5 Signs You Don't Love Yourself

Have you ever found it hard to take a step back and evaluate how much you love yourself? Here are a few markers to help determine if you may need to increase the self-love in your life:

Writer: Kristina Orrego
Script Editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Annie Wu
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

Reference:

[Psychgo]

As the year is coming to end, what are you thinking about?

[angekitsu]

1. You feel bad when you take time for yourself
2. You keep falling for toxic people
3. You apologize for things even when you don’t need to
4. You beat yourself over your past failures and mistakes
5. You second guess yourself and struggle to trust your own intuition

[ranieldicardo]

The fact I clicked so fast in the notification means something.

[D.M.S.]

I always have to say to me "You need the time, you deserve it."
"Your decision is good, commit to it. Even if it is not, at least you made one."

[c_dorado]

I think there's another big sign of lack of self-love: "You don't take care of yourself": why aren't you taking proper care of your health, your nutrition, your emotional well-being? Love is an action. Let's take care of ourselves as we would take care of a loved one.

[kat-herj]

1. You feel bad when you take time out for yourself 0:45
2. You keep falling for toxic people 1:30
3. You apologize for things even when you don't need to 2:15
4. You beat yourself up over past failures and mistakes 3:10
5. You second guess yourself and struggle to follow your own intuition 4:05

[Broken]

"The whole reason we hate ourselves is because we can only see the parts we hate. I think it's only when someone says they love you, that's when you're able to start loving yourself, I think when someone accepts you, that's when you start feeling like you can forgive yourself a little and start to love yourself" Fruit Basket anime - Yuki Soma

[muhashevliw]

Number 4 is the most real reason to make someone hate themselves, failures and past things you are not proud of .

[dantepepper]

Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you

[GibranEscobell]

*TIMESTAMPS comment to keep them up.*
0:45 = You feel bad when you take time out
1:30 = You keep falling for toxic people.
2:15 = You apologize for things even when you don't need to.
3:10 = You beat yourself up over past failures and mistakes.
4:01 = You second guess yourself and struggle to follow your own intuition.

To the person reading this, the man sign that you do not love yourself "enough" is the story you keep telling yourself everyday as to why you are not good enough or under deserving, it does not matter who you are, you are a valuable person, the moment you change what you tell yourself every day, that is the moment you will begin to embrace a whole new person and life.

[emilie_doudou]

I feel like she read in my mind. She exactly pointed out all my struggles and exactly said the words I need to hear. The one point which I really didn't realize is the way I feel so egoistic when I take care of myself. I feel like I should help someone else, or study and I'm just procrastinating... and sometimes, when I see myself in the mirror and I actually like my face, I'm like "no non, you're being selfish, stop always think about yourself and you don't actually look good anyways, you're just in a good mood today..."

[herexcellency]

i struggled with self loathing my entire 22 years and I have no friends at all. so i wanted to make myself my own companion by learning how to love myself no matter what, and trust me it's the best thing I've achieved.
loving yourself don't make your life sunshine and rainbows but it make it less heavy and more tolerable, that compassion you give yourself is what always keep you going.
I know this is not easy but please learn how to love yourselves little by little cuz no one will love u more than yourself.

[reddragonlegacy]

Definitely struggling with self-love. Always struggled with low self-esteem. Being the youngest and smallest of 5, introverted, HSP and growing up constantly being asked "why can't you be like your brothers?" or "So and So is doing this, why aren't you?" and questions like that can take their toll a bit

[warmthsplash]

Your videos always help me when I’m going through problems . Love your videos, keep it up!

[kbee]

What sucks is that a lack of self-love can and often stems from an abusive childhood in which you either got blamed for things and were constantly guilt-tripped, or being held accountable for things outside of your control. Ofc it can come from many more examples, but nothing gets you to the lowest low of self-esteem than an abusive family.

[ToniWellons]

I’ve struggled with the fear of failure, low self esteem, lack of self love for years and still struggle today. Believing in myself and my abilities has been difficult because I constantly over analyze and second guess myself because I feel like anything I do is never good enough and that I should be much more. Being insecure is real 😔

[joban]

I spent my whole childhood being told I was selfish while almost never actually getting my needs met. Got this sort of thing drilled into me

[loneyhearts]

I am learning self-love. I know it has been problematic for me.
I stopped bringing toxic people into my life, searching for good friends.
Coming from a toxic environment of narcissistic people, I chose a different path.
Life doesn't always teach you it's best lessons, but recognizing it and staying true to yourself helps you through it.
We are the most loved people, we need to love ourselves. Spend time with yourself. Your best friend should be you.

[foxyloon]

I've struggled with every point made in this video. It's taken a lot of work on my part, but I'm on the path of learning to love and be more accepting of myself.

If there's anything to take away from my experience, is that perfectionism is a very unhealthy mindset to have. There's nothing wrong with striving for better, but it becomes detrimental when your inner critic is constantly picking apart every little thing you do or have done in the past.

[meelsg]

points made:
1. you feel bad when you take time out for yourself
2. you keep falling for toxic people
3. you apologise when you don’t need to
4. you beat yourself up over past mistakes
5. you second guess yourself and struggle to trust your own intuition