Power Phrases for Responding to Rude Bosses | Insults at Work | Passive-Aggressive Co-Workers

Are you looking for power phrases for responding to rude bosses? In this free online communication training video, communication coach Dan O'Connor gives you the right words for that horrible boss or insulting superviser--and sometimes even passive aggressive coworkers.
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-How to be seen as the competent professional you know yourself to be
-How to approach your job with confidence and earn the respect of coworkers
-Job interview skills
-How to deliver bad news to a customer
-Communication Skills for Leaders
And many many more

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[TheWizardOfWords]

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[chacha]

My boss showed attitude to me, he was extremely upset because I made mistake and as if the situation is already end of the world. I felt terribly bad and offended not because of the mistake I did but because of His attitude. I cried and thought about it for about three days, well because I was hurt ofcourse. I just did not expect it… For me, no matter what the reason is even if you are holding the highest position, you do not have the right to show attitude towards to your subordinate. We all dealing in our stress at work, and it is a great challenge to remain your composure no matter what the situation is. You are the boss, the success of your projects also depends on your susbordinates. Meaning to say, if your people do not support you, you are nothing and you will never be successful in your postion. It’s okay…. At the end of the day we will all leave the workplace it is not forever…

[natasia]

Behavior and consequences. Passive aggressive comments like that in the end call into question your ability to lead. Questioning my ability to do the job you assigned me, ultimately brings in to question your ability to manage.

Miracle is a change in perception.

[sharonhainesNumberRed]

I have had bosses that would have fired me if I would have said the same phrases that you suggested. I didn’t say anything like that until I was ready to leave. One boss said, “It’s not your place to correct me.” I told her that it was my place to say what I was not willing to put up with. She disagreed, and I quit.

[christosfragias]

Tony Stark has a new job since Avengers End Game. 😀 Seriously, good video. Thanks Dan!

[mimhyln]

He talks soo rude to me and later asks if I'm angry or if I'm okay.. I remain quiet but i think I'm training him to speak to me like that. But i need a change, the right words to say without being rude

[fayleya]

Did I miss the answer? Don’t do the “I don’t appreciate that”, Do in private show that you have some ammunition, and do respond to public humiliations - but how?

[samazaidi]

I have been following you for more than 5 years and i really respect your effort and your work over all. I also follow your tips and techniques.
Love from Pakistan 💕

[TomikaKelly]

I LOVE your videos and way of thinking. The problem with responding this way is that your superior has the power to spite you though... If there are no repercussions for their behavior then your caught between a rock and a hard place.

[mzlww]

Your right I was taught to rise above but it never works. I’m getting bullied out of every single job. Every situation. By horrible and under qualified people! So I need to learn your words and use them. Because there’s always the type of person who thinks others need to earn respect

[moniquewrites]

My boss literally yells at me and talk as to me as if I’m a child.

[damiangiese-jeanson]

My boss is a micromanager from Thailand who follows me around everywhere at work and knocks things off my tray onto the floor if they are not good enough for the customer in his eyes, I don’t think saying these things will go down good 😅

[RY-fert]

Damn, where were you when I first encountered a chronically rude boss years ago?! 😂 The first red flag popped up when I (a gay man) was showing my colleagues a picture of my best friend at the time (a straight woman) to inspire an idea for a character we were creating. The boss glanced at the photo and said in the most cutting, dismissive tone: "Ugh, she's just a trophy." I was struck dumb (as was my friend when I told her all about it). Did my boss really just try and undermine an entire childhood friendship she knew nothing about based on a photo?! You better believe she did and that's not where it ended. Ten years later, I've discovered she initiated contact with this "trophy" behind my back at some point during my employment and began using her as a pawn to meddle in and manipulate my life behind the scenes. Needless to say I don't work there anymore or speak to either of them. I wonder if shutting down that first barb would've changed the course of events or just encouraged her to ransack my personal relationships and claim them as her own trophies sooner. Guess we'll never know. Great vid, but I still say: PICK YOUR BATTLES & FRIENDS WISELY & WORK FROM HOME! ✌️

[DEAH-]

During a difficult non existent orientation period, my " DON" director of nursing, with no experience continued to bully me, add extra work, be condescending and rude . Could not complete a sentence without using the F word, called me into her bosses office . They said I was sarcastic, I get easily offended, I do not socialize at work with my peers ...on and on . However, I previously educated them on several policies we needed for compliance ( which they got the blue ribbon award for ) . I WAS a manager also . I was not there to gossip, hang, abuse my phone privileges, I gave respect to some who were not worthy at all . I killed with kindness, when I should of " wrote them up " I used the moment to educate staff that barely had a certificate. I have 34 yrs, and 2 degrees from a university . I listened, said nothing . When they finished I said " ok thank you, I need to process what you just said and then discuss it later bc it is not productive to have discussions when either party is obviously angry . I do not believe that was wrong .Then she yelled at me bc " your not giving me any feedback I do not know what you are thinking " Seriously? ....I said this " again, I see you are angry, I clearly stated the importance of having civil conversation and have a goodnight ". It was 45 minutes past my clocking out, my time . Again, she told me I needed to say something, why are you not saying anything ? said this ... " I'm processing your behavior towards me, took a 1234 count ...looked right at her and said " I'm being considerate towards you so you do not get what you give " ..walked out . I heard her mumble " well that wasn't nice " I literally wanted to scream " bitch it wasn't meant to be nice " but I did not . I gracefully walked out . No return, no contact, nothing ...I do not need her for anything . She has continuously texted me with threats, called me from other phones bc I blocked her . The more I ignore her, the more Ammunition I have to validate she is a psycho . I had 3 job offers in 24 hrs ...Dan ? What is your advice on this . I burned a broken down bridge to hell and do not regret it . I am considering writing her a personal letter that has grace, has information that is helpful in her success, me being a better person . Only bc it's my character to always be kind . My friends who have held higher positions say " no, let the B burn and hang herself " I think they are right .

[marcianthomas]

Shine on Dan, thank you for spreading your light. We need ya.

[januarybaby]

I manage a restaurant and some of the other people who share responsibilities with me are very young and immature. It feels like high school at work a lot. What do you do when people are alienating you to the point of not being able to compete your job ?

[lorineilson]

There are certain situations where you gotta speak your mind no matter who is around.

[alicesrabbit]

SUBBED because of this video. You have no idea how much you've helped me.

[MediaEnslavedNation]

I feel like the video cut off halfway. You introduced and described what the advice was going to be but didn't detail it with any examples. When my bosses bully me I tend to quit the job. Bad for my resume to be sure. I need your lessons more than the average person with a shitty boss.

[maaiker]

I think there are 2 different insulting situations that deserve 2 very different responses. Had both of them happen to me in the past..learned a lot from them both.
1) Sometimes stress increases at the office and usually its the co-worker that hasn't got her shit in order who will vent her frustration with herself onto a weaker looking co-worker with whom she thinks she can get away with it. Its like the bully in middle school. Its sad really. Thats a temporary situation and calling her out on it...setting your boundries and making it clear its unprofessional and not something you will tolerate is the way to go. I can't agree with you more. Wording is key. Be strong and assertive. From experience I know that co-worker will then vent to another co-worker. In my team we had that happen...to me actually...I stood my ground and we had a close team and my other co-workers backed me up out of the blue (didn't see that one coming...ohh you guys..thanks😘🤗).. making it clear to the stressy one this behaviour will not be tolerated in our team..mess with 1 and you mess with all of us...gotta say that was effective. She moved on from me to my co-worker 1 desk over....so then I was the one to back him up against her. She recognised the pattern after that one. A bully targets a soft target...if you are strong or are strong together they will back down. Effective and 1 week later she wasn't working there anymore cause our manager had a little chat with her as well about her job performance. Its an unprofessional situation and shows a great weakness in that bitchy co-worker but the situation is usually pretty harmless...unpleasent but harmless. Also co-workers that stopped smoking or are bitches when they haven't had their morning coffee yet...it can be fixed....its harmless.
2) You are dealing with a narcissistic boss who gets off on dominating you while he attacks your selfasteem, manipulates, plays mindgames and lies....yeah thats a permanent situation...if you set your boundries...that sets a narcissist off big time...to him its you taking back control and it will make him go really really nasty...no empathy and breaking the law level of nasty. Him insulting you isn't the bug but the feature. Its tricky to spot them cause they act nice but aren't. His aim with his insults isn't stress relieve to deal with his issues....no he is purposely attacking you with the aim to break you to get you to submit to him...to think you are nothing, can't leave and must be loyal to him cause you ow everything to him....he wants you to tolerate abuse while you think there is no way out. Narcissists 1.0.1. And at the same time they can be friendly...its like the abusive boyfriend buying you something after he beat you and makes up an excuse how it was your fault. Mindgames! Only sollusion with that guy is to get the fuck out of there asap. Don't think "I can make it work, he won't get to RUN! They will take you down 100% of the time...no matter how strong you are...they are toxic. He aims to wreck you and he will if you let him. Run just run. Just look at an example in current This is not a normal thinking/feeling human. They aim to harm you to feel stronger themselves....don't let him harm you. And watch out before you confront him...confronting him will make you the enemy in their eyes and he will try to destroy you any way he can.

No one deserves to be insulted (at work). Its unprofessional, its not in your job description, its an unsafe working environment, you don't deserve it and shouldn't tolerate it either. If you don't stand up for you, who will? There is nothing wrong with thinking of your own needs first.