lavendaire, thank you <3

[ossen]

*“I’m not good enough”*
When we care for societal construction and try to adopt a characters that benefits others beliefs. The path is unique, follow the inner voice.

[danicafaerie]

this video reminded me of a great quote ive been loving recently- “its always wise to ask yourself whether you’re failing on purpose to avoid failing at your purpose” definitely a quote that gets you thinking!🤔 thought you might like it ♡

[muchloveinmyheart]

I am literally the root to all of my problems. My consistent self sabotage has encouraged me to start lashing out at others, lashing out at myself. I’ve spent so much of my life living in fear, I’m going to enter the adult world lost because I spent so much time hiding away trying to find comfort. This video really helped.

[GarySwaby]

I'm a big offender of this. I have to really push myself to keep going and to realise my value and self-worth. I take a big leap forwards and then sabbotage myself little by little until I'm back at step 1. Thanks for this video.

[Rayowag]

As someone that has anxiety disorder I constantly relearn and repeat these steps but that also teaches me new things every time. Great video, Aileen!

[missjasminenicole]

Right after she said that happiness was a choice I just told myself “I feel really happy, ” and started smiling like a lunatic, and sure enough the dopamine shot through my system and now I honestly feel really happy. Mind over matter.

[shake_ikura_mentaiko.]

This is so true and I know that it's only me telling myself “I'm not worthy like him/her. And I’m not gonna do well anyway” but I’m too afraid of the failure I predicted in my head or maybe responsibilities that will come with it or some other people’s eyes or whatever