A #Narcissists Explains: What happens when you cry in front of a narcissist. Understanding the #narc

What happens when you cry in front of a narcissist. Understanding the narcissist from the viewpoint of an actual narcissist.

Welcome my channel! If this is your first time seeing my face or hearing my voice, my name is Lee and I am a self aware narcissist. I have narcissistic personality disorder ( NPD ) and I've been in therapy for my personality disorder since 2017 and it has definitely changed my life because without it, I would have lost everything.

The point of these videos is to help bring awareness from the other side of the narcissistic *buse spectrum. All my videos give perspective on why many narcissists do what they do and the possible different reasons behind them. The victims and survivors get validation and the Narcissists (those that are willing) get to see that you can get help and that you are not alone.

Thank you so much

[kimberlyblunt]

I was married to one and I plan to write a book about my experiences with him. It was the loneliest moment in my entire life.

[PoGirlShines]

As soon as they feel they "broke" you, they love it.

[anitawieczorek]

That explains a lot. I remember being shocked at the time when I cried and he just look at me waiting until I will stop. I had this though - how can you "love" someone and not hug them right away when you see they are hurting...omg 😱 now I know...

[MsNae-zlgo]

I gave my narcissist husband a hard run for his money, when I realized that he was a narcissist and not just slow, I ran circles around his mind games and sent him packing, I got better things to do.

[AbiTalkLearning]

I learned I never show the emotions in front of the narcissist. That will give him power over me. I cry behind him and act strong in front of him. Never show your weakness to them. They will take advantage of your weakness

[rubberbiscuit]

My ex would say hurtful things to me at bedtime until I would cry, and then he would roll over in the bed and go right to sleep. The next morning he would be bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, acting as if nothing had happened. I can never be a real person to him.

[essiekaayy]

I literally had this conversation with my ex-fiance. How can you watch someone cry from the pain you caused them and repeat it? Smh

[candydikiza]

The most painful part was when it was clear that my tears meant nothing to him. You know when someone doesn't care. When he does decide to address my crying, he'd say it was because I wanted to have the final word so to get what I wanted I used tears, at first I didn't understand how someone could be so cruel and cold

[Coral]

My ex would just laugh at me when I cried. Make fun of me. It was one of the most hurtful things ever. I’ve never cried more than when I was with him, and since leaving, haven’t shed one tear over him.

[cemeciam.]

This is very true. When I found out at 8 months pregnant that the father of my child was cheating throughout my pregnancy and had started a whole new relationship... That demon just looked at me with a blank stare and slightly smirked as I broke down crying. Never again, I don’t even look past that man. Straight Ice Queen and keep co-parenting to a minimum. Period!

[j.pejoro]

For the narcissistic, crying is a success for them. They prove that they’re superior than you. The emotional control they have over you. It has happened to me. He was just staring at me. No comfort at all. No sorry or apology.

[Jmnicole.Ludtke]

Whoa! Yes. He would get mad if I get got upset. I never understood why he would be upset with me for being upset. Thank you for what you’re doing. 💝

[sweetmalife]

🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️ I knew that shit was a red flag! Crying turns em on. Thank you so much for sharing! ✊🏽

[tlcnaturalhairskincare]

This guy is telling the truth. To protect my feelings, I started keeping an emotional journal to write down my feelings and pain and started treating my marriage as transactional with no emotions. I have been doing this now for about a month and I do actually feel better and more confident.

[sheneeta]

Wow! You use your diagnosis to heal others. That’s deep. I dealt with a Narcissist & it was crazy. I know a lot about it.

[MichelleEllsworth]

It’s actually so refreshing to get inside the head of a narcissist. Thanks for being honest.

[Poeticdiva]

Yes. He will get so irritated with me after he hurt me and he really didn't care. Then I'll get blamed for the pain he caused.

[tenea]

It was always “I didn’t make you cry, you made yourself cry…” but during the love bombing I would be comforted. I got to the point, after my postpartum period, where I wouldn’t even cry anymore. Perhaps alone and let a few tears fall, but never in front of him anymore.

[Jokaanan]

I broke up with him because he made me cry and then he kept yelling at me while I was crying. During the breakup he raged about everything but he never responded to the key thing I kept saying - "I was sitting on the bed crying and you didn't stop yelling at me. That is unacceptable." He'd always change the subject.

He had nothing to say to that. He had too much intellectual integrity to make up shit like "you were being overemotional". So he had no defense for it. (He probably had more BPD than NPD). There is no defense for it, nothing to justify it. If you start crying and someone stays in an rage state, you need to get as far away from that person as possible.

[havefaithtarot]

My narc ex told me multiple times that I was being abusive and manipulative by crying because it made them feel bad even though I was just reacting to something they absolutely should have felt bad about without my tears and the tears were just a natural response to their ACTUAL abusive actions that they didn’t think twice about. Trying to turn my tears against me and say that I was the one being abusive for making them feel guilt for being a liar and a cheater and me confronting them about their actions.