Cptsd - Dealing w Anger After Narcissistic Relationships

The side effects of narcissistic relationships do not go away with time - you have to take action to overcome complex ptsd, which is often a result of prolonged, chronic emotional manipulation and stress. I put together the Thrivers School of Transformation to help individuals have a safe and affordable place to heal, grow and thrive!!!

John Bradshaw stated 'The best way to come out of hiding is to find a nonshaming intimate social network. We have to get on a core, gut level because shame is core, gut level stuff. The only way we can find out we were wrong about ourselves is to risk exposing ourselves to someone elses scrutiny. When we trust someone else and experience their love and acceptance, we begin to change our beliefs about ourselves.'
THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL FIND IN THIS SCHOOL!!
For $79/month you will receive:
*Daily support in a private membership page (not on facebook)
*Weekly podcasts
*Weekly Live Meetings:
1. Book Club - analyzing together specific publication that help on the healing journey
2. Live Q & A - send in your personal questions and we can go over them together
3. Mini Power Sessions - 5 - 10 min. coaching sessions
4. Exercises to help overcome social anxiety and expand your window of tolerance
WHO YOU ENTER AS WILL NOT BE WHO YOU LEAVE THE SCHOOL AS!!!
WILL YOU JOIN US?

[iroquoispliskin]

It's mourning a love that never was, but my true anger comes from being used.

[escherichanja]

If you deal with a situation where you have no voice and no right, anger is just the consequence mixed with pain and trauma.

[katrinachristoffersen]

I’m angry that I wasted most of my 20s (my prime years) on a narcissist. Now I’m 34, unmarried, and look much older than I do. I’m angry at myself for not ending the toxic relationship much sooner and letting it fester for 8 years.

[carrie]

No words can explain the level of anger that I am going through. Ranting and raving often screaming at the top of my lungs and evil and vile things that I otherwise would never say. Anger is like a cancer for me. On the otherhand.. the moments that I acknowledge my anger lead me to acceptance.. that 25 years has brought me to my knees. Does not mean I plan on staying there. My anger helps me to stay in the reality

[HaleyMary]

I find that my emotional state didn't get better immediately after I distanced from toxic people because I had repressed the sadness and frustration for over a decade and I find myself yelling in frustration at my cat sometimes. It's like the frustration and anger built up over so many years and I never had an outlet to express it and so it comes out directed at my pets and family members when they weren't the source of the original pain.

i find it hurts the most when people who you thought were interested in being your friend or who you thought was romantically interested in you ends up being someone who was trying to manipulate you, it makes you question everyone's motives. I don't know how I can trust a man now ever since a guy had his friend bully me and he never stood up for me. It's really confusing when these narcissists are cheerful and friendly in a crowd, but becomes dark and non-empathetic when one on one.

[supermichaelssecondchannel]

Your emotional state doesn’t change because you just changed locations. It’s as simple as that. You’re emotions is your body’s reaction to the relationships affects on you.

[cliftafrizzell]

My toxic narc mother died 20 years ago and I'm still dealing with the anger of the way she treated me.

[DanielRD-]

My mum of all people, still thinks I must have done something to make my ex leave me. It is very sad when not even your own mother has your back.

[ardent]

yes, I haven't seen many of the narcissists I dealt with for several years but I still have "dissociative episodes" where I'm overwhelmed with anger to the point where I lose control on my body for about 3 seconds. I'll be sitting at my computer watching a video like this and the anger will come flooding back and I leave my chair and rush across the room, then I catch myself, stop and come back to the computer. I've had like 2 or 3 dissociative episodes while watching this.

[fatio]

You realize that years even decades of your life are gone. You are not the same person that you remember yourself to have been. For me, I'm 60 years old now, I was a healthy younger version of myself. Now I am broken, lonely in physical and phycological pain. My children are grown, they live in completely different cities and I'm left here alone, trying to get a handle on something that I don't even truly understand. All I did wrong, I fell in love.

[SebastianKomor]

I have most certainly been frustrated/angry at myself for not having realized it while it was happening. I had no idea people could be like this. So it feels very much like a con. It really hit home, the fact they don't want to see you happy or productive. So arguments were initiated to destroy that.

[JackfnHammered]

This is totally me. The one thing I don't do is blame myself which I guess is a good thing. I blame them 100%. The reason I think I'm so angry is because they've never had any consequences. My life and emotional state and mental state has been awful for the last 10 years. Their lives have gone on, they've abused others, they've made out like bandits ripping people off and improving their own lives at the expense of others. I would love to see these people pay and pay dearly. Pay financially, be exposed publicly to everyone for everything they've done and be ostracized and not be able to walk down the street and even be jailed because some things they've done are actual crimes. But I never see it, and I've checked. They've gotten away Scott free.

[idinloreng]

Yes, i found a mantra to this situation : LET IT GO. You feel better and they will get their KARMA.

[ormorphe]

Exactly as you described! I’m still dealing with the vile smearing of my reputation decades later. They’re still at it years after no contact and being states away and when I have to meet or hear from someone who knows them, the anger can flare up.

[karaht]

Being single for three years showed me my faults and how I don’t have to rely on another man to complete me. I highly recommend it for any women holding onto someone feeling there is no way out.

[corporaterobotslave]

For me, since early childhood, I believe my anger stems from injustices against me. I forgive my offenders, but the memory of the traumatic abuses are still there. Trust is non existent. Love is a nice idea, but I rarely see it demonstrated by humans in practice; they just don't understand it. Fear dominates humanity.

[jfb]

I completely get this i went straight from a abusive childhood into a abusive marriage i am now nearly 60 yrs old and i have spent all these years living with people who should have had my back and cared for me but did not infact they were deliberately causing me harm and enjoying seeing me hurt. I only woke up 2 yrs ago and i am so angry. Angry with the abusers & angry with myself.But i can not stop dwelling on the past hurts especially as they are still being triggered as i have not yet managed to leave my very long marriage .

[Ann-mindful]

I love your analogy about a marriage. I moved a few years ago and have been beating myself up bc I'm still healing. ❤

[VoxJoxx]

"Emancipation from toxic people!!!!" This I needed a reminder of..."the act of freeing a person from another person's control". It is about building yourself up to a sate of personal strength that you can leave these people and no longer have to share your time or life with them...this terrifies them and is why they barrage you with soul destroying negativity.

[patricialloyd]

Hi 🙋‍♀️ Michelle from ENGLAND in the U.K. 🇬🇧