Are you dating a narcissist or dismissive avoidant?

Differences between narcissists and dismissive avoidant #narcissism #narcissistic #narcissist

[rosec]

From experience, run from both.
Both bring misery.

[rambojohnj.]

The DA is passive aggressive, won’t let you know anything is wrong, then *POOF* one day they’re done.

[hurricaneaquatics]

As she said, DA or Narc, doesn't really matter in the end. They can't love or show love, they have zero empathy, and neither cares about your wellbeing or your desires and feelings. Any questions? Either is a dead end street that ends with hurting you, not them.

[speciallion]

Ive been single for a while, I mean, it’s working out & going ok. I think I am the one.

[anneyoung]

Thanks, Danielle. "Both are extremely selfish, and both are extremely emotionally stunted."
Not dating anyone, but especially not willing to date either type! I am very attracted to healthy, assertive, humble, godly men. Oops, ...and yay!

[annekenney]

Very true. I didn't know the terms at the time, but I once had a boyfriend who would ghost me when I would bring up a problem with our relationship. I just thought he was hurt because he was an anxious person who had a bad childhood, and who didn't know how to process any conflict. I tried to be empathetic with him and see it from his perspective. But, the issues were never fixed. In the end I realized that he was punishing me to train me to take his B.S.

[JacobCarlson-uqmy]

JUST RUN hahaha:)
That was funny the way you said that.:)

[heroldjaras]

even dating has risks, i mean a narcissist could show himself as a good person until you get married, then he/she starts to show why he/she is a narcissist. i wouldnt get married if im being honest, then i dont have to ask myself it the other person is a narcissist or not. i mean i get it, you want someone to love, to trust. but love can hurt you or destroy your life. if you pick a mate, pick good, or you will suffer.

[JacobCarlson-uqmy]

Im guessing the one i delt with was at the minimum a combination but thats a big minimum question still.
Bless their heart.

[kikijewell]

Thank you for this. Ive been unclear about my ex, and he may be dismissive avoidant more than narcissist. He really just couldnt deal. But he was also unhappy when i was successful.

I'm glad he's gone.
Now to rebuild who I am.

[emanuelmakonnen]

It’s better to open up and be vulnerable then stay closed off. One life. Pray to The Lord for strength and help in the process.

[JacobCarlson-uqmy]

Ok I rethought it, definitely a narcissist.
Glad I'm away from those people & finally came to the realization that it was an allusion and that I don't need people like that in this very short life.

[Ikaros]

The dismissiv avoidant is also a waste of time= end the relationship

The narcissist= Totaly toxic

[JacobCarlson-uqmy]

I hope you know how important you are to me.
Thank you thank you thank you kind hearted Beautiful woman!
Happy new year!!!!

[satyajeetpatnaik]

Regardless of dating a narcissist or DA, they both dont have sense of self awareness and empathy. They have spoiled versions of themselves one with ego and the other with no accountibilty. I have been ghosted by my partner who is so immature and acts like she is only getting hurt for everything. This is blame shifting and she is verbally abusive too. Now m in no contact. It hurts bcoz I was so attached and now i regret for the same. I am no longer entertaining her back. But when u love some1 for real, its not that easy to act like u dont care but u end up being the only one getting hurt so deep.

[dancorson]

They are never wrong and they paint an awful picture of you so then naturally you suggest maybe you ought to part ways but they then act shocked that you would consider such a thing.

[johnmaurer]

I'm gonna die alone, surrounded by 30 Cat's.

[tarkov]

So tired of people defending their actions and trying to justify that is even matters in the end.

[naowright]

My family has called my husband a narcissist, but there are a few reasons I do not believe he is. He is not controlling about food or money(like his father). He does not put words in my mouth(like his sister). When I make a small mistake, he just shrugs it off and lets it go. He does not create drama when we go places, but he does give me a lecture after we have been there(mostly when my family is involved). I am thinking he is a dismissive avoidant. He avoids conflict at all cost and when I bring up problems in our relationship I cannot get it half out without him going into defensive mode and making it all my fault. He seems act like the old childish saying about a stench, "He who smelt it dealt it."

[JustmrEllison]

Very informative snd concise. Would that apso apply to disorganized avoidants?