How To Parent A Child With ADHD

ADHD is a disorder that is only based on symptoms and observations and a lot times we overdiagnose. How do you parent a child with ADHD or a child that you're just having behavioral problems with? Dr. Paul recommends us simple steps on doing so:

1. Give them a task.
2. You hope that they blow it.
3. Allow consequences to do the teaching.
4. Give the same task again.

Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[wildflowersmile]

I grew up in a chaotic, disorganized and unpredictable household.

I had adhd on top of it. By the grace of God I learned to manage it through my own trial and error.

Now I work with kids with ADHD at an elementary school and it is so rewarding! It feels good to be able to offer a helping hand from a place of personal experience.

[leighmanis]

My ADHD daughter is now 23. Although she has been in college for 5 years now and still trudging through she has kept her ‘eye on the prize’ throughout the process. I have no doubt she will complete her bachelors but just not in the same timeframe as her peers. She has also always held a job and lived on her own for a few years now. I could not be more proud of her. However, I see exactly what you are saying regarding the maturity level. She has come a long, long way but is still easily frustrated and I try to allow her to make her own decisions I sometimes still question her judgement. I sincerely appreciate this video and the visual to go along with it because even though she is 23 is still completely applies! Thank you!

[NateKat]

It's a heavy blanket you spend your whole life wearing. Medication can help however, even as an adult you'll always either feel isolated or behind others. It's important to tell yourself that "it's ok to be this person. It's who I am." Pick your friends wisely and create an inner circle whom you trust, respect, and loves you. Follow your heart whilst learning from trial and error.

[ambernikky]

I would like to add that I don't ever want to get out of the "job" of parenting, but rather the difficulty of the job with my child who has ADHD. I will always have the job of being a parent to my children. Thank you for this video you are amazing! 🥰

[cha-ka]

I’m 46 now but, in 1980 the doctor told my mom my behaviors were because I wasn’t disciplined at home. 😂 He was so wrong. It was my teachers who knew I needed some therapy and reading time alone. It worked for quite awhile until I reached puberty. Though, I made it to adulthood and joined the Navy. The Navy gave me goals and the desire to reach those goals. While I dropped out of high school, I was able to complete my Bachelors degree and earn Summa Cum Laude as a single father working full time.
Also, I’d like to mention that I was always able to pass tests without doing any homework. Not doing my homework is why I was failing high school. It always boggled my teachers how I could ace a test but, never do the work and just doodle when I was in the class. What they didn’t know was that I was listening to them but, I needed multiple stimuli.

[paulabarra]

My son is a combo ADHD. He is a handful but he is also very charismatic, smart and innocent for his age. The first years were hard because I kept making the error in framing or measuring my child to other children and I felt bad that he was checking the boxes. I push him, but getting him evaluated was a hard decision because I did not wanted my child to be level and in the future held back because of his diagnosis.

However, things became harder because he could sit still, had outburst or follow directions or speak like other children. He was kicked out of many daycares and his K year was a nightmare but after o got him diagnosed I was able to help him, I took courses and parenting children with behavioural problems, language delays and social, and separation anxiety I learn to help him.

So now things are easier and I go by his rhythm and I learn to feel proud and happy of every milestone that he does and every time he moves further or learns to do something new I feel so happy because I can see he is also happier.

Learning to live your life and measure your children for their own worth and you will see that things will begin to get easier.

[vickibird]

I loved this video much and found it helpful. I come to tears when I think of the amazing changes and cooperation and communication and now initiative and empathy with my 10 year old twin boys. Both have ADHD. There was sooo much fighting before. I've been binging your fabulous helpful positive videos. Thank you Dr.Paul

[meganrasey]

Your statement at the end made me cry. Thank you for doing this.

[maxi]

I am a single mom and sometimes I think I cannot do this any longer. It destroys our relationship. IT causes despair and the wish that the destructiveness ends. This Situation is now radically changing due to a Progress in my chronic disease.

[thebittertech]

I don't know what it is but Dr. Jenkins has one hell of a presence when speaking. That graph is very helpful.

[Carlie_flower]

My foster son(soon to be adopted son ❤️ thank God) is diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. He tries SO hard but being only 9 he has such a hard time but just in the year he's been with us he's grown so much. He still has his "bad days" as he likes to call them but we are working on not letting a bad time turn a whole day into a bad day. He's amazing and I'm trying my hardest to be patient because he deserves it. He used to throw a 2 hr tantrum almost daily and now it's closer to once or twice a week we have what we call a "major" meltdown and even those are not nearly as bad as they used to be. Thanks fo this.

[arvillamaedesigns]

I’ve watched this video like 10 times. I understand and 100% agree with them. It’s so hard with two kids with adhd and sensory processing disorder. Then my husband has adhd. It’s so hard with the mood swings.

[cmiller]

I was raised being told that ADD- this was back when it was called ADD not ADHD- was an “excuse for bad behavior and laziness” I didn’t struggle in school however I did have to really try to do well, it didn’t just come naturally. When it came to cleaning my room or something like that as a child I would start cleaning and then find a photo album and next thing I knew an hour had passed and I was sitting there making a photo collage or something like that. As an adult I started experiencing major anxiety. I don’t know if I have ADHD or just didn’t enjoy school and would have rather made something than cleaned. However now I have an 8 year old son and I see myself in him 100% We struggle daily with homework and staying focused, not making noises, or tapping something constantly on the table. He’s super intelligent but he is all over the place- just like I always have been. It’s hard at times but I love his personality and creativity. I’m so thankful their is less than a “stigma” on ADHD as their used to be.

[e.j.grandmaison]

This is really helpful. My son is 9 and high intelligence and mostly straight A report cards since he started school. We've done our best to raise him right so he's respectful to others especially when we're not around.

I know from my own teaching experience that kids this age can be a handful at times. Oh, did I mention he's an only child. Might affect outcome a little. Neither his father nor I are only children in our families.

Though high-achieving academically, he becomes eratic emotionally and sometimes at the drop of a hat. And if I catch him red-handed doing something we told him not to do (i. e. Playing with his tablet after he's been sent to bed for the night) he will birst into tears and scream that he's an awful child and should be punished andcwhy should he even have a tablet and on and on and on. Now, mind you I gave him a reasonable option of how to handle it and lost his mind! 😱 I hadn't yelled at him or even thought more than to just guide him to the right track so he could calmly go back to bed. No, Mr. Irrational had to throw a royal fit that lasted waaay longer than it should have. He kept saying he doesn't deserve to be forgiven and why should he have a tablet at all if he's never allowed to use it, etc...🤦

It's exhausting when you're not sure what's going to set him off. Like a hostage negotiation. He'd be really good at high school speech & debate!

[teodoradubon]

Thank you. I needed to watch this. My 7 yr old was diagnosed with ADHD and these past few months have a been tough. I will definitely use this as a guidance with hopes that it can help my son and allow me to be more patient and less stressed. 🙏🏼

[Elric]

I feel like this guy is talking directly to me, and I appreciate that

[smth_in_da_way]

I love how you reply to every comment I loved your for teens/kids playlist

[Mala]

Thank you so much for this video. I can’t wait to put these steps into practice with my child. I really want to do everything I can to help him so I’m truly grateful for the information. Subscribed.

[ginamcgrew]

Very helpful explanations! Would appreciate more videos on helping a child with ADHD. Especially concerning school work. Thank you!

[joskimomcadden]

My son doesn’t learn from his mistakes, and does things over and over