Why You Can't Love Yourself After Trauma

Trauma is a deeply impactful experience that can affect every aspect of your life, including your ability to love yourself. In this video, we explore why trauma makes self-love challenging and offer insights into overcoming these obstacles. Remember, you are not alone in this journey—many people struggle with the same issues, and understanding them is a crucial step towards healing.

Learning to love yourself after trauma is a journey, but with support and understanding, it is possible to reclaim your sense of worth.

Disclaimer:
We are not mental health professionals. This video is for informational purposes only. If you are dealing with trauma or PTSD, we strongly encourage you to seek help from a licensed mental health professional.

#trauma #recovery

Credits
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Editor: Kelly Soong
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Aiden (new animator)
Video Editor: uToonz
Youtube Manager: Cindy Cheong

References:

[matthewkincanon]

Learning to love who you are after trauma can take years and that’s okay. Some of the things that helped me process trauma and rebuild self-love included:
- therapy
- journaling every single thing I felt no matter how incoherent it seemed
- setting self-love goals
- EMDR
- binaural beats
- having my appearance reflect my inner self
- setting boundaries
- learning to let go of hate towards those who hurt me
- take care of my physical health
- understanding that just because someone doesn’t see my worth doesn’t mean everyone feels the same. The right people will see your true value

Life is going to knock you down, but what’s important is not letting it keep you down. Healing is healing, no matter how big or small it may seem and allowing yourself to heal and feel loved is how you get back up

[Psychgo]

We see you, we hear you. Healing from trauma is a process, and we want to walk alongside you. This video is a small step toward self-love. If you know someone is struggling in a similar situation, do share it with others who might find it helpful.

[Hwanonlee]

I swear childhood trauma is the worst. I suffer from it and its horrible.

[Rafsanul_Haq_]

Self love is the best love ✅
Self-validation is the best validation. ✅
Edit: Many people can't practice self-validation. Self-validation means accepting yourself as you are. People will judge you based on their personal biases, values, and beliefs. Their judgment of you is subjective and varies from person to person. Try to validate yourself by reflecting on your inner qualities. Say to yourself things like, "I am an honest and courageous person because I accept my mental problems honestly without lying to myself, and I am working to overcome them." Remember that you deserve love regardless of people's judgment about you.

[TrầnCảnhMật]

It's crazy how nobody is talking about the forbidden ebook Magnetic Aura from Borlest

[snakeeyesvolley]

The trauma i still deal with is being an outsider. I grew up in a sports town and i was the only one who cared about the art of anime and video games. No one would talk to me and make me feel like im worthless. Im in therapy to help me love myself so i can start to make new friends and actually feel happy around people who care about me.

[siennaprice]

After my trauma and abuse, I hated every little single thing about myself. I hated myself because I was completely blind. I hated myself because I’m on the autism spectrum. I hated myself because I cry, because I touch everything, because of my stimming. Now, I love myself even though I’m completely blind. I love myself even though I’m on the autism spectrum. I love my stimming, my blind isms, and other things about me. The thing I struggle to love myself with is my CPTSD. I have a hard time loving myself because I cry so easily, and asking for support, or feeling sad, angry, nervous or anxious. I have a hard time allowing myself to touch everything around me. I try to only focus on my strengths and never focus on my weakness. Limiting and restricting myself from just being. That’s the thing I struggle with. And being hatefull toward myself. But hey. You know what, I’ve overcame a lot in my healing. So I can, and I will overcome not liking myself. I’m just happy I don’t hate every single thing about myself like I used to.

[Aan]

Timestamps
1). The vagueness of self-love 0:50
2). Distorted self-perception 1:12
3). Loss of safety and security 1:35
4). Detachment as a coping mechanism 2:00
5). Steps towards self-love 2:49

Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[sarahserenityqueen]

This is exactly what im going through. I've been hating on myself for years. 😢

[arthurpenfield]

I went through 24.5 years of trauma. The only thing I would love to happen is to go to sleep and never wake up because I hate living so much. Life has been so cruel and I don't love anybody or anything.

[marmur]

Yeah. Was bullied a lot during my childhood and that trauma haunts me today. But, I saw a therapist and now I am on medication for my depression.

It helps, a little. Medication will not heal it, so if I have to keep living on medication, then that's just the way it has to be.

I can never love myself the way others love themselves

[bakonphat]

Within the last 2 years, went through a divorce. Lost a job I held for 26 years.
Following year my brother and mother died in different circumstances.
My dad is in a coma after a stroke now. Grasping at anything to care about right now is exhausting

[neofulcrum]

My mind likes to remind me from time to time that I probably deserve this from my existence.

[aviapoIis]

"Healthy self-esteem is not about proving yourself and others that you are worthy of unconditional love, it's about identifying and letting go of all the beliefs, thoughts and painful experiences that ever convinced you otherwise".❤

[diobrando]

2018-2023 was nothing but trauma and event after event and I never thought I’d feel love or the touch of normality ever again. Thank you for this video 💛💛💛

[Oceane]

Yeah honestly, I've been mentally abused by my parents and now I sometimes feel worthless and like I can't accommplish anything.

But I've been slowly but surely healing these past two years, and I actually started to write the first episode of my future series.

I can't animate or anything, but the fact that I actually started writing the script is a good first step, especially for me.

[ririlya]

Tbh it's seem impossible for me to love myself even though i started the medication n seek professional help 4 years ago. Even today i still feel the same but im always aiming for not hating/torture myself by focus to be neutral instead of loving myself or hate myself. Still wip

[Research.]

I've been diagnosed with depression and OCD. Trauma has played a big part in my life in the last 2 years leaving me mentally disfigured and destroyed, yet I keep trying to push on and on. Psychiatrists have helped me a lot.

[cheyenneblack]

This is something that hits close to home 100%. Healing from trauma and loving yourself is very hard

[DragonFireXYZ]

Guys I just experienced PTSD yesterday please cheer me up