How To Respond To Rude Comments

You want to sound more assertive. But you’re not sure what to say or how to say it.

In this episode, I’m revealing 3 ways to respond to rude comments. Plus, I’m sharing a few common mistakes to avoid that can make these interactions worse instead of better.

You can turn a potentially negative encounter into a constructive one. I’ll show you how in this episode.

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[PippaAT]

My dear late Father used to say, "Are you naturally unpleasant, or do you get up early to practise?"

[dominiqueracanelli]

When people say nice things to us, we normally say “Thank you”. When people make rude comments, I say very calmly, “ No, thank you. I didn’t deserve that”. That normally ends it there.

[pageremick]

Jefferson, I am a caregiver to my husband who ia a narcissist and had a stroke. I hope that sets the scene. He shot off a mean comment to me today and I remembered your suggestion of 'Was that meant to hurt me?' I walked over to him, looked right at him for a moment and then asked the question. He didn't respond. I asked again if his comment was meant to hurt me. He quietly said, 'No, I'm sorry'. WHAT A BREAKTHROUGH! Thanks!

[rositaeskandari]

Being rude is a weakness.
A wise man said once” knowledge gives you wisdom, but character gives you respect.”

[Mercia-zi]

Jealousy is the main course of people that is rude to you.for no reason

[canoedoc]

My favorite response is to quietly ask them "what would motivate you to say that"? This accomplishes three things. It lets them know you are not taking the bait, it instantly turns the spotlight on them, and it exposes their rude behavior for exactly what it is.

[rosehenninger]

A guy on the bus said to me, "I heard that you're a little crazy." I said, " It's better than being stupid." Everybody laughed. He was very polite, after that.

[ita]

Unfortunately, I have to deal with an extremely rude and narcissistic person on a regular basis. Every time I tried to challenge her, it came across as defensive she knew it got to me. One day, she made one of her nasty comments and tried correcting me on a minor point in front of everyone. I ignored her, and at first, nothing happened....until she repeated herself. The more she repeated herself and was met with silence the more foolish and petty she looked in front of everyone else. I'm a new subscriber.and this is a great channel 😃

[aprilhunter]

Roddy Piper would say to rude, abusive comments: "I'm sorry someone hurt you so badly. I hope your life gets better." Hurt people hurt people.

[gege]

I love the disturbing silence that comes after not answering a rude comment. :))

[martyprivate]

I once had a man make a very abusive and accusatory comment directed at me in front of my friends. My response to him was can you repeat that? With everyone looking at him to say it again, It shut him up right away.

[littlemissy]

The problem with ignoring it is that it will be taken as ok to continue the behavior.

[robertavernon]

A sister-in-law sent a group text with a link adding that I might be offended so I might not want to read it. I paused, channeled Jefferson, hopefully, and replied to all “why would you send something you think is offensive?”

[tammywynette]

I don’t give them the time of day SILENCE IS GOLDEN. I have no desire to raise grown mean people

[john_rucks]

I enjoy asking people to repeat the rude comment as if I missed it. And when they do, I kindly ask them to repeat themselves again. Most people do not enjoy repeating themselves and every single individual I've tried it on became even more agitated. The rude comment/joke loses its power the more times repeated.

[amyemerson]

Could you make a video about standing up for yourself to your boss, or someone of higher ranking, at work? The battle between assertiveness and fear of getting fired is real!

[chosenpurpose]

If someone said to me, “I’m glad you finally showed up”, I would just say, “me too”. 😂

[suzannewhitaker]

southern response: Well, bless your heart!

[Chopsyochops]

I once had some short guy at work try to bring me down in front of a group because I was sitting higher up in the platform than everyone else because it’s comfortable as I’m very tall. He said “look at you sitting up there trying to be above everyone else”. I burst out laughing and replied “well what do you expect? I am a queen! Would you like to kiss my royal boots?” as put my leg out towards him and flipped my hair. He went bright red and never tried to embarrass me again. The rest of the room laughed at him and me.

[LaSpastica]

My therapist recommended your channel to me. I’m trying to be more assertive without becoming aggressive. I like your suggestions.