Borderline Personality Self Other and Relationship Sabotage

Borderline Personality Self Other and Relationships Sabotage
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Why do people with Borderline Personality sabotage themselves, others, and their relationships?

#BPDselfsabotage #Relationshipsabotage #ajmahari

[survivingBPDbreakup]

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[TheWhisperTexan]

This video was eye-opening for me and now I see why my BPD Ex would cancel last minute on events and trips. I had always thought it was something I did that made her cancel. The more I learn about pwBPD the more I realize that my relationship was not sustainable and we are both better off broken up. Thanks A. J. as always for your incredible insight.🙏

[keeneye]

Thanks for another spot on video. It is so sad to live someone who isn’t real and who doesn’t know themselves and the sabotage is everywhere. I have been extremely wounded but my Ex is in more pain than I could ever know. They sabotage themselves worse than anyone else.

[davidparker]

Aj this is so true, whenever we had a weekend away, tickets to an event, she would rupture the relationship, cause an argument and block me. It was chaos all the time.

[stevec]

This is one of the more important videos you’ve put out recently as far as my understanding goes. I don’t see anyone talking about cancelled plans with regard to bpd, but it was one of the triggers that ended my last (and perhaps final) round with my uBPDex.

[stuartwigmore]

Another great insight AJ. My wife, who I separated from in February, and who I now believe to have clear BPD traits, would be extremely nervous and negative prior to any family event or say, vacation. She would make excuses as to why she didn't want to go somewhere or do something, even if she'd contributed enthusiastically to the decision as to where to go or what to do in the first place.

[jessicaestrada]

Yuppp. I sabotage everything. I would rather stay at a distance and work on myself. I want happiness but can’t really enjoy it. Makes me so sad for baby Jessica.

[ReptilicaDayZ]

Hey A J. My ex rebounded with a felon on probation/cocaine addict. She struggled with cocaine for a short time before we met (both early 20s) but was never associated with the types of people drugs bring around. Now she is with him 24/7, lied to all her friends and screwed over some financially. Is about to be kicked out of her new apartment and hasn’t been back to get her belongings, but just spends all her time with this guy doing/running drugs around. Almost 100% opposite of what our relationship was.

Do you have videos on why someone with BPD will throw their entire life away for one very bad person? If/when this thing ends with this guy she will have nothing. Would they not realize that?

Thanks!

[CatKingCole]

No wonder we end up killing ourselves so often. They make help impossible to get in my area. Even when I tried to 'off myself' hoping desperately to be able to stay in the hospital to get help, they sent me home the next day.

[sirrparker]

Everytime we took a vacation my BPD Gf would always self sabotage the trip by gaslighting the situation

[emilydarty]

Great video but I did find some of the clips alittle triggering and disturbing given the context of people who are BPD watching this. We know what negative child experiences are, just seems unnecessary to put those unsettling video clips of the child getting yelled at pushed and crying…just a personal stance it was alittle hard to focus on what was being said at those point. Other than that this video was incredibly informative and I’m definitely subscribing to learn more👍