When narcissists use positivity to control you

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[LaGrossePaulik]

In a family the only one allowed to express negative feelings is... the narcissist. So true.

[kimdavis]

“You just need to forgive” “you just need to stop living in the past” (but the abuse is current event) 🙄

[CarlynOT-Coach]

Yes! Gaslighting with a positive spin. The hurt one is told they "need to move on", "not focus on the negative", "get over it", and "focus on the positive." Such a wolf in disguise.

[hrriphic]

Anyone feel like Dr. Ramani should just go ahead and bill their health insurance? Just me? This woman has provided me with more help and insight into my toxic abusive relationship with the narc than actual shrink.

[kevinsanmateo]

The fact that I had to go rock-bottom just to learn that narcissist even exist shows how badly we need awareness of these kinds of people

[ameebohrer]

“Normal human beings have a range of emotions.”

Wow. So simple, so true.

[mthomas]

"Why can't we just be happy?!" said the narcissist that caused the

[AnimalsMatterMorally]

"Narcissistic people like to set the emotional thermostat in the room." TRUTH

[Treopse]

Learning about narcissists is more scary than any horror media. I am literally afraid to ever have to deal with humans like this.

[taaliyah]

Bringing up valid issues around disrespect was called being negative and wanting to “argue” instead of two adults having an open discussion.

[thecalmwayhome]

This explains why the narc loves empaths. They are jealous of the natural joy and compassion that empaths have and they will milk you dry of happiness if you stay around them too long. Run!🌷

[Handlewithluv]

"You're too negative!" Hit me like a ton of bricks when I was simply expressing my sorrow about certain life events that were occurring at the time. I felt lonelier than ever and was not expecting that while I was already down. It still makes me cringe and extremely upset to think I spent so many years (close to 10.5) with this person.

[lisassucculents]

So this positive energy isn’t genuine. It’s controlling.

[natnat]

My ex husband loved to tell me how negative I was …… to his credit I was because I was miserable every minute of my life thanks to being emotionally abused

[camillemitchell]

God has gifted Dr. Ramani with the rare ability to explain complicated human disorders in the most understandable terms. Thank you, Dr. Ramani, for using your gift to help people like me heal. You don't have to say it, let us brag on you... YOU are one of God's gifts to mankind :)

[lightraveler]

Also I wanted to add that it's interesting that a Narcissist spouse can treat you like crap, rage scream, yell and insult you all day long but when it's time for sexual intimacy they expect you to just be enthusiastic, excited, and unfazed like they didn't just emotionally drag you through the mud.

[bluedreamer]

"because narcissists themselves are responsible for most of the misery around them, in many cases, they don't see the misery storms they create"

[CrispyFriedPickles]

This video IS SO VALIDATING. It’s SPOT ON the way they act, it’s VERBATIM 😩 I’m just so glad I wasn’t actually going crazy and being the “negative person” I was accused of being

[josephineananda]

Normal human beings have a range of emotions.

[cindyklaassen]

We’re not allowed to have any emotions.
“You’re done crying” “you’re not trusting God enough” “I’m over it”. “I’m not going to talk about this any more.” “You catch more flies with honey than vinegar”
It makes grieving or working thru issues so difficult. Nothing gets resolved and the pile of problem becomes a mountain. I’ve been waiting for this topic. Thank you.