The Secret to Understanding Humans | Larry C. Rosen | TEDxsalinas

What really matters to human beings? With compassion and humor, mediator and attorney Larry Rosen opens a window into the human unconscious that will help you understand everyone, from your spouse to your mother to your boss, no matter how seemingly bizarre their words or actions. His simple and profound insight will improve every important relationship in your life.

Larry Rosen is the founder of the mediation law practice Through Understanding, where he has helped thousands find solutions to crippling legal and personal conflicts. He regularly lectures on motivation and empathy at Berkeley, MIT and other national universities, as well as trains attorneys and business professionals to see the hidden human mind. At the heart of Larry’s endeavors is a simple philosophy: when people understand each other at a fundamental level, magic happens. They solve seemingly intractable problems—together. They build new and beautiful worlds—together. Larry holds a JD from the UCLA School of Law, where he graduated Order of the Coif and was an editor of the Law Review.

[mrsuperdudly]

“But hurting another person is not a human need.”

I like this. It really stuck out to me for some reason.

[hastley]

i'm just imagining how incredibly useful this video will be to aliens

[hollyweare]

Absolutely mind-blowing talk. We are so often quick to judge and jump to conclusions about one another when really we're all the same. The world would be a much better place if we all took the time to understand each other.

[hikodzu]

"Understanding is exactly how you create the world that you want"

[jackphoto]

What the world needs now...not just love sweet love, but a deeper understanding, beneath our surface differences to understanding that we're all so much the same. As Larry explains here, this is how we can be happier in our personal lives, and also work toward peace in our societies. Amen, brother!

[PinkYellowGreen]

I’ve always thought the quickest way to gain an understanding of others was to simply ask clarifying questions, listening, and showing others you don’t mean them any harm to lower their defenses.

[abcd]

"Understanding is the power to shape the world."

[gracetruexbby]

This is such a profound lecture. I literally found myself analyzing several scenarios in my own life through the lens of this lecture. Wow!

[timeless_trends]

Hey, I'm watching this video after 7 years since it was uploaded. I'm a 14-year-old girl, and whenever I think about someone who others label as bad, like criminals or terrorists, my brain always leads me to think deeper. But I try to control my thoughts and not think too deeply because then I might start believing they don't have anything bad in them and that they have reasons that pushed them to do what they did. I'm worried that if I start feeling empathy for them, I might be condoning their actions. It makes me doubt my own personality when I see others in society labeling them as just "bad" without considering their reasons.

[leafasano]

Right on tool that helps us better understand each other is just what we all need!Thank you!!

[zoji]

Seek to understand why you do what you do. There is an innocence down there at the bottom of the well. When you finally see it in yourself, trace how it rides alongside all of your actions, good and bad. Then turn outward and seek to see the same in the actions of every other person you interact with. See it clearly in yourself, then in others, and you may feel an inner peace arise and take root in you... This is a profound mediation of an inner war. After this understanding, you can begin to mediate outer wars too.

Incredible TED talk, thank you so much for sharing.

[roxannebelvareeves]

How you framed those two young men is such profound way to frame the human spirit and our common needs. Thank you for that! I am also thrilled to hear how you incorporate neuroscience as this is an area that also applies to my work and research.

[SirYanMr]

This video is just GREAT!
I find myself coming to re-watch it every now and then.

[lovena]

If the whole world could follow this speeches of yours that would be the biggest blesssings & thing ever happened in everyone's life, hats off for this awesome words Mr. Larry! GodBless you

[janicebedsole]

Completely captivating! Great insights into what makes us all tick, in terms we can viscerally understand and apply. Worth the 18 minutes of your time it takes to watch!

[thereallinnz]

This is absolute ART itself in the lesson that is his mediation story.

[retellable]

Beautiful exploration into human behavior. Funny, profound, and valuable. "Human behavior is complex. But human needs are simple. We seek these common needs, and nothing else." Also I loved this line: "I cried too. I had 10 minutes. What was I going to do?" Bravo!

[lucy]

I have literally watched this like 10 times and I will continue to watch it. It’s amazing!!!

[ryanwanjay]

i keep coming to this - what you've talked about this has struck me so deeply. I have not understood everything yet but i do have an inkling about how to get better at this. Thanks for your talk Larry.

[zecare]

This was such a good talk, perhaps my favorite. Indeed understanding isn’t condoning.