why you self sabotage & how to stop

When things are going well, we tend to look for ways to mess them up. From your career, to your health goals and relationships. I'm currently on a journey of learning how to stop self sabotaging and buying into fear. Let's talk about what is self sabotage, why we do it, and how to stop self sabotage.

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0:00-1:09
1:09 why we self sabotage
3:40 how to stop: meditation
5:05 today's sponsor!
6:32 doing the (emotional) work
9:04 building confidence with small promises

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~faq~
age: 23
race: black

[janayemasters]

Damn nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m tired of feeling bad about myself

[By_Ash_Away]

It's like my therapist paid you to make this video LMAO. She's been talking about how meditation could really help me out and I have gone through periods of it but of course I self sabotage THAT. Did some last night tho, thanks so much for your videos and I hope that you are able to find some peace too!!

[lorileeelliott]

12:19 sometimes the self-sabotage is because you are scared that something may be too good to be true like you said, but it could also be that you don't really want what you are working towards anymore. Either because it's not big enough (i.e. it actually doesn't scare you enough) or you are just a new person. New level, new devils applies to dreams/goals too.

[DesertRockCoJewelry]

I’ve been reading the book The Mountain Is You and it’s all about self sabotaging behaviors and it’s a really great insightful read so far

[butterbeer]

It’s crazy how this happens. When things are going amazing, sometimes I find I’m forcing myself to not be happy, waiting for the shoe to drop because things are too good to be true.
But for me it’s about letting go of control and to allow myself to be uncomfortable to get where I want to be. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[itscrystalstevens]

Journaling has helped me make sense of so many of my intrusive thoughts. Whenever one comes in I remind myself that thoughts are just thoughts, I have the power to validate or invalidate them. It’s my choice what to believe and how to act. Limiting beliefs are meant to keep us stagnant, which is why I think it’s also important to keep your bigger picture goal in mind. Reassess — will giving in to this thought get me to where I want to be? Would I say this to anyone else? And then I usually feel better because it serves as a reminder that I’m the one in control.

[On_Point]

I needed this message today! I’m in the process of getting out of my head, staying consistent with my routine, re-program of subconscious mind for a stronger, self motivating mindset and overall stop distracting myself :)

Side-note: don’t call yourself ‘dumb’ even with a sarcastic tone. You’re very wise!

[DrRebeccaHeiss]

It is so easy to be a victim of self-sabotaging thoughts. It can be difficult to believe in your worth when you are putting yourself down, feel like an imposter, don't set boundaries, and make sacrifices only for others and never for yourself. When we let go of what is holding us back from living authentically and take back our thoughts, then we can be free and live #fearless. Thanks for this video!

[martinameyer]

I was literally just watching a TikTok video of Brianna Wiest, the author of “The Mountain Is You”, explaining self-sabotage and then suddenly your video pops up on my phone totally out of the blue. I feel like the universe is giving me some signs here and I couldn’t be more grateful for that! Also your video was so helpful, thank youu beautiful soul 🙏🏻♥️

[promhart]

Super extra, but… I got fired from my job a couple hours ago & as soon as I got home I kept feeling like I needed someone to get encouraging words from & to see your uploads. This video being posted mere minutes ago wasn’t a coincidence… and like you said, the universe is on our sides. This is the second time I’ve been fired right before my birthday and it feels like spirit calling me to stop selling myself short… so I’m gonna finally listen. Thank you for your words & all the great content you make 💕

[tla]

This really spoke to me on a deep deep level. I try to understand who and what I am everyday and that leads to negative. I need to slow down the pace of this life and stop letting my mind speed it up. Thank you Lynette

[jayleigh]

this felt like a big sister giving advice 🧚‍♀️ as a big sister myself, thanks for being mine today

[KassinMarie]

😵 I literally experienced your exact example this morning… I sat down to journal and meditate and as soon as it came time to meditate my brain started saying, “well that’s an extra 15-20 minutes of productivity that you’re losing out on. You could just jump into work and get started right away”. I ended up being able to push through it and had the best meditation in a while! So crazy though that our mind does this!! Tries to convince us not to do what I actually really wanted to do this morning and looked forward to doing but my brain had other motives 😂 love this video topic!! ♥️

[irenemigliaccio]

It happens to me whenever i start to dress more elegant, i noticed that a part of my brain literally says to me: Who do you think you are to improve? And i feel voices in my head of people that when i was younger bullied me or tried to let me down whenever something good happened to me related to my external appearence. I observe this and try to journal to understand what's going on.

[StinkyDula]

bruhhh I feel the same way... I was passing my 8 week (we had to set up our online equipment) so really 6 week C# summer class and I would legit let myself goof off and hang out with my friends and family and would feel guilty about not submitting my assignments and got behind. I luckily passed but my professor taught me a lesson "you are smarter than you give your self credit for " her words 🥺

[margaretoaikena]

OMG! Are you in my head? This is so on point. Thank you for pushing past the self-sabotaging thoughts and making this video. Keep going!

[hannahhanson]

I've been talking to my ex and then I feel like I'm doing something so wrong just for thinking that I should talk to him. I've been doing inner work and changing myself for the best, and this was exactly what hits home.

[girlwiththecurlyfro]

I always hit the like button 5 seconds in because you always deliver so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing your story with us Lynette.

[saverajzane]

hi i just wanted to say i'm a person who's currently learning to break through my bad habits and really start the journey to grow & heal. i've been watching your videos for the last couple of days and i just wanna say thank you. it gives me motivation to really break out of that cycle of being scared to start a yt channel or even other goals i have and it is much appreciated 💕

[thetiktokvault]

I always am holding my breath to see when things will fall apart