How To Be A Better Parent Without Yelling

Sometimes parenting can be so tough that we lose our temper over out kids. Tune into this episode as I share with you 5 tips to become a better parent without having to yell.

1. Be clear about what you control and what you do not control.
2. Focus on maintaining a calm voice, calm face and calm body.
3. Remember that children always have choices.
4. Separate the emotion from the discipline.
5. Remember your job as a parent.

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[InfiniteValue]

1. Be clear on what you control and what you don’t control.
2. Calm voice, Calm face, Calm body
3. Give them two choices
4. Separate the emotion from the discipline
5. Remember your job...love them!
Excellent advice I just shared it with my favorite people! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

[brookedaley]

Thank you a thousand times. I could cry. I was abused as a child and am trying so hard to be a good parent without yelling and falling apart. This helps. I wrote it down to remind myself.

[euavalos]

“Separate emotion from the discipline” brilliant! 👌

[truthseeker]

My eyes are watering. I watched this about a year ago when my daughter was turning 2. Now she’s turning 3 and holy hell, I needed this now more than ever 😩😩 “remember your job…” “your job is to love them” broke my heart…. Absolutely true.

[DerekJFiedler]

- Don't let them see that they can control your emotions.
- When parents are smiling, kids are thinking.
- Give them a solid, stable presence.

Super helpful. Thank you!

[chinoisaveclissa]

"Maintaining a calm face, a calm voice, a calm body", I love this. Thanks for sharing.

[malabuha]

I can relate 100%
Kids went into a fight. I stormed in to break the fight. I am looking at myself shouting in there, them shouting, thinking wth am i doing?! And a blissful moment of enlightenment came upon me: this situation needs at least one calm rational adult. Which one am i?
I also wanna brag now about one situation i handled successfully. The kids were, again, fighting over something. Both of them were yelling .. i was in the kitchen. Cooking i guess.. i took a chair from the kitchen and came into their room, put the chair down and sat on it. When i sat down they quit fighting and asked me what i was doing. Like, what are you doing mom here with that chair? I just told them to go on with fighting, i only came to watch... i didnt tell them anything else. They were completely thrown aback. They even forgot what the fight was about. I was glowing. Ha!! Told them, it's ok... go on... dont let yourselves get distracted by me.. was the funniest situation i ever had with my kids. They all of a sudden shifted their attitudes into more 'mature' boys, who think their mom was NUTS. They were 9 and 7.. i still laught every time i remember that.. the looks on their faces when they saw me break a routine
I could go on and on... the tricks they've tried to pull on me... but i was always a sneaky mom and got myself a leg up because of it.
Two boys. 10 and 12. Together in their room. I was, again, doing chores in the house. Silence... ? Then i heared a loud bang and a faint moan coming from their room. I didnt react immediately. But then i heard another one, and another. So i came very quietly to their door to sneak a peek at what was happening in there. You wont believe this! They were both relaxing, each on their bed, one was reading, or at least he was looking into a book, and the other was watching something on a tablet. Communicating only by the sounds they were making. One of them would make a banging sound another would go ooouch... all very convincing. And i saw it. They never saw me seeing it. I had to keep myself very hard from laughing. Went back to my routine.. if i reacted they way they expected me to react, they would make a fool out of me right there
Every day they think up and try to pull pranks on me.. some are funny some are not... but.. at the end of the day if you ask me, could i ever choose btw a life of leisure and pleasure and them, i just couldnt pick the leisure.. bc i would worry too much about them ..it would not be pleasure.. so until they can take care of themselves alone i can not be at ease anywhere.. even in heaven

[julesdoesthings]

Learning to separate emotion from discipline is a big one for me! 👍

[christi]

My eight year old is (was) completely controlling my emotions. Thanking God for reminding me of the wisdom contained in these videos.

[sw]

I am really having a difficult time with yelling and defiance. I have been listening to your videos and reading books and nothing is helping. It was definitely ingrained from childhood. It's so stressful!

[discovercha]

I am not alone being such a parent with the similar problem but feel bad each time after yelling or saying something bad to kids. I almost forget that my first job is to love my kid. Thanks for this great video.

Later my son would ask me： mon, may I ask you something, but please firstly promise that you won't reply to me loudly. At that moment, I feel shame about myself.

I am happy to grow up with a better parent with my son too.

Thank you all

[elenamitrevska]

Dr. Paul thanks for the videos. I was talking with my husband and telling him about, ,calm face, calm voice, calm body, , and my daughter was around. And after a few days i get nervous about something and start to raise my voice on her. And she just say it calmly: mom, please, calm face, calm voice, calm body. Hahahah i couldn't stop laughing. It was like i listen some of your videos 😊

[beatrizsandoval]

I so needed this video. My 5 year old son makes me loose control daily. I am going to put your tips in practice. Thank you 🙏

[ginamcgrew]

Thank you so much Dr. Paul! I'm a new subscriber, binge watching your videos. They have already made a tremendous impact on my parenting and my children's behavior. I'm hoping my husband(who grew up without a dad- and was mostly raised by his older sister while mom worked hard to provide) will soon be on board with watching and discussing the tips you give. I've read some harsh, petty, somewhat crazy comments on your videos, but when you come across those, I want you to remember that you REALLY are making a difference in thousands of little lives and I for one pray God's richest blessings on your ministry!

[LinardsBerzins]

What living legend you are! Thank you tremendously.

[cerellebarnes]

Thank you so much! That’s was a big help. I feel so bad when I yell at my 7 year old daughter just to get her to get dressed, pick up after herself, etc.... yes my job is to love her no matter what or even if. And yes keeping the emotion out of the discipline. Thanks again!

[KW-onceuponatime]

Thank you much Dr. Paul!!! So spot on, and yes our job is to love them♡♡♡

[marialorentza]

Just have to say, this channel has helped so much on my parenting! Sure, I would have figured it out without, but now I have new ways to view situations and handle them, I can see it affecting our daily life! The one with giving a choice I picked up from another video and it really works (well, most of the time at least). Every parent should be presented with this!

[amberleonem]

My husband and I are oh so grateful for you're "choices" teachings! We've used them for awhile now and it transformed our kiddo.

[giselljeff]

Thank you for these wonderful videos! From the bottom of my heart!