How Do People Become so Angry? - Complex Trauma

Where does anger come from, and who and what are you actually mad at? In this clip from Tim's series on Anger and Complex Trauma, he covers how anger forms and the impact it can have on a person.

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Tim Fletcher is not a doctor or licensed therapist; he is a counsellor in Canada and has worked with people with Complex Trauma and Addiction for decades. Tim’s videos are for informational purposes only to provide understanding, learning, and awareness about complex trauma. No information published here can replace professional evaluation, diagnosis, or treatment.

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[Ishana_Intuitive]

In this society of narcissists, psychopaths and corrupt politicians you can get more than angry. Every day I go out of the house I think I am on the wrong planet...

[MsAmes]

You're so right. I have become a very angry adult and I do not care for anyone in a position of "authority". I have CPTSD and it's crushing my soul!

[stevensprung-wopk]

Anger is a gift - uncontrollable rage is a curse

[Havre_Chithra]

This is exactly how I feel today. I work in community service and I see neglect and abuse everywhere. When I point this out or report it and nothing happens or I get punished for it, I get angry and then pathologized for it...

That is the pot calling the kettle black....

So... if I have a problem... I am not allowed to report it? And if I do, I get punished... and if I get angry, well then now apparently I am the one with the mental health problem?

Now that's rich.

[JupitertheGiant-kb]

I'm pissed off a lot of the time. If I ever get a break from it, those moments are more valuable than I understand.

[shadowfax]

Anger gives me energy. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and didn't realize i was recalling events to make me angry for the energy boost.

[LightWarriorsLife]

Like you said, not being seen or heard (ignored) can cause anger issues.

Because without feedback, people don’t know where they stand in life at that particular moment. 🧐🤔

[harleyquinn]

Anger is the emotion of self preservation.

[AlastorTheNPDemon]

"I'm mad at me and I'm mad at the world."

Yep. Every waking minute of my life for the past fifteen years. My ambitions have been replaced with revenge fantasies and my soul has been replaced with a shame core.

[mikkibriteside]

I've always said that I couldn't get angry or my Mom would get angrier. I've had therapy throughout the years but NO ONE has explained all this to me like Tim Fletcher. I'm watching every video on Tim's channel. For me..being able to see the patterns is eye opening.

[smokingcrab]

I get 2 responses to hurt and abuse:
1 anger
2 sadness

Anger is the only one that people actually hear and learn to back off after

[carlabamford]

THANK YOU!!! I had a therapist who told me to not let go of my anger too quickly.

[ScottBecker-ck]

In reference to all the things he was saying about childhood trauma. My parents called this "normal". Growing up, I was told that kids don't have feelings or emotions, and I was condemned for showing them. The end result was a lot of anger and depression. And, yes, I was condemned for that, too.

[GiftsAmimalsGiveUs]

I didn't even know I was angry for such a long time. I was too calm but would easy stab a person for touching me. My anger won't show on my face, but my body keeps it inside. Going numb is my default setting. Yes, being mad at the world is right since the world didn't protect me. I'm getting better on how I see humans, but it is hard.

[Rylhz]

It's really amazing I survived my childhood. Most of the childhood problems Ive forgotten until watching your videos, and reflecting on my emotions then, how i felt inside, which nobody ever asked me in my family, i was a ghost.. of course I've had a poor quality of life, i wasn't given the tools to defend myself.

[burchified]

Having to go through the exact same conversations over and over with the exact same people and seeing them never learning or even just remembering the last conversation is it. Letting them fail and stand there cluelessly is the solution.

[bastianogr]

Everything I learn about cptsd applies 100% to me. As does every aspect of this very insightful video. However, in over 7 years of going from therapist to hospital to psychiatrist to the next therapist, I haven’t ONCE been able to interest a single health care professional in the topic of cptsd. So much for not being heard …

[primrosedahlia]

After getting out of a 20 year destructive relationship, noone in my life were there for me and my kids. I found that extremely traumatizing...how the people I cared about belittled our trauma. It has made me extremely angry the past almost 9 years...Im so mad at those people for what I feel was the act of kicking us when we were laying down... I especially feel extreme anger towards my sister in law who is the most disgusting human being I know.. she has not once showed any empathy, and have been talking behind my back and turning my brother against me. I think whatever demon feeds my anger loooves how she behave. Ive tried working on myself through all if this, but Im not able to stop hating her.. I try to stay away from them as much as possible to protect my energy, so I rarely seen them at all.. but its in my mind a lot. I rarely rage.. this anger is just a feeling I carry around in my life. If I could go no contact with them it would help

[paulmryglod]

This was me and I carried it to adulthood and it affected everyone around me who I wanted to care about me, and who I cared about.