How to Be Direct Without Being Rude

Being direct doesn't mean being rude. Here is a quick tip to communicate more effectively so others hear you more clearly.

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[raembes]

Being direct is pretty common in Germany. It often leads to being seen as rude when doing business negotiations in foreign contries, as different cultures have other approaches. Especially in Italy and Saudi Arabia, a 10 minute smalltalk or even longer is "necessary" before coming down to actual business. I've been to negotiations quite a few times, and I've always felt uncomfortable and growing more and more impatient because of this, in our eyes, unnecessary talking - we Germans see it as time waste.

[camila]

If you have a problem asking someone that lives in the same household to bring some milk, it seems you have much bigger issues.

[TeaParty]

How to be rude without being direct is also important.

[CaptainSanchez]

Pick up some f*cking milk on the way home!

[mickadatwist]

in anglo-saxon countries there are tonns of softeners and filters people use in the name of sacred politeness. I find that nothing but alienating

[valiantvee]

"Can you pick up some milk on the way home" - Why be nice? BE DIRECT

[maikbottcher]

It is more slimy and dubious to by being indirect than to be direct, which strange people call rude. If something goes wrong, it should be said instead of guessing riddles for ages.

[jjlovecraft]

Thanks for telling me. I needed to know how to do this.

[jon_ovo]

Every time to tell people what’s really up they feel attacked even if it’s just basic stuff like cmon I’m trying to spare your feelings but most don’t deserve them feelings spared so you gotta be direct all the time I feel

[Romalvx]

A really good communication advice. It is also adaptable to many situations. Thank you!

[milkycat]

Here's how i would put it into words;
"Would you mind buying some milk while you're out?" Or "Could you pick up some milk on the way back?"

[drbonesshow]

My friend was always direct by solving all his disputes at the end of a revolver. May he RIP.

[jeremywvarietyofviewpoints]

I'm from Australia. My family were from the UK. I've just realized that my communications style is very British despite never having been to Britain. Australians tend to be more direct, less apologetic and they don't minimize things as much. If I feel very sick, like I might collapse and die, I will say 'I am a little unwell.' They'll tell me to come over anyway, and I'll come over then collapse at their place. This is also not good for communicating with doctors and nurses.

[johnburman]

A friend in USA, when on holiday there, asked me if I would take their daughters violin back to UK with me. "if it was convenient". I imagined all the issues involved and said "sorry no". I don't know if they were pissed or not, because of the politeness. I would prefer it if we had debated it a little, or if they showed disappointment.

[Mimi]

I have to learn this !


I can’t be hypocritical and I don’t have a snake character either !

I’m very direct when I speak so sometimes certain people who doesn’t know me think rude or aggressive or angry or cynic 😂😂

[johnrainsman]

I'm wondering if I sounded rude to a chef who I felt was being disrespectful to me. The day before, she and my boss had taken me to the latter's office to talk to me about a few mistakes I made. But you know what? I think she could've handled it better. It really wasn't worth a trip to the office, let alone with both women. The chef could've just spoken to me privately for a couple mistakes, someplace else, with respect and tact. I think I deserved that. She was firm, restrictive, and insensitive. She even said to my boss, "Is there anything you want to add?" Way to rub my mistakes in my face, as if I'm a criminal in an interrogation room.

And then the next day, she asked "How are you?" I replied, "With all due respect, please don't patronize me or be passive-aggressive after yesterday." Now I wasn't trying to be rude, but to be fair, her question was ridiculous. What was she thinking? That I was doing well after she treated me the day before? I guess my resentment made me say what I said. I felt disrespected by both her behavior the day prior and her "polite" question to me. I wouldn't lecture someone one day and ask how they are the next; that's rude and patronizing.

[M.E.L.T]

Actually being "rude" is being direct with a person that is too sensible. It's as simple as that.

[NarrowPath_]

The round about thing annoys me. I know too many people like that and then when you're direct and to the point they act taken a back.

[jcheat]

I'm from NJ, direct is normal here. Down South not so much. 😂

[vintagelady]

So this was in my recommendation. So does YouTube thinks I'm rude?