what is romantic attraction?

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[coolstar]

But what exactly IS romance?! Like, what makes romantic attraction different from all other sorts of attractions?!

[erinmariecece]

THIS!! It is so hard to talk to people about how I feel romantic attraction, but not sexual attraction. So many people think it is one in the same.

[lina]

This is so cool, I'm glad young aces (would be a cool bandname) have your videos as some kind of answer to their dilemma. When I was questioning I actually saw your am I asexual video like 3 years back or something and I felt seen, you're doing a great job 💜

[suicivelizaliagoj]

I’m gray asexual and was wandering what the heck is romantic attraction until I watched this video and I definitely do feel that

[megannowicki]

Loveless finally came in today. Wish I was active on social media so you could see my bookshelf. Only in the last few weeks has it grown to like 30 books. I'm pumped.

[Blanch]

I was contemplating if I was aro and then you went into detail about what romantic attraction is and I was bombarded by memories of a specific person who apparently I like.

I’m not aro, just in denial ig.

[cradica]

4:41 I feel the same way about my sexuality. Like I've been attracted to sexual thing in general but I'm not sure if I've been sexualy attracted to a person. I have possibly had one crush but I don't know if I liked her or I just simply thought she was pretty so I assumed I liked her. So I guess I am in that gray area too!

[BobieBobs]

1:29 wait isnt that just a best friend 😭

[sirSpookyToons]

me a greyromantic: "interesting"

[adt]

So are you saying that if someone had a crush when they were 10 they wanted to be in a relationship with that person, got butterflies in their stomach, and goosebumps? If so I’ve never had that.

[AnimeRayanne]

I keep questioning my romantic attraction cause I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone but I there is a guy I like. I also think I've had crushes on fictional characters. (Only 3 or 4 that I'd consider a crush.) We dated before and when he broke up with me I didn't really mind. I definitely can't see my life without him though and I like cuddling with him. I think I just don't want the pressure of being committed to someone, because then I might be expected to move in with them someday, get married and we'd have to discuss kids and stuff. Plus I kinda feel like burden being Asexual when he's definitely not. I'm not sure though. It's hard to know if it really counts as romantic attraction when people always say that it means you want a relationship with them. I don't feel like I think about him enough or put in the effort to go see him but I swear I like him and I always love talking with him. Why is this so complicated? Lol

I wonder if I'm somewhere on the aro spectrum or just less interested in real life romance. 🤔

[Sagatiaej]

I am demisexual lesbian but I am panromantic and ambiamorous. I can’t have sex unless I am in love, but I can sometimes fall in love with more than one person at a time. Having said that, I am 43 and have only been with 4 people physically my entire life. I have been in a 12.5 year monogamous marriage however if I fell in love with another person, or my wife, we’d be able to pursue that either romantically or sexually if that was part of it. Have to be careful about generalizing. Every person is different.

[lunarwisdom]

Ommg I had no idea demi-romantic & grey-romantic existed!!

[-whackd]

How do I know if I'm having romantic attraction? I do desire to have sex sometimes, but I generally just change what I'm thinking about. But for romantic attraction I have no idea.

[goreandhoodies]

I just figured out that I'm demisexual and now I just realized I have never experienced wanting to be with someone forever and take them on trips ect unless I knew knew them (like ik my partner) so I'm trying to figure out if I'm Demiromantic too

[computerhardware]

It sounds very self referential, i still can't grasp what romantic relationships mean

[mari]

I wish I could have a romantic relationship without having to kiss or having sex... I'm not sure if I'm assexual or just traumatized, because I've seen that many assexual people are indifferent towards sex, but I have very complicated feelings like anxiety and fear about it... I wish sex just didn't exist lol

[Solarpunk_SciFi]

I think that's called friendship- Wait is romantic attraction a social construct???