When The Narcissist Sees You've Moved On

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[fosterjanine]

They HATE to see you MOVE ON with everything that makes you who you are and they can't stand it because they wish it was them. They know you are going to be fine without them but they are never going to be fine without you. They needed you more than you needed them but they didn't want you to come to that conclusion.

[lanikiamccloud]

They just wanna be us. They try to steal our light. We here on this channel need to always stick together! Let's stay prayed up!

[rhondaking]

Once they see that & know for sure that you have moved on, they can’t have that. They will either try to get you back. Or create a lot of chaos in your life. How dare you move on, You Deserve Better than that.

[Fariha_Younus]

Its a shock for them.. That we have moved on.. They groomed us in such a way that we hv lost everything... They thought we wont be able to collect our self and rise again.. Yesss we cannn.. 😍💪🏻

[ritamccormick]

They don't want you, and more devious they don't want anyone to have you either. They want everything, and for you to have nothing. That's how self centered, selfsh, and vain they are.

[ZR_]

Hi everyone I'm a survier at the end of the relationship he started been violent towards me I moved on exactly the same way he was calling my work sending me threatening messages i fell out of love with him when I realised just who and what he is the stalking got worst calling my work spying on me I met someone else it was getting worst I had to tell my partner what was going on what this guy did to me he said he needs reporting for what he did to me he has been so supportive I reported him for the domestic abuse controlling and he did worst to me the advice I give you all is be aware protect yourself look for the signs but I honestly can say I would never allow anyone to do this to me again and anyone going through it move on with your life asap don't leave it too long the longer you stay the harder it is to get out it was nearly 6 yrs for me too long because when you meet the right person you will know the one who is meant to be with you I just wanted to say thank you so much for this narcsurviver I honestly wouldn't of had the strength to leave if it wasn't for your channel I did it you can too💪❤️❤️❤️

[marielehnert]

Let them leave you safer and they get a false ego that they dont know about.

[littlebean]

They will ring your friends and even people they know you are not friendly with at all, feigning concern for your wellbeing. The cleverer ones won't immediately start a smear campaign because they don't want to reveal their nastiness to the other people who know you. But the mask will slip eventually. My narc used to phone and phone me all day and I wouldn't answer the calls. It was only when they started phoning one of my friends persistently looking for information that the penny fully dropped with my friend. They phoned her when she was in work, out socially. Even after she asked the narc not to be phoning her as she wasn't able to take calls, the narc ignored her and persisted anyway. At the beginning of my friendship with the narc, the narc said to me when they want something, they are like a dog after a bone until they get it. Hugh red flag.

[lenilay]

The narcissist is a sad sad person who cares about nothing but themselves and what will satisfy them. How can people live with a narcissist is beyond my understanding. And yes they end up being with someone like themselves.

[callumhaigh]

My ex girlfriend freaked out when I moved on. She kept calling me pet names and stalking me at work.
I even said to my ex girlfriend that I’d done so much better without her and was feeling so much better in myself before blocking her. I don’t know what her reaction is but I fear her returning

[star]

I Have moved on . ❤️✅💯🇮🇪🔑.
I would Never go back to any ex- once’s it’s over it’s permanently OVER . 💯

[outlawhalesjosee]

What is wrong with me. I've totally lost my mind. I will never be same. I discarded him a week ago and the pain is too much. I feel I can't live without him. He would tell me about everyday that I'm a useless piece of trash no one would ever want me and I believe him. I want to go back to him. The abuse is all I know. I've been thinking about suicide at least I won't hurt anymore

[andnowyouknow]

Guys, I need help. I suspect my long-distance ex is a narcissist (which makes all the pain I was caused sense). Would you classify her as a narcissist based on the following?
- She constantly needed validation and complains whenever she doesn't get enough.
- Very impulsive.
- Love bombing and then discarding our plans of many months to get together whenever she felt like doing something else at that moment.
- Didn't get much love from her parents growing up and her mom being a thorn in her side.
- Doubting our relationships whenever someone else was giving her slightly more attention and then crawling back whenever it stops.
- Always prioritizes her own needs and rarely pays attention to mine (even if I pointed out numerous times).
- Always saying sorry but never shows improved behavior.
- Constantly talks about the people of her past who haven't reciprocated her interest or moved on (like the boys she never got together with).
- Living in the past and never in the present.
- Whenever she compliments me, it's mostly about how I make her feel and not me as a person.

[smarternow]

Mine totally moved on himself. I do not think I will ever see him again. I left him but he is with old girlfriend in a different city. He is all over Facebook when wasn’t on before.
He is sick!!! I never want to see him again. Fighting and costing me a mint to end this marriage

[tayshawn]

This is only true if they didn't find new or better supply

[catlady]

My ex was cheating on me how many I don’t know but certainly two people and grooming another. I hope he doesn’t have time to bother me anymore. He knows I won’t engage with him again so he will just get humiliated.

[hvpudan]

It's funny how they can talk and slander the "new partner" and not even know who they are. It's also amazing to see the target somehow believe their word and turn their back on the new partner.

I had that issue and she would threaten him to "meet up the new girl" and how she would say he was a wife beater etc. I agreed several times to him and to her I'm willing to meet her. I'd love to hear her side of the story because if he is so bad, it's good for me to know. She never took me up on the offer and excitement to meet.

As for him, he was an idiot to believe her, she's like 15 years older to me, the only thing we have in common is her son is 2 years younger to me. So when I started to point all the obvious things out to my "new partner" about the ex wife talking trash he started to awaken from her spell.

She's never met me, we never worked together, I never went to school with her kids not worked with them; he's a few years younger to her and she purposely got knocked up to entrap him so for 20 years he was her little B. His daughter became legal age and he filed for divorce and we started dating and she started the drama.

Like how can someone who never met you talk such certainty to someone else? Even if she was stalking and trying to make up a credible story, my life isn't exactly public viewing on social media and anything that was accessible: her version of me was so opposite to that.

I remember flying into my own rage and carrying every legal document and award or certificate, criminal background, driving record etc. that I had to my name and piling it on the table and reading through them and passing them to him and eventually tossing it at him.


I gave him an ultimatum, pick the ex wife or pick me but you will not be with me and think of me through her mindset like a little B.

Needless to say I proved my point but I wasn't letting that old granny narc entrap him and slander my name. She could keep him if he wanted her but I wasn't about to be made a fool by Queen trash herself.

Only thing she was good at was messing up her man's life and her children while being a promiscuous person cheating and swinging her away to divert attention to what a lose SHE really was.

Now she's like 55, self proclaimed lesbian playing house because her husband of 20 years didn't want her back once he saw what he saw about narcissism and started to speak and seek help from the abuse he suffered since he was 18/19 when she purposely got pregnant so he could take care of her son who is only 10 years younger then him. It was really gross to hear that, it was like she's a pedophile who loves incest.

It's all good though 5 years narc ex wife free and he is a new person. I'm still me but I can represent myself just fine, good, bad and ugly. I dont need any help from an old mother Goose trying to keep her flock from leaving the nest. She really thought she had a safety net and retirement plan with her family dynamics eh.

Glad everyone got smart and grew up and left her to her own ways of being with her compliant partner who mysteriously started to look like the ex husband appearance wise. It's uncanny.

It's all a circus for sure and when you try and leave to move on or if you are that "new partner": there will be alot of drama and you as the "new partner" have to ask yourself if the new relationship is even worth all that trouble for yourself.

I have a fighting spirit and at that time a little bit of an ego because I was offended and I had just left a bad relationship and at the recently injured from an auto accident. So my emotions were running high at that time but not because I was sad, more so triggered to show what a goody goody I am and if you want to slander me I will show my true colours legally. I did, he got a Peace Bond on her with proof of all her harassment, slander and threats.

Tada. If a narc wanted to talk bad about me I had to make sure there was a documented reason as to why. No freebies here, let's make something real instead of this future faking BS.

That's why she's never liked me and him, he loves me and I am like his hero for opening his eyes to his life long suffering at the hands of a narcississtic female, adult toddler who tantrums.

I did it for me.... I had enough of these types of people in my life and had he gone back to her like an obedient puppy, I'd laugh cuz targets always get discarded, abused more intensely and they try and go back to the new ex partners they had. I'd have a final coffee if that was the case and tell him "I told ya so, good luck with a new love pursuit and I hope our relationship taught you something about how to treat the woman after me". Oddly that didn't happen, that actually was a surprise for me.

I don't recommend that approach to anyone but as a "new partner" it will be alot of work, court, police, crazy making times of looking over your shoulder or damage to the car etc.

He understood once I said I met him being a somebody, I was a somebody before I met him and I will be a somebody after he's gone. Who is she to devalue me to have you thinking I'm a nobody. He's a nobody to me by his own behaviour but clearly a somebody to her and she's a nobody unless she has him to make her feel like a somebody. So if he is looking for a woman that needs him to complete her, he had his perfect match before he met me and was married to to. I told him he is everything I never wanted and won't shed a tear when he is gone and I will never fight to get him back. If that's what he wants or understands to be a "love language" through abandonment, he had a wife that did that, go back to the revolving door domestic circus if that's what his core value and belief system was. Cuz I will master his love language and ultimately and with finality abandon his behind by dumping him. I wasn't just blaming her, I held him accountable too. If you want her or someone like her, that ain't me and we are unequally yolked so good

Once such statements were said and legal protection established it's a done deal once you have the evidence.

He later on realized his mother used to run away and return home, he grew up with his siblings being abandoned by their mother but the fact she always came back was the taught "love language". His father is married to a narcissist and the children: the sister turned into a female narc and the sons married female narcs. It's not "his" fault for the programming but he is responsible for continuing and perpetuating that toxic family dynamics and poor boundaries.

I made damn sure to instill that into him if he planned to accent his life with my presence. I'm not here to waste my time, that's what blind dates, one night stands or friend with benefits NSA are for. He didn't qualify for those and I'm not stooping down to commit to a craptacular future faking domestic sphere. If I settle for domestic and monogamy it better be true healthy version cuz I don't need that revolving door relationship to feel like a successful person.