DISMISSIVE Avoidant OR Covert Narcissist? 9 Key Differences

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In today's video, Thais Gibson shares 9 crucial differences between the avoidant attachment style (dismissive avoidant) and the covert narcissist. Watch now to find out what these 9 differences are so that you can quickly identify a dismissive avoidant from a covert narcissist as Thais provides useful tips and guidance.
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:01:14 - 7 Day Free Trial: Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
00:01:35 - What Is a Covert Narcissist?
00:02:20 - What Is a Dismissive Avoidant?
00:03:40 - Inner World vs Outer World
00:05:10 - Inflated Sense of Self
00:08:24 - IAT Promo
00:09:17 - Arrogance
00:11:22 - Entitlement
00:13:15 - Craving Attention
00:14:46 - Does Not Admit Fault
00:18:10 - Preoccupation with Power and Status
00:19:00 - Words of Advice
00:19:53 - Conclusion

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[mmaidofsteel]

Absolutely spot on. I can totally relate to this with both a family member and an ex-partner. Another key thing with the covert narcissist is this almost manic, desperate energy they give off when they're not getting supply from you or you are (in their eyes) 'winning'. Just watch their facial expressions; they can look quite demented.

[PrettyTasha-kq]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[SirBLM]

Oh crud. I thought I'd ruled my wife out of this as *just* a DA, but several boxes are getting checked here.

[sifublack]

Another fantastic video detailing narcissists vs insecure attachments. Once again, this confirms most people use it as a buzz word and have no idea what a true narcissist actually is. I'd like to see a video on the differences between the Anxious and a narcissist. I can then see if I'm right or wrong in assessing my ex and concluding she was half and half.

[StKrane]

Thank you so much!
I grew up in a narcissistic family and am now dating someone with strong DA tendencies.
Breathing much more easily now for sure.

[robbo]

Very interesting! Nice to see a video properly differentiating narcissism from selfishness

[candicelondon-hessert]

Most useful video of yours! Please share more about avoidants. And how to make them more comfortable and safe. My CN is in the rear view mirror… I loved your list. You’re 9 for 9 on the difference between the two, in my experience!!!

[Jaguarsnake]

Exactly! She SAYS she's better than people

[sadiqua]

Spot on, my ex grew up in an environment where it seems everyone operated on their own. Which is odd since his family immigrated here and were in a one bedroom apartment which he lives in alone now. 2 adult couples, mother/farher, and his aunt/uncle and older brother. I remember asking him if the living room was used as a bedroom and he said they hadn’t even thought to do that, they were ALL in the bedroom. Later a cousin and their spouse also moved in for a time, then his father was kicked out due to him secretly bringing his mistress to America as well with their child. Chaos. He also told me that him and his brother fighting was entertainment at times, and they used to fight all the time when they were little. Now they are best friends though. A year of dating and he never introduced me to his family but he sent his brothers contact info so I could ask him about real estate. I asked if he told his brother we were dating and he said no. That hurt. Not sure if it’s true. I got the sense he often tried to minimize how much he cared for me. He pushed me away, but when I wanted to end the relationship multiple times acted butt hurt and would convince me to stay BUT would still be distant and not prioritize spending quality time together. After he ended things after a pregnancy scare, he ghosted for 2 weeks then finally responded to me, and was super friendly. I went to his house and saw he had mirrored me by buying a new bed and night tables, and sofa. His place went from frat boy to adult man. His main issue was not feeling good enough financially, and was unable to talk things out with me. A pregnancy is scary if you feel you don’t have your life set up. What made me mad and sad was early on he eluded to what our mixed child would look like. He worked like mad all throughout the relationship, it’s like he was in a race to get to a level to be the guy he felt I should have.

[Jaguarsnake]

I don't understand how anyone ever gets away from a narcissist. I used to hear these webinars and think how bad it must be to know a narc. I didn't realize i was living w text book narc til this week. I feel in shock. Literally.

[garyforbes]

even after listening to this, I think my ex had characteristics of both.

[milesmatulionis]

That was so awesome, thank you for that video!

[Jaguarsnake]

Yes, she's definitely different towards the world. She tells me no one would ever believe me if i told what happens. It's the truth. She says only her mom and i know this "side" of her

[ladyb]

I think the best thing to do is to assume covert & act accordingly...spiritual zombies...

[gergialiv]

If you don’t know the difference don’t go dating, educate yourselves first

[Jaguarsnake]

Entitlement: "THAT should have been me! I'm way better than she is. She's always had an easy life and i had to come a long way to get what i have."

[hilarysell]

Very good video really insightful! With hitting is the points that you did about covert narcissist that that's exactly what the person I ended up being in a situationship with. That might actually explain why it also ended up being a situationship.
I would really like so if you could do some video work on attachment that have had later in life trauma and that's where they're attachment issues stem from.

[nickus]

The main difference between the two is in intend. However, behaviours are narcissistic in nature and damaging for the other side regardless if it is avoidant or a narcissist.

[Jaguarsnake]

Most narcissists are very successful. It takes not caring and disregard to stomp on others while clawing to the top.