Facing Your Fears: How to Overcome Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

In this video, I discuss how BPD affects your life and how you can overcome it. I talk about the different patterns and beliefs that can lead to BPD, and how you can change them to help you live a life that is more fulfilling.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

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[shainabarrett]

Thank you Dr. Fox! No seriously thank you, you are changing my life and therefore the lives of those around me. Your work is so valuable💓 I just got your workbook and I’m excited to see what’s in store! I have BPD and it’s still hard to wrap my head around understanding what’s happening in my mind. I take it in pieces & your work has helped contribute to my growth and my PEACE & JOY immensely❤️ 🙌🏾

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I felt so good sir, I'm a doctor suffering from BPD, I have severe abandonment issues. Severe. I'm a single child. My parents fought a lot she had bpd too. I had two unstable relationships due it. Got a spouse who understands me by god's grace, I'm trying to break this unhealthy pattern of thinking. Ur talking made me sleepy, like a siren.

[bmccameron]

It's true..100%. Stare down your fears to reach your personal potential and healthy relationships.

[arabellacox]

I've been studying for a degree for the last 4 years and next july i will have a BA (Hons) in Criminology. In the past i would have given-up and this did occur to me at one point, but ive stuck at it and now im almost there!

[tommymarsiglia]

Wow.. you've just described perfectly my situation in these last 3 years that I came back to live at my mother's house, luckily I've never suffer too much from my BPD living on my own but since I came back to my parent house, the pattern of being the "invalid son" came back making the Bpd heavier on my shoulders

[kurmi]

I feel like emotionally handicapped
I was bullied at work (some coworker thought it was okay to shout and call me names on front of my patients. I didn't do anything, just kept listening to her nonsense, she was basically screaming by herself for 15min) oh boy, I manage to kept myself together until I went to my car and got a crisis. One thing is for sure I was angry at myself for not being able to defend myself. BPD is playing with my head now, depression is crashing, but good friends did not leave me straight and helped me today. I am finally reaching for help

[LifeOfAnAwkwardOreo]

This is super informative. My step mom and my step mother trained my mind since young to hate myself. I don’t think I would be alive it wasn’t for the fact that my older sister was my only support and ray of sunshine in my first 18 years of abuse, being manipulated, mental and psychological trauma. She is the only reason I’ve seeked to better myself. I honestly would be happier to just end myself but my sister sacrificed so much for me growing up and even to this day she hasn’t given up on me.

[alphadog]

Thanks for breaking this all down, change is possible as long as you have the awareness.

[sarahh]

I'm so impressed with your understanding of BPD, that I am going to buy your BPD workbook:-) Thanking you from a person diagnosed with 'the not very appealing label' of BPD but who is hopeful (even in their 50s - better late than never) that the pattern of life-long self-sabotaging behaviours which have led to failure to thrive, can be changed.

[Chris-tmt]

Thanks Dr. Fox, I always look forward to my daily YouTube psychologist analysis. It's good to know how much everyone has some sort of mental health issues. Can't wait for the updated Release of the DSM6 and all the new categories of psychopathy.

[Recife-PE-]

When I hear Dr. Fox talking it makes me feel super hopeful! I have BPD diagnosed very late 2021 and I am also middle age. A lot of times I feel hopeless, because I have no one by my side, my kids don’t like interact with me, my ex-wife does not want to be my friend, my new partner is already tired, so I feel super down most the time, but when I hear it is possible to change blows a bit of energy to the fire almost gone. Thank you Dr Fox. It is so hard to live with this I did not even realise I was faulty, now I feel people avoid me as if I had Ebola or HIV in the 80s.

[turtlesteak]

You and only you are the only professional who has helped me. Better understand my BPD. I HOPE THATEAMS SOMETHING TO YOU. KEEP DOING WHAT YOURE DOING. LEASE DONT EVER STOP

[deothang]

You make things easy to you for all the help you provide...It is you that has helped me the most! ❤

[MrMarcoAlvarado]

I don't have self-shame or self-hatred anymore, I have a favorite person, but I can distance myself, I'm not dependet of that person, I just like her more than others that's all.. one thing however stays and that's the anger, I don't know hot to get rid of that.

[rhobot]

Loved hearing that it's okay to experiment, try new situations and people. No judgement. It is just trying new things. Thanks, Dr. Fox!

[danielestaub]

Core content is where it's at, imo. Thank you, Dr. Fox, for this great content. "The inner story drives the external behavior, I believe. Fill yourself with Competent Content!" - Dan Staub, Lynn Toy Train Museum 🚂

[arabellacox]

So your beliefs become your lifetime narrative and you need to act and do things to evidence that you can do this, you are capable.

[madi_E]

Thank you dr fox you are making a difference in the world, very appreciated

[celestia]

BPD is really just all about thinking patterns and breaking destructive behaviour cycles

[LucyParkinson-jo]

I learned a lot from this thank you. I struggle with therapy because i have infrequent bpd episodes where im extremely angry to the point of splitting. I've had therapy to try and prevent this, I'll go and talk it through and understand and learn the exercises and it feels like I'm getting better, they suggest its time to stop and that I'm at a good point. And then a while later I get triggered and have an outburst and the cycle repeats. But the issue is I split and cant remember what I've said and it's scary not knowing whats happened. I dont want to split but nothing seems to stop it once I've gotten to a certain point of upset. I dont want to be angry or make people feel on edge. Its hard to unlearn patterns and defence mechanisms