8 Types of Attraction Explained | Romantic, Platonic, Sensual...

Let's discuss some of the many different types of attraction! This video will cover sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual, platonic, queerplatonic, emotional, and intellectual attraction, as well as some commentary on how these categories are limitless.

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My name is Elle (they/she) and I'm a genderfluid and aro-space ace doing my queer thing here in the internet universe. Join me and let's be gay nerds. I'd really like that. Love you!!

0:00 intro
1:27 romantic attraction
2:28 sexual attraction
3:25 aesthetic attraction
4:24 sensual attraction
5:32 platonic attraction
6:28 queerplatonic attraction
7:09 emotional attraction
7:20 intellectual attraction
7:49 thoughts

[thomaskirkness-little]

I sometimes look at people and think "I like their character design".

[rivkat]

I also love that you said the lines can be blurred and mixed a d experienced differently for everyone, it's simply a way of identifying and communicating what we feel in our relationships with ourselves and other people.

[Dtretrb]

I am asexual and alloromantic, but there keep being times when i see people and am somehow attracted to them, despite it not being romantic. I started thinking recently it was aesthetic, which makes sense now that I think about it. considering how much effort I put into my own aesthetics, of course aesthetic attraction would be important to me

[fireinateacup]

This was AMAZING and super helpful! I'm gray/asexual biromantic (skewing female) and definitely experience aesthetic, sensual and intellectual attraction. I think I usually experience sensual attraction to women and intellectual attraction to men, but aesthetic attraction has to be there for both.

[eswan]

I appreciate your explanation of sensual attraction. My experience of a combination of aesthetic and sensual attraction can look and feel a lot like sexual attraction which has led others and myself to invalidate my asexuality, but I'm pretty sure people who experience sexual attraction full stop, no doubt are experiencing something quite different than me.

[TheHecateCabin]

Honestly, this was probably the most reassuring video I’ve ever watched. My aesthetic attraction for people made me think that I have sexual attraction, but whenever I ask myself the question of “would I want to be sexually intimate with this person, ” the answer is always no. Your explanation of aesthetic attraction really helped me a lot, thank you. 💙

[Night-Shade.]

This should be taught in schools. I've been aware of the types of attractions for years now and been aware of what type of attraction I've been experiencing. A lot of the times multiple types of attraction.

[midnight]

I definitely feel like I have aesthetic attraction to people, like I notice their features and think theyre pretty! But I dont find them sexually attractive at first. Thanks for covering this!

[J]

I think I’ve started to experience queerplatonic (also heard it called alterous attraction). Kinda confusing lol, and I’m probably experiencing other forms of attraction too, but sounds promising for a potential QPR 😂

[unknownuser]

Informative and comprehensive its difficult to find such mature discussions on this topic.

[skel_watches]

This is super helpful! I’ve always struggled to define what I’m looking for when it comes to a queer platonic relationship but I know that even as an Aroace that struggles with understanding romantic and sexual attraction I want a friendship with someone but something a tad more similar to a romantic relationship but without the notion also speaking with people intellectually is a favorite past time of mine so seeing it here is lovely anyway I hope you have a lovely Pride month! And tbh the nature noises were soothing ehehe

[kanalkucker]

Filming it outside is really great, do it again in the future, please!

[calutulalbastru]

You explain so well! Thank you for making this video, now I know how sexual attraction would feel like if I could experience it. I thought something was wrong with me and learning about asexuality made me realize that I am not alone

[maryterribilini]

This was an amazing video!! I've recently been confused a little in differentiating between if I'm feeling sexual or aesthetic attraction and this really cleared up my confusion! I'm glad to understand I'm feeling aesthetic attraction. Aesthetic attraction for me includes liking the way the shape of someone looks phisically without having any desire to touch or be close to them. But when you mentioned eye and hair color, I was so excited because I feel that way a lot, especially with anime characters.

I've never felt a desire to participate in sexual activities with anyone, though of course I later wonder after an interaction if I WAS feeling sexual attraction. But nope, it was aesthetic attraction and I was just mixing them up XD

[papermelonworking]

Hi i love your channel so much it helped me a lot!!!! Since im autistic aroace aplatonic etc and enby is so difficult to find relatable content, , , Thank you!!!

[nihil_nemo]

This is by far the best video i have ever watched about different types of attraction. I used to be (and sometimes still am) very confused about my feelings because I am aroace but have a lot of emotions. Learning to differenciate between the roots of attraction was a huge step of understanding myself and navigating social interactions. So thank u for explaining this so well. (Also, this video has such a positive vibe, which us really needed rn. Happy pride <3)

[missnaomi]

Thank you for another informative video.
Happy Pride month!

[DocTrower]

I'm an ace grey heteroromantic and have experienced six of the eight attractions you have discussed. Sometimes, I experience some of them at the same time.

[aadisam]

Loved the location, filming in nature is so refreshing!

6:10: I guess some polyromantic people experience something similar but in romantic way, i.e group romanticism. Though I am mono-romantic so IDK, just a guess.

I was wondering if something like gender envy can be called attraction, cuz it feels a bit like attraction to me. Like you feel attracted to someone's gender(or any other aspect like manners, vibe, intellect etc) but you feel like adopting or mimicking some traits/characteristics of them. Speaking of gender envy, could you make a video on gender envy someday?

Anyways, thx for another great video. Happy pride month everyone!

[thefineprint.letters]

WAIT THANK U SO SO MUCH FOR EXPLAINING THIS THIS WAS GROUNDBREAKING FOR ME 😭😭😭 I FINALLY GET IT NOW!!!