The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong | Amy Morin | TEDxOcala

Everyone has the ability to build mental strength, but most people don't know how.
We spend a lot of time talking about physical strength and physical health, but much less time on mental strength and mental health.
We can choose to perform exercises that will help us learn to regulate our thoughts, manage our emotions, and behave productively despite our circumstances - the 3 basic factors of mental strength. No matter what your goals are, building mental strength is the key to reaching your greatest potential.

Amy Morin is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist. Since 2002, she has been counseling children, teens, and adults. She also works as an adjunct psychology instructor.
 
Amy’s expertise in mental strength has attracted international attention. Her bestselling book, 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, is being translated into more than 20 languages.
 
 
 
As a frequent keynote speaker, Amy loves to share the latest research on resilience and the best strategies for overcoming adversity and building mental muscle.

[vatals]

Whom so ever watching this video, I wish you health, wealth and lot of happiness to you from the bottom of my heart.

[harryxie]

Just to summarize some of the small steps she mentioned that will keep us mentally strong -
1. Practicing gratitude: Focus on the positive aspects of your life and express gratitude for what you have, rather than dwelling on what you lack.
2. Comparing yourself only to your past self: Instead of comparing yourself to others, focus on your personal growth and how you've improved compared to who you were yesterday.
3. Embrace uncomfortable emotions: Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, or scared, and then move on. This will help you gain confidence in your ability to handle discomfort.
4. Setting healthy boundaries: Establish limits with others to maintain a sense of control over your own life, without trying to control others or letting them control you.
5. Accepting life's inherent unfairness: Understand that life is not always fair, but this doesn't mean you're doomed to suffer. Focus on creating the life you want, despite the challenges you face.
6. Making small, positive changes: Start with one small change in your daily routine or habits that can improve your mental well-being, such as replacing a sugary drink with a healthier option or incorporating a few minutes of exercise into your day.

[giovannyarguello]

Nobody can provide better therapy than those who have gone for similar or worse experiences, and live to talk about it. Thank you for this Talk.

[lesleyvalencia]

I cant imagine how heartbreaking it must be to lose your mother and your husband at such a young age, what a strong and brave woman.

[CherieDeDieu]

Really trying to be mentally strong to beat depression and suicidal ideation. I must fight; I cannot give up. This helped a lot. Thanks.

[madison]

"no matter how much you've suffered, you aren't doomed to keep suffering" 
that one really hit hard

[duyxuanhanguyen]

3 ways to develope a strong mental mindset:
- remove unhealthy habits
- stop jealousy on others’ success
- accept that life is unfair

[tanayadum]

Except that you're your own person, and other people are seperate from you, the only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday❣️
The best line.

[_yoreaper_]

u can hear her pain in her voice but still a strong woman respect.

[NA-dfwh]

“THE ONLY PERSON YOU SHOULD COMPARE YOURSELF TO IS THE PERSON YOU WERE YESTERDAY”

[jelenadaljev]

I just wanted to come here almost 5 years later to say: THANK YOU, AMY!!!! I watched many talks, read tons of books and listened to many podcasts, but this particular speech saved me and cured my addiction! Your story and perspective touched my soul ❤❤ Thank you

[solosamurai]

When you look at her eyes it really shows that she has been through a lot but she is not broken.

God blessed her with resilience. She is a strong woman.

Probably the goomiest Ted talk I ever watched but one of the most impactful.

Thank you for this video.

[amirasamy]

"The only person you should compare yourself to is the person that you were yesterday."

[AmaraAnigbo]

"The only person I should compare myself to is the person I was yesterday." A WORD!

[kylie]

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” Prolly one of the most important things anyone has ever told me

[IamHildab]

She is so brave, just talking about this whole without collapsing in tear. There is always hope in life no matter what we are going through

[getfastcashforkeys]

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions thoughts and behaviors in the ways that set them up for success in life check out these things that mentally strong people don't do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

1. They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves.
Mentally strong people don't sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn't always easy or Fair.

2. They don't give away their power.
They don't allow others to control them and they don't give someone else power over them. They don't say things like "my boss make me feel bad" because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

3. They don't shy away from change.
Mentally strong people don't try to avoid change. Instead they welcome positive change in are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They don't waste energy on things they can't control.
Did you hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams?! But Instead these people focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes the only thing that they control is their attitude.

5. They don't worry about pleasing everyone.
Mentally strong people recognize that they don't need to please everyone all the time. They are not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair but can handle other people being upset if they didn't make them happy.

6. They don't fear taken calculated risk.
They don't take reckless or a foolish risk but don't mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time waiting their risk and benefits before making a big decision and they are fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

7. They don't dwell on the past.
Mentally strong people don't waste time and dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They aknowledge their past and can say what they've learned from it. However they don't constantly relieve bad experiences or fantasize about the Glory Days. Instead they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They don't make the same mistakes over and over.
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result they don't keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They don't resent other people's success.
Mentally strong people can't appreciate and celebrate people's success in life. They don't grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead they recognize that success comes with hard work and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They don't give up after the first failure.
Mentally strong people don't view failures as a reason to give up. Instead they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They don't fear alone time.
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don't fear silence. They aren't afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoyed their own company and aren't depend on other for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They don't feel the world owns them anything.
Mentally strong people don't feel entitled to things in life. They weren't born with a mentality that others will take care of them or that the word must give them something. Instead they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

13. They don't expect immediate results.
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground mentally strong people don't expect immediate results. Instead they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

[richsayed]

She's been through a lot. I hear the grief in her voice. God give you the peace of mind that passes all understanding..

[EditsByShobhit]

This was such an eye opener. I was complaining about my problems just a few mins before this video. This helped gain so much perspective. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge. Hope you're doing well :)

[sindra]

I watched halfway through this video and her words really inspired me. I realized that it’s unhealthy how I’ haven’t talked to my boyfriend about how toxic our relationship has gotten lately, and it’s been so hard on me. So I paused the video and sent him a text and we finally talked about it, after almost a month of me overthinking this everyday. We broke up. And while that’s sad, it’s also liberating. Because now I can finally move on. Thank you so much for this video and for your words, they really helped me 🙏🙏 also sending big hugs to anyone that’s going through a rough time right now <3