How To Raise Your Children Properly When The Other Parent is A Narcissist?

In this episode, I talk about how to raise your children when the other parent is a narcissist. I explain what mistakes you can't afford to make as a single parent while trying to co-parent with a narcissist.

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[enigma]

I did all thos for my son!
And he has grown into a wonderful person and completely cut out his narcissistic father!

[kerrytaggart]

Wished the court system understood this. Narcs abusing your child is the worst torture. Difficult to handle everything when you are emotionally battered and diminished and rights are given to the narc. We have to compensate for everything the narc does. Painful experience.

[sanjmalik]

In a nutshell your a single parent protecting them from the other parent.

[lauriealmy]

As an adult survivor of a malignant narcissist mother, if you find yourself married to a narcissist...children or no children...run for your life and for the lives of your children.

[bloom]

I've learned to give my daughter a chance to have a childhood of fun, experiences, rules and lots of love and patience. Listen to them and try not to bring in the narc when giving advice. The hardest is the part where when she gets angry is trying to get her to find proper and healthy ways to calm down and work through the emotions.

[Nothingbutlovehere]

I lost my daughter to her own pain endured from her narcissistic father. I tried to help her remain in tact, but his repeated abandonment and emotional manipulation was so damaging…
She is now lost to this. And I am left to grieve this tragic loss. Heartbreaking.

[lydiawhitting]

Way too late, when I realised he was a covert narc. He played her against me from young. On occassion if I corrected or guided behaviour .. I discovered he had been rubbing her back when I wasn't in the room .. telling her it's not her fault. He always calling her his angel. Never did any discipline, or anything for her. By teens she was highly abusive and volatile. Throw objects etc at me for no good reason. In 2 days she is 25 years old, and she hasn't made contact in 9 years. She has just kept in with him. I can only think God protects us from those we should not be near. But it breaks my heart the brainwashing he did to a perfectly healthy child. 💔

[patriciajoseph]

It also helps if you have support from family and friends to buffer the negatives.

[tarheelcountry]

Man you are so underrated in this area; this content is amazing!

[MotivateInspireAffirm]

For those looking to talk to their young children about gaslighting, I found a great book called The Sky is Red by Tyra Juliette Schwartz that addresses gaslighting in an age-appropriate way for children under the age of 10. The book never mentions the word gaslighting, instead the main character is actually gaslighting other characters, and the book teaches the importance of self trust by rewarding the character that decides to stand in his truth. It's actually a really great resource to start talking to young kids about gaslighting in a simple way that they'll understand.

[feliciamills]

This video helped me feel better. It confirmed that I’m taking the correct approach with my kids

[azminay]

Saw this a bit to late. My 17 yr old son committed suicide in my ex husband hands. He chose to live with the father. He was done and fed up with the father. While i totally understand why he did it. I don't agree with.
Now im forced to rethink and look for tools to help with my 12 yr daughter. She is the victim still despite staying with me. The father has gas lighted her, belittled her and messed her head too. She is now suicidal too and self harms and im i
in panick mode.

[jesusyavienepreparateparas]

This sadness my heart to know some of us are stuck in a problematic relationship, mainly when we have five kids together, and you don’t want them to be raised by a single parent as you did. Our ego is our biggest enemy, as most decisions are based on our insecurities, needs, and beliefs. I learned my lesson on how important it’s to know yourself very well based on consciousness and not on ego, even before marrying somebody. Many blessings

[lzal]

You are a married single parent. I was always the one taking the brunt of his anger so that my son wouldn’t. And I’d do it again in a heartbeat. I was present and active in our son’s life. After the divorce I attempted to co-parent but he always had “things” to do and would drop him off with me. I never minded and always reminded our son that my home was his home and he was not visiting. I don’t think I did the best job of nurturing myself at that time but I was in survival mode. I tried to never say anything bad about his dad. I didn’t have to. My son is smart and he figured his dad out quickly.

[PoojaSingh-ptsw]

5 min before I was thinking about parenting n dis video came in front of me

[DollEyezChy]

I will watch this video many times as a constant reminder

[theartzscientist]

I lost all three of my adult girls to my exes narcissism. They are now his flying monkeys. I had to cut them out of my life. My youngest son is saved from it and has no influence. They were never here for my cancer although I made sure I was a great mom. The narc had too much power. You can’t undo it. Leave before they hit their teens. I do not agree with you. My children chose the narcissist because they were teens and he was never home. They told me this. He buys them cars and homes now and uninvited me to our daughters wedding. They are all toxic. I agree with you except on this. They are all jealous of my happy nature and pure heart.

[etaokha]

Yes I am doing it alone without their fathers in their lives and they turned out amazing children that even the narcissist gets shocked when they see how their own children turned out fantastic without them. I am proud of myself

[PaintWithWheat]

Thank you!! Would be so grateful if you could continue to share how to build a child up and equip them to deal with the narc parent. So appreciate your vlogs! They have done so much to set me free and help me heal. Many blessings to you!!

[AshleyAnessa]

I first had to heal from the 7.5 years of trauma that I endured from the narcissist. Thousands and thousands of dollars spent on therapy and chiropractors. I finally feel like my daughters get to see the real me every day.