5 Reasons Why We Self Sabotage

In this video, we're going to talk about why we self sabotage. And, more importantly, how to stop self sabotaging. Self sabotage is a behavior that we do on a regular basis without realizing it. It's usually a result of negative thoughts that we keep hidden from ourselves. And, as you'll see in this video, it can have a negative impact on our lives and our relationships.

So why don't we talk about these negative thoughts? Because, if we can start to talk about them, we can start to change them. And that's why this video is so important. By learning about the reasons why we self sabotage, we can start to change our behavior and live our lives to the fullest.


Writer: Syazwana Amirah
Editor: Rida Batool
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Animation: AwesomeKickArt
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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[funnytv-]

Due to fear of failure...sometimes we sabotage to avoid taking risks or facing potential failure. This can stem from low self esteem or past negative experiences

[iPLAYtheSTATION]

"But at least when you are the captain of the ship, sinking into the deep sea knowingly feels more manageable and hurts less than when it happens unexpectedly."
This is me exactly. This is why people like me catastrophize and assume worst case scenario, so the pain is a lot less if it actually happens. When I am unprepared for it, it feels catastrophic.

[rikitikitavatiki]

Self-loathing -> self-sabotage -> belief that goals are pointless because you screw everything up and nothing will ever change -> what's the point of life, exactly?

Yep, that's me.

[starletjoachim]

The only person who will never let you down is yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others, you are unique, just like everybody else. And if you think nobody cares about you, remember there are billions of cells inside your body which only care about you.

[nicholasleipzig]

Your videos make the mental problem representation very simple. My family really sucks they make me feel like a big headache. They simply don't want to change. They are ruining their life and mine too. Negativity is growing on me and I can't do anything but cry in my room most of the time. The feeling of envy for people who are surrounded by good and caring people really sucks. I will ensure that once I grow up as an adult my past won't interfere with my career and desires.

[Wind_Cursed]

I'm crying right now, this is too relatable😭
I already knew before I watched this that I'm ruining every chance I get at something greater and something I desire, but it just hurts so much when all of this seems to be calling out everything I do. It's like someone telling me I need to get better and stop destroying everything I enjoy, but it's not that simple! So far the only solution I have to this problem is just digging this problematic hole bigger and I can't stop!
But, unlike most people, this isn't caused by trauma in my past. No, this is caused by FEAR of those traumatic experiences happening to me. I'm already broken enough, I don't need more cracks! 😭

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). Your own worst enemy 1:02
2). Puppet master 2:05
3). Impostor among us 3:14
4). Neurons that fire together wired together 4:10
5). Relationship trauma 5:23

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[Neujack.The.Demigod]

thats fist line of "finding the one and fell into unreasonably antagonistic behavior for you to push them away" hit me so hard i started to cry for how truthful that is. It hurts so bad and i never wanted that person to be a lesson when they were definitely a

[thatpersonyoudontknow]

I ALWAYS learn things the hardest way. ALWAYS to the point where the consequences outweigh the goals. Guess some people were made with purpose, others just ended up here on accident.

[rootsofeternity]

Through a myriad of circumstances that I won’t get into here, I’ve taken a position as a life coach for a few people in my area. The #1 facet I focus on is eliminating fear. Once that fear barrier is removed, the sky’s the limit for these people, who have been conditioned over the course of their lives to hear “it’s a pipe dream, there’s too many people better than you at “X”, you’ve never been good at anything….” and the number one thing they’ve heard…”you only get disappointed if you go for “X”. Truthfully in my younger years I heard and subscribed to this mindset. Now I live in fear of not trying, not climbing, not taking a chance to better myself and my family. It’s hard to look back on the opportunities I let go over the years because I was afraid to fail. Sorry for writing a book guys, but I hope this helps some of you all! Hugs and positive vibes from the Roots of Eternity family! ❤

[wayneheidlebaugh]

I've done everything humanly possible to avoid self sabotage. but no matter what I do to achieve my goals I am confronted by the same old road blocks. These are circumstances beyond my control. I concentrate on the positive in everything I do but still getting no where. It's as if I'm stuck in a loop. I take the straight and always end up back where I've started But I'm still bound and determined not to let anything stand in my way. What must I do to take control of the things I can't control, pray? That's all I've been doing.

[_firesans_]

I push people away because i don't want to hurt them, or because i can't help them through tough times ♡

[houseplantnerd]

I've struggled to be successful at anything and everything is a self doubt mess.

[Moraenil]

The first one is definitely me. But, I also know it was brought about by how I was treated by my parents, grandparents, "friends", teachers, pretty much everyone. I was constantly told how I was never good enough and how nothing I ever did was right (still hear it constantly in my 40s, it's never stopped), and when you hear something enough, you believe it. And when that kind of attitude is attributed, not only to things you try to do, but who you are as a person, it destroys you, utterly and completely. And because this was all I heard about me all my life, and I believe it, how can I not sabotage myself when everything I've ever done in my life as proven to me that I can't ever do anything right by anyone? I'm also very afraid of success of any kind, because I've never really had it, and I know that expectations will go from too high to even higher, thereby making it even more impossible to ever see true success or be happy.

[zackzz]

I blame myself sometimes for the reaction of people and feel bad and blame myself. It’s hard trying to understand if I’m in the wrong or they’re in the wrong and don’t deserve a second chance.

[strudelh]

I tend to self sabotage a lot, especially with friendships because of my low self-esteem and insecurities. I'm extremely self aware, which means i'm also very critical of myself. That's why I avoid my friends (people in general) and isolate myself. If I could afford therapy I would definitely try it. 😭

[minermole]

This! I feel like I really do have this problem. Self-sabotage sucks!

[DaxVerus]

Learned recently I need love, need self acceptance and self worth to finally heal my inner child and gain emotional maturity. I self sabatoge so much of my growth. Its a slow progress and while I'm going backwards right now I am aware, so it's improvement to me from years ago

[warrenbradford]

I relate to number 1, your own worst enemy. I first heard of this quote when Gouken in Super Street Fighter 4 said this. I try my best to avoid the negativity and anger dictate my actions. I actively learn how to be a better person everyday, so I can be my own best teacher.

[nicolethebest]

The first minute was a shoot out for me lol called me out on my entire being

Edit: this whole video killed me lol can you make a video how to not self sabotage