Can Avoidants REALLY Change?

Can Avoidants REALLY Change? Many people want to know if an Avoidant partner can change. The truth is, anyone can change but it does take effort. In this video we share an example where change can and does happen. Most people unfortunately struggle with the anxious/avoidant trap. In order to have a healthy relationship, both partners need to be aware of their issues and take accountability for themselves. Anxious partners often blame the avoidant, without realizing that their behavior had a direct impact on the relationship. Many anxious people do not see that they are often unreasonable in their expectations, lose emotional self control, and become demanding. Navigating what is fair for both partners can be challenging unless you truly work on yourself. If you don't, you will blindly allow your anxiety to control you in ways you don't even realize.

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[madyuritgarcia]

This is my e-mail Coaching!! thank you and coach Victoria so much for your help on our Skypes sessions! I am still working on myself everyday!, doing the creating healing course and the workbooks, and Yes if an avoidant is aware of their own attatchment issues we are able to change!. hopefully this will help someone! I want to encourage everyone if they can to do a Skype session with the Coaches they will be so so so helpful!.

[robertwells]

My avoidant is changing. We are apart 6 mos now. I have been doing much work. She Contacted at the 60 day mark. Be very cautious, improve yourself and live your life as they find themselves without you. ❤

[glynnellis]

Very good video Craig and Victoria. I have learned so much from you both. Thank you…

[TheBonazzo]

I am avoidant and got dumped by an anxious partner. I hurt her a lot, and she tried to connect with me in every way. I'm starting therapy to be better. Keeping everything inside hurt me too. I don't wanna be like this anymore.

[baskin]

I’m married to one were separated due to a blow up we had for about 9months now. I’m doing strategic no contact for almost 90days now. I’m just finding out as kids if they ran around the house playing making noise they were always sent to there room like they were always sent to room. I believe this has contributed to his attachment style

[capet]

Avoidant can change if I turn myself into a pretzel to accommodate and cater to him.

[alyssapeterson]

I'm not sure what my attachment style is as I feel overwhelmed when I'm in constant contact, but I do get anxious if the other person is also distant. Differentiating between anxiety and intuition is the worst. My coping mechanisms are self taught as I do A LOT of deep breathing when the person I'm seeing is more avoidant, and I have to consciously override the part in my brain that says, "AH! RUN!!!" when the exclusivity conversation comes up (I can agree to this at the 3-4 month mark... I may not be seeing anyone else prior to this point, but 3-4 months is when I can verbally agree to it). I think the only thing that is in my favor is that I am very open regarding feelings, timelines, and tendencies with the person I am seeing.

I'm not sure how I got so disorganized, but you go through one abusive relationship and it messes with your head for a long time.

[christinalee]

So my avoidant ex just reached out after more than three months and I was polite, but not overly enthused - a little freaked out I’ll admit. But it feels more like breadcrumbs than him really planning on making any kind of an effort. Do I just go back to no contact in that case?

[natesearfoss]

What if they hate you? Do they change?

[-taylor-]

Sucxess stories are so much easier for me to get to grips with the whole psychological aspect of attachment theory. Doesnt seem to matter on the sex or age... just a case of timing if you want them back. In my case though the dumper has a controlling mother. 😢 Perhaps a video on enmeshment?? ❤

[drunkcherry]

Dear Coach, could you please do a video on two avoidants 🙏 Can this kind of relationship ever work?
It's our 3rd breakup and I feel pretty much hopeless...

[ironclad]

No. The answer is no. :(

Any change is a short lived fake out.

[RHales-vuie]

I hope so met the a nice girl but she deff avoidant

[scottmiller]

I was an avoidant in my last long relationship, treated her wrong and dumped her coldly. I rebounded which lasted about 2 months. I had a spiritual awakening a few years later and I’m dealing with an avoidant now and I’m leaning anxious? Strange but true. So absolutely people can change

[RHales-vuie]

Would coach Victoria let me take her on a date?