Become Assertive with Toxic People | Stephanie Lyn Coaching 2022

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[BCHODOSH]

Toxic people will never listen to nor understand your point of view because in their mind your wrong, your the problem, and they are always the victim. Talking with them, and trying to have a productive conversation is not going to happen. Believe me you are better off without them. Move on, and take care of yourself.

[noreenstarck]

Disengage is the key, and letting them have the last word, let them hear themselves, don't respond, no emotions .

[sanjeevbains]

Toxic People 101- Gaslighting, manipulation (guilt tripping, anger, shaming you...), not respecting your boundaries & standards

[Twinmama]

This should be taught in school, seriously. At 36, finally learning this, could of saved me a lot of pain and suffering.

[skyflowerz]

Be confident and assertive with that person. Stand your ground. Don't back down. Know you're dealing with someone toxic. Know they're trying to control you, which means they're weak, not you.

Control your emotional state. Don't show you're bothered. They could smell fear/insecurity to prey on. Be the grown-up.

Focus on HOW they're communicating, not WHAT they are saying. Don't try to convince them to see the truth or their toxic behavior. They'll never see your side. Just disengage. Focus on taking care of yourself, rather than getting hooked by their word salad/scramble.

[katefreedomincorporated]

Toxic people can be so disguised. Use your intuition to clue in to when you’re being disrespected. Don’t be bullied! 💪🏼⚡️

[cam]

Let them listen to themselves, don’t respond, don’t be overly emotional and be calm, know that the other person’s behavior has nothing to do with you

[ilikemyrealname]

When I stopped reacting and started responding calmly, I began to see the troubled people in my life for what they are.

[wolfmanmark]

I've had to learn these skills in my relationships because I've attracted toxic people. Steph is right on with her advice. I've learned this stuff in therapy. If you struggle with this, please practice her tactics, you will be empowered as you do and it feels great. Thanks Steph !

[NFSMAN]

I was too easygoing, naive, accepting, empathetic, friendy and a bit of a meek person. I'm also a Highly sensitive man, and gets easily hurt and upset about things. I was made fun of for it, being a guy who cries, gets angry, happy etc. I was called all types of names.

[terridavis-cole]

You are so right! Once I knew “who” I was and what I had to offer, my confidence level grew. I learned how to control my emotions and disengage from people who tried to “trigger” me.

[skibunny]

When I have to engage with a toxic person about a serious issue I lower my expectations for that person to a "0" and anything above that is a plus. Happy International Woman's day Stephanie, you've helped so many people!

[HelenZeegelaar]

1. Be confident
2. Control your emotional state( emotional mature)
3. Enforce boundaries.
Thank you Steph, 😊.
Did I miss one? Let me know please!!!

[rivkaruthgolan]

I was initially assertive with a toxic boss, but as I continued my boundaries weakened because he would adjust his behavior then become hypercritical the next day. It slowly broke me down. Had to leave.

[triciaw]

I'm constantly disengaging. Almost distant and letting go. Seems so many people are gaslighters, getting last word, manipulators, fighters, etc. I can go months and years cutoff with them.

[adambailey]

Expressing anything to them is a total waste of will always bring an end to itself, identify your dealing with a clown, and never associate with them again, walk away and smile, meditation is key, sit down close eyes take no thought.

[noreenstarck]

I am always too nice and kind, and my inlaws are all toxic and an angry and egotistical family . It's sad. They all fight with each other. They have no boundaries . Even the distant cousins are mean, sarcastic, angry, and sick and toxic. It's an unheqlthy group of people that are empowered by being mean . Sad.

[naturalebeing]

Wow. Confirmed exactly what came to me today. The toxic person in my life is a man I’ve been renting from, and things turned romantic which I should’ve avoided. I’m moving out this month, but I still have to deal with him regularly. I ended the romantic connection, but still have certain expectations on him that I shouldn’t. Yesterday he asked if I wanted to make dinner together, and he was going out with friends but would be back in a couple hours. I got all the stuff to make dinner and then was waiting til 8 when I decided I was going to cook for myself. I called, no answer, left a voicemail saying “let’s rain check for tomorrow night, hope you can still get yourself some food while you’re out.” Never heard back. Today I called and he picked up, I asked if he wanted to do dinner tonight, he said “maybe” and then went on to tell me last night he was out with his friends and one of them was feeding him a bunch of mushrooms (psychedelic), not to apologize for not getting back to me, but just telling me about it and laughing. I was like, “oh well then it’s good I made myself dinner instead of waiting for you.” And he just said, “yeah”. I obviously ended the romantic connection because this is not new behavior. He’s generally a very selfish and rude person. At first I looked past it because I had rose colored glasses on but when reality hit me, now all I see is how much of an asshole he is. And I mean it when I say he’s an asshole. We live in a small town and no one I’ve met likes him. He’s just got a terrible attitude and brings nothing to the table for anyone. I feel sorry for him as a 45 year old man.
Anyways, I let all his little disrespects get to me and make me so angry. And I realized today - I’m angry because I have expectations of him. I just need to stop having expectations because he obviously can’t live up to any. drop the expectations and maintain my peace. Take him as he is - an asshole and nothing will surprise me. Oh, he’s being an asshole again? Yeah of course he is. Cool, I’ll go along with my day now!

[YouilAushana]

Real recognize Real. If it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck and swims like a duck. It might be a duck. Be healthy and happy in yourself prepared to be with or without the other person. Trust your gut.

[elissetteg]

This has helped me stay sane, I take a deep breath before answering, I don’t and I have never taken anything personally, but when I come across a toxic family member(90% from my spouse’s side). I try to see them as children, because if you ever listen to them (the narcissists) they sound like are trapped in a child-like mental state, and so I simply engage with them when I want to, and I don’t let anyone dim my light. They can throw stones, cast shadows, unnecessary shade because I never want to like them! Life is too short and spending energy on folks who don’t see an issue with their horrible behavior is something I am not willing to do.
Thank you again Stephanie 😃🙏