'He STILL Won't Commit . . . Should I Walk Away?' | Matthew Hussey

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[Eebydeeby]

STOP being an option for people. If they don’t prioritize you, walk away. That’s the ONLY thing that will make them value you.

[the_specialista]

I remember I used to watch all these videos because I was in a relationship where I was always asking myself questions such as "Does he really love me?" or "Where is this going?" Now that I'm free, I've realized that love and relationships are no science, they're so simple. If someone loves you he/she will want to make you know and be with you (if he or she is in another relationship and you're thinking it's not that simple: he/she will never leave that person for you bcs he/she is a player). If you're asking yourself too many questions about the relationship you're in ... That's not your person. Free yourself and make room to your happiness and someone who will let you know how he/she feels about you. Someone "real"

[johndonaldson]

_"Why can't he let me go..."_

*that's the wrong question..the right question is: **_"Why won't I let him go..."_*

[MYVloliDiruJP]

“Your confusion is not my problem” best thing to tell them

[Malin]

Always walk away if you want to commit, but he is not ready. Wasted 3 years on a man that told me to be patient, that he needed time. He crushed me. I was just a option for him if something else did not work out. I have ran into him now recently and it’s funny how a crush on someone makes you blind. I learned my lesson and is now extremely happy and content. That one man is not all there is.

[kajalkukreja]

This line was so strong...He doesn't feel the true consequences of letting you go because you are not going...that was so damn true..and even that train on platform..perfect example. Great advice 👍👍👍👍👍👍

[amberyouth]

"If he comes back to you and says 'I miss you...' BORING! If he comes back to you and says 'I'm thinking of you...' BORING!" Matt, you are brilliant. Thank you for teaching us what we deserve, and for reminding us what proper love and standards are.

[kramerkised]

" it's your business to protect yourself" - Amen.

[smith]

8:54 My husband (boyfriend of 6 months at the time) started feeling scared that he was in love with me. We worked for the same company and one day, with no explanation as to why, he pulled me into a conference room and said he had asked for a transfer to another state and received it.

Without thinking about it, I told him I hoped the job would work out well for him, that I deeply cared for him, but I didn’t do long distance relationships…so, good luck.

His mouth literally fell open and he said, “What?” I reiterated my feelings, again wished him luck, and left the conference room. I was devastated!

A few days later, he called me and said he had canceled the transfer, explained why he asked to transfer, and said asked to continue dating.

That was 32 years ago, so I do not remember how much time passed, but he later told me my self-respect (my refusal to wait around for him) made him wake up and realize he didn’t want to run away from his feelings. ❤

[oceansoflorewi]

As a gay man whos treated the exact same way by fickle wish washy gay men- I truly sympathize with women. Its brutal enough for me- I can't imagine what goes through a woman's mind when these games are played. In the end I'm just done being an ego boost. The best thing you can do is corner them and get them to act - either way its going to feel great because you don't have to fill the blanks anymore.

[lizzierose]

If he tells you he's not ready, believe him the 1st time. He's not going to marry you sweetheart. Your a beautiful girl, find someone who will.

[Kudi]

This is such great advice, especially the part where he says 'it doesn't matter what his reasons are', fact is he doesn't want to be with you. That hit home.

[jackiearroyo]

In almost the same situation right now. He isn't married but got out of a relationship about 3 weeks before we met. I put my foot down. Told him to go heal and when he is ready to contact me. Maybe I'll be single. He came back 2 days later asking to be "friends". Then he said he wasn't available "at all the whole weekend."
SERIOUSLY!! No. I responded with: I'm open to date you, you are open to seeing each other here and there. I want consistency and communication. I want someone who is 100% in with me. I want someone who really know what he wants and who respects n values me.
Deleted his contact. I'm on day 3.

[sadiaali]

Indeed so. Love is a commitment to protecting another person's heart with the same passion you use to guard your own.

[grumpyschnauzer]

This game doesn’t just happen at the dating stage either… this “cold feet” or “hesitation” phase can happen at any time. Especially if not married, it can happen at the buying a house phase, having kids phase, moving in together phase, etc. anytime the relationship is moving forward.

[sanjanasuresh]

This is a classic case of 'situationship'. I was in a similar situation about 1 year ago and I stuck around for 6 months till it started getting toxic in the end.

From my experience, the longer we stay in the situation, the less likely that the other person would actually commit.

[julieradcliffe]

I was just like this girl hoping for more. He would not commit. He came up with excuses after 7 months! I am so pleased I valued myself enough to walk away. I do deserve so much more. We all do 💜❤ life is precious.

[dreaming_of_that_mbbs_mbchb]

One sentence: actions are decisions and actions speak louder than words
- if he’s ignoring you for weeks - that’s a decision he doesn’t want you
- if he won’t commit verbally that’s a decision

Actions (disappearing acts, left on read for weeks or unread, coming round for sex then disappearing, saying I’m cryptic) are decisions they are your answers walk away

[elisakabelis]

KNOW YOUR WORTH. IT CHANGES EVERYTHING

[delacoon]

I experienced the same situation and was so unhappy that I had to end it. It made me feel horrible to lose him but months after I got over the heartbreak, I asked myself: why did I want to be with someone that doesn't say yes to me? I tried so long to win his love. At one point I realized that I have anxiety of being left by a loved one because this is what I experienced as a child from my mother. I am still working through it, but maybe it helps other people: Try to understand yourself, why are you pursuing someone that is emotional unavailable and gives you unsecure love? I hope to notice my patterns in future relationships so I can react differently to it. Great video and advices, Matthew!