The (simple) secret to being more likeable

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[sammykaleem]

I think a guide on who’s worth being around would be useful, I feel like I can make friends easily but I want people of quality and all

[usubenidango]

I agree for the most part! I just think it was a bit sad to say “if you don’t have friends you’re not valuable” there’s people struggling with shyness and social anxiety out there, just because it’s hard for them to make that first approach, it doesn’t mean they don’t have value to give to others. They very likely do, they just don’t know how to do it yet.

[Abhishek-wgps]

Do you agree
Fear has defeated more person than faliure has.

[heretible]

Just to the teens scrolling through the comments. I did this sort of thing when I was 16, at 20 now I am trying to undo all the lessons this video teaches. You will get short term success like this. But friendship is formed through understanding people, and in this video the existence of "the charismatic guy" goes against that completely. You're closing yourself off to people, even if they like you, you won't like you, and eventually you won't like them.

[lightyr]

Making friends is like business, it's supply and demand. Most people want to be friends with charismatic and funny people (demand), but most people aren't like that, and that what makes the "interesting" people so special (supply).

[Yourunit]

I just came from your discipline in 5 minutes vid and i just had to stop and comment youre now my favorite youtuber and i love your message, please dont stop doing what you do homie, much love

[doggo]

it's just like "if you're useless, no one likes you"

day 1 of asking ruff to be my friend

[Bobbyjitrockey]

If it disturbs your peace leave it .
I don't care how many friends you got. Quality matters more than quantity. A good friend who always wants good for you is 100x more good than having fake friends who only want to do parties .

[Chicoyo]

When u said, “Would u even want to be friends with yourself?” I said, “F*ck no.” My routine is waking up, meditating then going for a run. I go to school. Then I go home and finish hw. Lastly, I walk my dog and watch a series with my mom and I meditate then go to sleep. I do want to have a more interesting routine then this and have more fun. I do want to make more friends but I’m honestly picky with friends because not a lot of people are into self-improvement and idk ig I just don’t vibe with a lot of people. I probably feel that way because I don’t know where to even meet new people. I’m not even sure tbh. Does anyone have advice?

[AyatoKamisato]

Thank you so much Ruff,
You probably dont even know how much value you've provided to me from your videos...
From being a low class, miserable, 'uncomfortably fat' attention seeker...
To someone who values his own life.

All I lacked were friends...
This video feels like you're answering my distress calls.

"I'll provide value to be a valuable person"
Thank you RUFF!❤

[ItzJuzGREY]

This guy always knows how to come up with a unique content each time which actually provide much more info in less time than any other youtuber I've seen. Thanks for your support fr

[goodboi]

Thanks for conveniently answering a question I've struggled with a while for this year. Asked myself how I could be a more approachable friend, and I guess I'm tired of being the 'errand boy'. Whether it be with certain subjects in class, or just doing basic tasks, I yearn for a deeper connection somewhere with friends that I share hobbies with. Showing vulnerability is another issue I'm try to deal with, because my face is stone cold even when I'm on the verge of breaking down. I guess my goal is to get past those awkward attempts at conversation and just be someone that can be trusted to talk with about anything.

Sorry about the short essay, but I think typing this out helps me let go of some worries.

[proxyshadow]

This guy definitely doesn't take account of people with mental or physical disabilities. Imagine a terminally ill person that literally could not leave the hospital watching this and being called a "person that has no value". Imagine a person with social anxiety or neurodivergent disorders that just have symptoms of things such as not being able to focus on conversations or understanding people's emotion. What they need is therapy to betterment their behavior with conditioning and that is something that couldn't be fix just by "try harder" or "be better" which these "modern age sigma woke" mindset suggest. If anyone reading this does struggle with socializing, please don't hesitate to seek help from therapy 😊❤. If you are in a situation where you couldn't physically meet others, I'm sure you can find a safe space in online medias to socialize such as discord or vrchat 😊.

[suikaberrii]

I like how straightforward you are! Though it does make me sad since i have social anxiety and the littles thing like walking to a store from across the street literally gives me a panic attack, and whenever i try interacting, my voice would be so low out of my control to the point theyll have to ask several times about what i said before they even reply, giving me bad memories about socializing.. which makes me avoid it.. it just becomes a cycle, though currently i am becoming better, i tried starting a conversation, and though it became quiet and awkward in the end, it gave me the confidence to do better! So what im saying is, the video here is definitely not for most ppl still suffering from intense social anxiety- and shyness, etc as i once did, work on yourselves first before coming back to this video, my #1 thing to find motivation in improving myself is ask what i want in my life-- first it could be simple like be popular or have friends. Though i would recommend practicing self love along the way of trying to achieve this goal so you wont just stop along the way, my no1 factor for not even starting on improving was the fact that i had severe self hatred, so def work on that too if youre the same as me.

[dramaticviky]

Taking that guy as a figure of inspiration is wild bro

[RumbleIOS]

This is the same mindset I had after lockdown. Lockdown made me realise that time is running out and life is short to be worried about what ifs and go on. It was fun all along but I didn't know my boundaries it was exhausting sometimes it was lonely sometimes but hey I got a lot of experiences. You are smart going and best of luck ruff

[XPurplepinappXlolX]

Ruff: I’m no Andrew Tate, I’m not this inspirational person ppl want to look up to
Me: has watched almost all his videos, is taking notes, is wondering how he is so smart and such a cool solid dude 😂

[mooran]

"If this is all you do, would you even want to be friends with yourself"
Those words hit really hard ngl

[Bobbyjitrockey]

For me
I am only noticeable when there are less people around me like 2-3 once I am in the crowd (group of friends I don't talk that much) I am lost.
Nobody to talk or do something.
But I don't care about it anymore .
I have already adapted myself to be lonely.
Just gotta make my family and myself proud.

[FluffyBuffy]

I have realised this truth for a while now but you have to be careful. It is very easy to be consumed by "I'm not providing enough value, I need to step up my game", and then what happens is you start trying too hard and your friends pick up on this. Remember... a lot of your greatest value that you give to others you are not aware of nor have any control over. This fact will hopefully stop you from trying to hard as to disadvantage yourself and potentially bring you some piece of mind if you ever get stuck in this dangerous loop.