How I changed since living in Germany

[celesteonyait]

I'm glad to see that moving abroad, as much as it makes you miss home more, also has its benefits, even though we don't talk about them often.

[cynhwon]

Yes I feel the stopped worrying about my appearance/outfit thing. My European friends once sat me down, gave a ted talk and almost made me recite this : wear what I want and feel comfortable with/in, and go out with confidence. If others have a problem, that’s on them.

It might sound ridiculous but the burden of worrying about what others think of your look and clothing is tooo real🥺

[mistydlove.]

"Not that authentic" is the nicest way possible to say that 😂

[condensedmilk]

As someone who lived my whole life in an Asian country but studied abroad in the west for 6 months, those months were liberating, self-esteem boosting, and made me value myself as an individual beyond social norms ✨

[neldormiveglia]

I'm so glad to hear you've experienced so many positives regarding boundaries and self-worth. Boundaries are very healthy and it's very difficult to accept, especially when you're a woman and/or your culture tends to ignore their value. Congratulations (:

[SusanAydelotte]

Thank you so much ❤. I'm over 80 yrs now and still learning to say 'no'. I really love your comments and experiences. Hello from Central California ❤

[amihanbyann]

"My appearance doesn't define me anymore."

Indeed. I experienced this HUGE change as well. Back in the Philippines, I went through it so much- THAT appearance is an utmost MUST. However, here in Sweden, I can be free without being judged on what I wear or how I look like. Nor be bullied by my own family for being too skinny or when I gain a a kilo or two. 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

[Tam-tenh]

So glad the changes are such positive ones! I’m glad that you are growing as a person in such positive ways. ❤❤❤

[joyhope]

Keep shining!
You are changing the world, my darling.

I don’t think you quite understand the massive impact you are having upon people’s from all over the globe.

What a blessing you are.

❤

[jameso]

Actually, some of those are why I love Germany. They respect others as it is.

[MiotaLee]

Learning how to say "no" is a vital skill. I unfortunately only learned after coming out of an abusive relationship. Whether it's culture or a bad partner, saying no is human right and you should never be shamed for it.

[maribroughtonwynn]

This is so heartwarming. Thank you for sharing! I definitely relate to the learning how to set boundaries thing. I relate to the others too but the boundary thing really stuck out.

[cocomelon]

8 yrs in Netherlands, I am still a people pleaser. It is really great that you were able to overcome that.

[Miss.]

The being taught to always say yes is so relatable. My mom always taught me “you never say no”, which is the worst thing to teach a child from a young age. 💖

[juliareuschel]

Du bist auch so sympathisch
Willkommen in Deutschland, bleib so wie du bist ❤

[ecandymiau]

I'm german. And in kindergarten they thaught us that you can say no. No matter in what situation you are, you are allowed to say ''NO!'' out loud when you want to. Also they thaught us not to drink alcohol when we get older. I still follow these 2 things.

[chloesmyers]

“My body doesn’t define me anymore” physically took the breath out of my body. I can’t imagine that kind of freedom.

[Bianca-zdjn]

I can say I feel exactly the same about all points mentioned. Even though my experience was moving from Romania ( Europe) to Netherlands ( Europe). It's very sad what are the expectations for women in Eastern Europe. They are toxic af and you realise this only when you move to a normal country.

[gutsandblackpowderfan-yd]

My German grandmother never spoke about appearance - she wanted to know how well I could debate, study other languages and what my plans are for education. She had deep conversations with me and I loved talking to her.


Great channel. ❤

[i_hateithere]

I adore Uyen! Grown, and learned so much, all while keeping us very entertained!
“My appearance doesn’t define *me* anymore“ -so many of us needed to hear that! Thank you!!❤