Why You Lose Friends

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Melissa Macedo
Michelle Macedo

shot by Eric Lombart

grip - Melissa Gasca, John Lee

sound - John Lee

edited by Timothy Hautekiet

gfx by Bethany Radloff

[imaninline]

Losing friends is hard especially when they break it off by poofing into black smoke

[PaulClipMaster]

Life gets easier when you just accept that everything about it is temporary. Including most of your relationships. I just let everything take its natural course.

[EarthwormHam]

"I'm sorry that you..." is the mark of an incoming non-apology

[LifewithMiu]

Friendship is so difficult. I‘ve had friends just leave without a word, I’ve had friends who I‘ve tried hard to keep the friendship with, friends who betrayed me. It’s an awful feeling. I really try to be a good friend. I‘ve checked up on friends randomly to see how they are. Then I realized..I was the only one doing it. And then I began to question what friendship meant...

[katnon]

Last time I was this early I still had my friends.

[NatalieWisler]

I realized a few years ago that most of the friendships I had were toxic. It was because when I was in high school I didn’t know how to speak up, and now that I’m older and found myself, I had to say goodbye to a lot of those people so I could grow. It hurts, but I feel so much better.

[JvFan-rxfl]

I dont have friendships to repair because we never talk about it...the friendships just stays friendly at the same time like a stranger to me

[rishitachakraborty]

My childhood friends might have been lost due to unfixable ruptures. But for the last few years, the friends I lost were because we just grew apart. They became busy in their lives and had different lifestyles and interests and we couldn't relate to each other anymore. There was never a fight or any hard feelings but one day the meetings stopped, texts became lesser and lesser and priorities shifted. I am still fond of those friends and the time we spent together, but can't go back to that as we are different people now. Different for the better.

[DimitrisChristeas]

Ability to apologize is KEY. I was fully ready to forgive an ex friend, provided that she actually acknowledged her pattern of toxic behaviour and apologized. Instead, she tried to gaslight me into thinking I was in some sort of mental turmoil that made me overreact. Thanks to my having been in therapy for years, it didn't work and I'm grateful for that kind of clarity and peace in my life now.

[canderia]

I haven't had friends in so long that I can't tell if I miss having them or not.

[TheArturo]

I talked to my therapist about this issue because I always thought there was something wrong with me. Until I realized that there isn't, it's normal. And I think that there are relationships that evolve and mature like fine wine and others that simply don't, and it's fine. Thank you for the message, Anna.

[Plaf__]

I ended a friendship that was actually 3 people at the same time and I still feel bad for how I left, but at the same time those friendships were actually toxic. Still feel bad...

[bleepbloop]

I lost many friends after i stopped reaching out to see if they would contact me first it turns out I always had to be the initiator in order to keep the relationship going and without that person who organized everyone the flakiness just ended with many drifting apart so its probably for the better

[DaedNevar]

as someone who's spent their early 20's just gaining and losing/leaving friend groups every year, this one hit home and broke a window

[sheentheexplorer]

For someone who is not confrontational like me, talking to a friend about what they did wrong is terrifying

[Connectingthedots.]

Sometimes you need to make space for the new to come in 🙂

The more you are YOU, the more the "friends" who didn't truly resonate with you, start to leave. And that is OK. You will start attracting friends who love you for you, (the real you).
💓

[iralovescookies]

this is getting really creepy. how do you upload videos SO EXTREMELY RELEVANT to my life at literally the exact moment that i need to hear the lessons you’re trying to teach?? are you in my room anna? do you have cameras installed here? How are you doing this

[aliibilli]

all my friendship ruptures just made me realize that I can't rely on others. It made me feel like I had to keep the communication low and things surface level so that there's no conflict.

[swtm]

I had a friend who didn’t put in effort in maintaining the friendship, it was always me reaching out. Eventually, I just gave up and she never reached out either. I don’t regret this one bit, like you said Anna, its a weed out process!

[mandilu]

0:19 "Forgive and forget cause God" AHAHAHA