How To End SELF-SABOTAGING HABITS & Stop WASTING Your Life Away In 2024 | Dr. Gabor Maté

Dr. Gabor Maté is a renowned speaker and bestselling author and is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics, including addiction, stress, and childhood development. Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction, When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection, and Scattered: How Attention Deficit Disorder Originates and What You Can Do About It and has co authored Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers. For his groundbreaking medical work and writing, he has been awarded the Order of Canada, his country’s highest civilian distinction. His latest book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture, was just released. His next book, Hello Again: A Fresh Start for Parents and Their Adult Children, is expected in 2023. Gabor is also a codeveloper of a therapeutic approach, Compassionate Inquiry, now studied by hundreds of therapists, physicians, counselors, and others internationally.

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[philippedefossez]

He deserves a Nobel prize for his work.

[FloresRojasFilm]

As a former political prisoner of the Pinochet dictatorship of Chile and exiled in California since 1976 I would like to thank Gabor Maté for his work. I understand now the effect of my personal traumas on my family. How my two girls have been affected by my personal story of incarceration, torture and exile. It’s not too late to do my own self work. Thanks !

[amber]

When i had cancer, my husband showed his true colors that i could no longer ignore. The deceit and emotional neglect had always been there. The 2 woke me up and i got out.

[pamelamohn]

So many people are walking through life with an orphaned spirit.

[janearnott]

Dr Mate is ahead of his time. It is such a shame the leaders in our countries aren't able to be as enlightened and humble for the good of all people. May wisdom prevail in the world to this level.

[loulh]

Thank you Dhru for having Dr Mate on your podcast.
You allowed Dr Mate to talk and with no interruptions. That’s a true excellent podcaster. You didn’t throw out conversation to make yourself look like the “know it all guy”. You respectfully allowed Dr Mate to converse openly.
Great podcasting Dhru!!❤

[marianmccarter]

If you only ever watch one of Gabor’s talks, this is the one. It is pure gold.

[mrsdanmiller]

I was given five years to live back in 2008 when I was diagnosed with chronic pancreatitis. One year later I married a wonderful kind man who failed to tell me he had been diagnosed with a colon mass in 2007. We had a beautiful loving nurturing 12 year marriage when I realized his health was failing and he told me that he had thought I would die before him. He was given six months to live but died in three weeks. I have had no signs or symptoms of pancreatitis since 2011. He has been gone for 18 months. I asked God to allow my joy to return so I could accomplish good in what time I have remaining. My joy was restored and I uncontrollably shouted with praise, song and dance as a close friend was eyewitness to the elation. So may wonders of which we are yet unaware.

[belogical]

If that's not the most beautiful thing I've heard today I will be surprised.
When he said he wrote the book with his son and they had to work out their traumas while writing and then they had a better relationship afterwards!
That is nothing less than a miracle.

[philrossner]

It really struck home to me when Gabor alluded to the fact that coming out through the other side of intense suffering, whatever form that may have taken, a person may find themselves stripped of all the 'junk' that led them into that vortex of pain in the first place and find themselves in a mental place that affirms the truth of who they really are. I can attest to this - after a lifetime of finding myself in a state of clinical depression on a fairly regular basis, with the last one being sustained in my life for just over 3 1/2 years... when I finally emerged from that episode, it was akin to a rebirth. Within a year, I found the courage to leave a 39 year marriage that hadn't been working for years. I moved out, met a wonderful lady and my life completely changed for the better... I now have so much creative energy and feel so good about myself, my life, my relationships. I had previously not thought this kind of life was possible in those many past years, all the way back to my early teens. I had been lost to the world, but now I have really found myself and I feel SO grateful.

[annaweiers]

Gabors lectures are always educational. My life was transformed by his book scattered minds. What a wonderful, brilliant, humble man, a gift to the world!

[doctorstreamspunk]

I think all addiction is a response to loneliness. Isolation. Every addict I know can be lonely even in the midst of a crowd. The isolation is a profound internal experience and it can only be ended from within.

[PapaEATSYOMama]

I just bought this man’s 4 book set off Amazon to support his work. Absolute genius, and a endless amount of love coming your way from the people you are helping heal.

[QuyenNHokom]

I've never felt more understood by a stranger 😅 I am definitely a product of childhood trauma. I've always felt immense personal guilt and fault for my father's unhappiness growing up. I had no idea it was bc he was dealing with his own demons - I blamed myself. As an adult I am a people pleaser and never want to disappoint anyone. In reality, it's true. I have always secretly just wanted freedom from all the self suppression.

[Fearfullyfree]

I am an ovarian cancer survivor. I have CPTSD. Narcissistic mother. Repeated trauma. = ovarian cancer at 37 years old. I 100 percent believe this.

[richspizzaparty]

It's stunning how much a person is controlled by trauma. I've got CPTSD and don't even know who I am because of my programming. And as a rebellious artist I thought I was being myself. How wrong I was. Nothing but a coping mechanism.

[penniroyal]

I was born and raised in South Korea till six. Families then and even today in some homes slept on the heated floors. when I went back to Korea at 22 year old they still were sleeping on the heated floor and the all the family slept together. When I came to America through adoption I was put in a bed by myself and fell out of bed every night. My adopted father got up and put me back in bed when he heard the thud. I did go back and reunited with my biological family to visit when I had my own baby. When I had my baby she was put in a crib after nursing and fall asleep but stayed in bed with me when she woke up to be fed at night. Then she stayed in our bed till morning. I also homeschooled my daughters till they were 16 then they finished their education in a high school. My oldest daughter and I still 1 mile apart and I drove my granddaughters to school till last month when my oldest granddaughter got her drivers license last month. I took them to nursery care through junior in high school! Listen to the song by Cat Stevens Cats in the Cradle about a son and father and how the son treated his father just like his father treated his son. It’s a great song. How we treat our children is how they treat us!

[Peg]

ok, I'm like 2-1/2 minutes in and Dr. Gabor Mate just gave me the answer to why I developed an eating disorder from my childhood. I am in tears. It's a good thing and I am taking notes! Thank you Dhru and Dr. Gabor for your wisdom.

[terrancekayton]

I was molested as a youngster, probably around 10 or something… don’t really remember the time frame. All I knew was it was inappropriate and I didn’t do anything about it, then. I wondered why other people were stronger than me, when they could talk about theirs or to say No, molester. I’ll be turning 40, in July and I’ just now told my Mom… it’s just dawning on me how traumatic this experiences with my cousin have been for me. And the joking that came with it and not feeling like anyone was ever looking out for me on my behalf. Job hopping, relationship ruining, alcohol, sex, cannabis. All of it because 30 years ago. I started secretly watching porn with my cousin and how that unraveled into a whole lot of what looked like disappointment from my dad and his side of the family. So, withdraw and isolation because “ no one understands.” I understand now, this is all part of my and “the, ” plan. As unfortunate for my life as it’s been. I’m finally closing this damn chapter of my life BEFORE this next part of my life begins.

[loraineginns]

My MOTHER raised 6 kids on her own and did a sterling job. NONE of us became psychologically troubled or blamed her or my late dad for our shit. We simply looked at our faults, corrected them, and changed course. I do not think they make mothers like that anymore. She said things as they were.